My partner wants us to text dirty stuff to each other but I don’t know where to start: I’m so up for this but advice greatly appreciated
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@natbabez
Omg this takes me back as this is how me and my husband found our new sex life years ago
As you text be honest - start as follows
If you could do anything what would you like me to do sexually
I hope he also asks you the same question
Remember- be honest and nothing is off the table
It may be easier (not compulsory) to be a bit merry and without distraction
Ps … welcome to the club 
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@natbabez for me, the main thing is to not overthink it. If a guy is really into you, almost anything you msg will be received well.
My wife and I lived in different cities when we were first getting together. We did a lot of sexy texting, but it really didn’t matter what she wrote.
For me though, I preferred if she was telling the truth, and not writing things just to impress. If she said she was touching herself, but actually wasn’t …
… well, what’s the point in that?
Just try to have fun with it.
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We love sexting such a huge turn on @batjamboree
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My husband and I have turned sexting into an art form. We’ve mastered the art of sending cheeky messages that get us both in the mood. It’s like a playful game of words that adds an extra dose of excitement to our day. Who needs emojis when you can use suggestive puns and witty innuendos? Texting has become our secret weapon for keeping the passion alive, one message at a time.
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If you are new to sexting, take a look on Google. There are some intersting sites that really point out the do’s and dont’s of getting it right.
If you are in a new relationship then take it slow, dont jump in first text and be as graphic as hell. Just take it slow and build up the other persons desire so that every text is a little steamier than the last one.
This is also true of people in longstanding relationships, but they are both going to be at a level where they feel comfortable with each other and therefore the sexting may be raunchier quicker.
You’ll probably know when you’re doing it right because you will be turned on yourself while youre doing it.
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It’s always nice finding an old thread that needs bumped up in case anyone needs to see it!!!
Sexting is great fun and I’ve always found it’s something that seems to happen naturally rather than be planned although sometimes it’s nice to light a wee flame and see where it takes you! A random message about something nice you’ve done that you remember or maybe replying to something normal with something sexy is good - like when they ask what you are doing reply with just dreaming about the other night when you dressed up sexy or just doing the washing and found your sexy underwear and see how they respond! As others have said, don’t go too hard too fast so to speak and you’ll find it takes it’s natural course and before you know it, you are texting very intimate details of what you were doing or would like to do - or getting told not to mix the darks with the whites in the wash!!! The other one I liked is texting a subtle compliment to them too! The only tip is watching your spelling as you shake with excitement!!! 
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It’s a daily part of my relationship now or we often send Dirty suggestive Memes, which is great 
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OH loves dirty talk and is VERY filthy with it.
The most memorable is-
“I want my c*** ruining and I want your cock to do it”
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I love sexting and roleplaying, my husband doesn’t so much and I do feel like he’s missing a trick. For my husband, sex is kind of something couples just do, they don’t talk about it - he will talk about it (because he knows that’s important) but he doesn’t really enjoy talking about it. I’m polyamorous and kind of involved with someone at the moment and we’re far more open. It’s quite refreshing to be able to talk about sex with someone who doesn’t see sex as “naughty”, yet at the same time, it does highlight the issue and challenge me to work towards tackling my husband’s views on sex and pleasure.
Just tell her what you want her to do to you/for you. She can only say no 
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@marbles1 that was something that cropped up - the use of language and words - it occurred to me that some folk are a bit funny with some words being used - I love it personally as it adds to the moment so we did chat about what words were best for her rather than just saying ‘I licked you down there’ could actually mention pussy but not the c-bomb although that does add some spice to a message!! 
OH doesn’t hold back at all. We’ve not really got an agreed list and she’ll just go for it and doesn’t hold back.
Absolute filth sometimes and very coarse, often in a self-deprecating way.
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We don’t talk dirty during sex, my reasons are given earlier in this topic. Doesn’t mean to say that I don’t use dirty words when I get angry, normally after getting cut up on the roads or when some one does something really stupid then I have been known to call them twats, dickheads stupid c***ts to name a few choice words.
Isn’t that just swearing at people though? 
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Yep. But it’s anger that brings it out not feeling sexy. If I am feeling sexy in the throes of passion I am more likely to shout oh my God or fuck but that’s about it.
It started when I lightly spanked her. When I heard her response I spanked her harder. Then I asked her if she wanted more. From then onwards dirty talk is part of our regular sex.
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@user763 I used to swear like a trooper when I was angry, I tried to curb my temper though because I realised it’s not a good look. I do have aome choice words foe my husband if he dares to edge me though. That’s just playing with fire 
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