I'm asking this as I saw on a forum that post-menopausal women's clitoris's and vulvas are much more delicate, and drier, than those of younger women, and the skin is much thinner, so they should take great care not to damage the delicate tissues when using a vibrator.
This has got me thinking: has any research been done to ensure the safety of vibrators for older women, or are they aimed solely at the young?
Hi Sally. Not sure about the research but I'm sure the LH experts would make it known to any ladies buying them. But what I can say is that my lovely better half (who's the big 5-0 soon!) has no problems with vibrational sex toys. Also I know that quite a few women she has worked with are between 50-60 and use/have Bern using them for years with great success! (so I hear!) Maybe lubricant would help with dryness at all ages.
Vibrators are for everybody young and older! :)
SG
Agree with SG shouldnt be an issue but lube would be advisable - not just for the over 50s
xGGx
other than lubricant just take it steady and don't do anything that you know to be painful or will hurt you (which is the same for anyone really)
maybe a bullet vibrator that you can move easily would be preferable if you are concerned, but any type should be fine
I've heard of dryness in older ladies too, but use some water-base lub helps! I've too heard older ladies can have better orgasms!
Perhaps I've been lucky - as a fairly recently single again lady closer to 60 than 50 - I'm determined to "use it so I don't lose it" and don't have a problem at all
I use Durex "Tingle" sometimes just for fun - but certainly don't need to - so long as I'm in the mood
Oh - and the "O"s are still OK - but sadly in my opinion nowhere near as good as the real thing!!
Thanks for your replies!
InFrance, it's good to hear from you with your reassurance as I'm 56.
Im very inexperienced sexually, having only ever had sex with my husband of 28 years, and we've never been very adventurous. All I've ever managed with reaching orgasm is a little tingle and maybe a little throbbing - nothing mind-blowing!
It's become my mission to have a proper O at least once before I die, and as I've given up all hope of having one with my husband who's just about lost interest, I'm trying vibrators. Still not much luck, even with orgasm-enhancing gels, but I'm still trying.
I heard of an older lady who damaged herself just using her hand, and said that we should beware of vibrators, which is what worried me.
Sally, I'm a few years ahead of you and 'O's still work fine, you need to practise, lube is the secret and being a little selective about the size of the toys you use. I find an aloe verae based gel works best for me
Hands unfortunately have fingernails and sometimes these can catch or scratch our tender bits
PJ
That's true!
My Tingle Tip should be arriving soon...fingers crossed ...
Many women will notice a loss of libido in the advent of their menopause, which generally takes place between 45 and 55 years of age.
"This is because the body stops producing as much oestrogen, which plays a large part in our sex drive.
"But contrary to popular belief, men can be much the same.
"Men reach their sexual peak in their late 20s/early 30s and thereafter their testosterone levels begin to drop – albeit at a slower rate than women’s oestrogen levels do.
"This loss of testosterone can lead to all manner of sexually off-putting problems, including tiredness and mood swings.