I spy, with my little eye, something beginning withā¦ C! Thatās right - itās time for another forum confession 
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From my previous experience, being cheated on isnāt nice. The fundamentals of any relationship or marriage are built on trust; without it, you have nothing. Iām not telling you what to do, but the least your wife deserves is to know. I wish you the very best of luck 
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I have to agree with @Stacy2.
The chats more-so than the photos, though I wouldnāt be ok with either.
Youāre getting something from it that you obviously crave, why not share that with your wife and enjoy it together? Otherwise, you are cheating. Anything outside of agreed boundaries is deceitful and potentially hurtful to your wife.
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My husband did this to me once and I was devastated: Iād always been faithful and honest, and for what? I felt sick, I couldnāt look at him - I felt frightened, confused and alone.
He was coping with low self-esteem, so for him, the validation was the win. What made it so hard though was Iād been talking him through some helpful therapy handouts only hours before.
Talk to your wife about what you do and why. You clearly crave something, let her be the one to give it to you.
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I think if your wife knew about it then it would be ok, but without her knowing it would feel like being cheated on.
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I feel like this isnāt going the way the original secret confessor expected it to.
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Not something that is good,if your wife doesnāt know about it, I have experience in something like this with a past partner, itās horrible to know that this is what she was getting up to. Please give it up.
Again probably isnāt good to be doing this, I would like to make a suggestion how about getting your wife involved in the posting of the images, you could take them and she could be the admin posting them on whatever website.
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I may not speak for Miss Breanna but per the wording of her post kicking the sexy confession corner open, it fits.
From Miss Breannaās post, she said:
āGot something juicy, awkward, or maybe just something youāve always wondered about?
Just flag this post as āSomething Elseā and send in your confession.ā
That is completely wide open as ājuicy, awkwardā allows for a wide range of things to be included.
I doubt Miss Breanna had a narrow range of thoughts or ideas about what said confessions may be about that would be submitted.
They just had to comply with the sites rules, which she also mentioned in her post kicking this off.
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With the never ending panoply of forums, Tumbler and ChatRoom sites posting things can become a land mine where relationships are concerened. The same goes for the hordes of new relationship identies.
The question maybe to ask is what is the fallout of discovery if your partner is unaware. If your thought is āI donāt know how Iād explain it.ā better left alone.
Iāve found The hardest come backs in a relationship are actions not shared or discussed, not attempting to get needs met by your partner before venturing out and not being fortright.
My feeling is consider gratifcation vs relationship strength. I try to only seek gratifcation(s) that will not harm my relationships.
Just my thoughts.
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The confession wasnāt against the rules of Brennaās post, if there even were any rules - iām sheāll make sure thereās nothing illegal. But apart from that the confession fits the post.
That doesnāt mean people wonāt have an opinion about it and give their opinion. The OP in this case is the anonymous poster, not Brenna.
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I completely agree. When my husband went online behind my back, what hurt most was that he didnāt want me doing the same thing, so it felt unfair. Same when my poly ex tried to meet someone else behind my back - I hadnāt met anyone else because I thought we were being faithful to one another. What hurts most sometimes is not the deceit; itās the inequality.
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