Sum Sub wrote:
I have a tip lollipop...
my neighbours are elderly, and sometimes I offer to take their bins out for them.
There's always loads of room in their recycling bin ;)
Love it!
I expect he will probably set his own boundaries, you know him best and if he hasn't said anything yet he probably wont.
Personally I wouldn't worry, infact, I think talking to him only sets yourself up for a fall.... him knowing it's a "secret" gives him ammo incase of fall outs, whereas as it is he probably just feels embarrassed but will forget about it soon enough because it's obviously not an issue to you if you haven't said anything - if that makes sense?
Yeah that makes perfect sence jazzam and that's exactly what I was also thinking. Thanks for the help :)
He could of course be thinking its your sisters secret stash and trying to find the right time to talk to her  I agree with the others its probably innocent and if it isn't innocent its his problem not yours.
Could you not maybe talk to your
Sister about it on the quite. He may well have said something to her about it
I wouldn't worry to much I'm sure he won't be going in your bins again. He's lucky it was just boxes and not the real thing I say 😆 xx
VirginAngel wrote:
Honestly, i would advise discussing it and setting some very clear boundaries. I had a sort of similar incident, when despite having been told many times, my dad went into my bedroom wihtout permission, and there were a few packagining boxes had fallen out of the brown box they come in. He keeps bringing it up, and i found out not only did he tell my sister, but that he's also been discusing it with his girlfriend and female friends :/. I've told him enough times i don't want to talk about it and he had no right discussing my personal business with anyone, but it doesn't stop him, he discusses incredibly personal private details about my illness with all these people and other random people too :( I wish i had been firmer with him from the off, as now he's done it before he seems to think it's ok to do whenever he wants.
My step dad is exactly the same! He thinks he has a right to tell anyone he wants, he has actually said this to me. My whole family are gossipers then don't understand why I don't tell them anything! You can't change it I'm afraid, I just stop telling my family anything about my life
You could always just turn the tables and act like a prude and shout at him for filling your bin with "porn stuff" hahaha! Then he'll probably just think it was a neighbour or something.
Be grown up and realise there is no need to be embarrassed about having a sex drive.