Over the last couple of years, my wife and I have developed an erotic hobby, and would like some feedback, advice and tips from others on the subject.
Sorry for the long post. It feels like it needs some explaining because it seems like we have stumbled on a fairly niche pastime - and we don’t know why more people aren’t doing it. Or maybe you are…
After registering and then making friends on a porn site, we got to exchanging messages (now emails) with a couple who are of a similar age, and share the same broad-minded attitude to sex - although they are more experienced and willing to physically involve third, fourth and more people in their relationship (which we are not).
Basically, we swap intimate details about our sex lives with them, and it’s honest, no-holds-barred stuff. This generates useful new ideas, but the main reason for it is it is so erotic to get such a privileged and comprehensive insight into somebody else’s real sex life. And at least as enjoyable as hearing about what they do is telling them everything we do and think about sex. It’s also horny to have a positive and creative influence over somebody else’s sex lives, without any physical interaction being necessary.
As well as messages, we have already exchanged a few pictures and short videos, and we involve them in fantasies (providing us with specific people with real names to include in group sex and other kinky scenarios, including some bisexual fantasies).
In the past we have done a bit of exhibitionism - partly for the pure thrill, but also because we got to thinking that although we had/have a great sex life, nobody in the world knows about it, and that was a shame. It’s a bit like the scenario of the falling tree making no noise if nobody is in the forest to hear it. So we saw exhibitionism as a kind of affirmation and celebration, and our pen pal hobby provides a similar pleasure.
Anyway: we would like to know of other couples (or even individuals) who have this kind of pen pal, and, if so, how the relationship came about, how you interact, and any experiences you have that could help us to develop it further. Or (even if you don’t have experience) do you have ideas for adding to the fun?
We would like to have the same relationship with a second couple, but it would be much easier to use a more direct route or specific website to help us find them (if there is such a thing), rather than having to filter out people on swingers’ and porn sites. They usually assume you are there for any other reason than the actual one, and rarely get the point.
Just to be clear: we don’t intend or expect to ever meet other couples. We are not swingers, but just want to find more people who are keen to talk dirty (but constructively) and swap genuine ideas.
PS We don’t need advice on security. We take all the necessary precautions, and we don’t actually know where the other couple live (apart from it’s in the UK), and vice-versa.
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