I've just recieved a message from a friend asking for advice that I couldn't give to her. It made me feel bad, so I'm asking you lovely lot!
Basically, a friend of mine has a huge thing for an ex work friend. She talks to him on Facebook every now and then and sees him socially every now and then aswell as she is still good friends with the people at her old job and often goes on the nights out. On the night out last week, she got absolutely wasted and blurted out to the guy that she "proper fancies" him. He laughed it off and that was that. On Facebook the next day, she tried to make things better but made them a lot more awkward and told him in depth what she likes about him, why, etc. She then waited for a few hours and asked him if he's got the message she had sent and said sorry for the way she's been acting. He said it's all fine and not to worry about it, but asked her if she was still single. She said yes, and he said he had to leave for work, and that was the last they talked about it.
She started a conversation with him about work the next day and just asked if certain people still worked at the company, etc and says the conversation seemed to go well and wasn't awkward at all.
She's asking now for some advice on how to talk to him and bring the conversation back around to how she is single and allow things to progress from there. She also wants to go to an event he has organised, even though he hasn't invited her but thought the conversation should go something like this:
I ws going to say smthing like "Hey Steve, I saw you're organising a karaoke night in the swans head on sunday. A few of the girls hv asked me to go but tbh i've been making excuses not to! dont wna get drunk and embarass myself again lol!!" Becuase its not too much like 'im facebook stalking you' but still a bit weird or no?
I've lost my touch a bit with men as I've been in a relationship for years and I really don't know what to tell her. I've told her to go with her gut instinct but if it was me, I probably wouldn't talk to him for at least a day or two so she doesn't come off as desperate or anything.
So, any advice I can report back?! (And no, this isn't one of those 'my friend needs advice- but really I'm the one who needs the advice and my 'friend' doesn't exist!' things!! I really am just this rubbish at advice!)
Thanks in advance :) xxx