Hi all
firstly im new to posting on here so here goes
im a happily married lady who has just turned 40 and going through early menopase my sex drive has gone through the roof im constantly horny
firstly im interested in feedback from women and men on this as it would be nice to get a mans point of view on all the points below
I have started mastrubating more in the last 10 years than i have ever done in the past my sex drive has gone through the roof where as my husbands has dropped off for this reason we purchased some sex toys for both of us and for me to ease the urge so to speak my husband works nights in the week so we only have 2 nights where we are actually sleep in bed together at the same time.
Ive started having really erotic dreams involving me and my hubby which in turn has lead to me mastrubating in my sleep twice in which i have been going at it whilst my husband was in bed with me and woke my husband up the first time my husband was shocked but joined in but wasnt pleased with me after the second time he got more turned on and we had great sex to finish off its happened again third time but i was awake before it woke my husband but i couldnt stop i was in full flow and needed to finish i felt my husband pull back the covers and for about a minute watched me i pretended i was still asleep (i was so turned on that he was watching me ) he then started to join in to which i opened my eyes we had sex then went back to sleep
is this normal for women to do this ? or is it the same as a man having a wet dream?
is it wrong that i got more turned on at the fact my husband was watching even only for a while and not realising i was awake ?
A few nights before this we was downs stairs and i started to play around i gave my husband a hand job (would have been a bj but had flu) he placed his hand around his penis and with his other got hold of my hand and then placed it on him with his hand outside my showing me how much presure and how fast he wanted me to go it was such a turn on as hes never really shown/talked about what gets him going. With this in mind and the sleep mastrubation and him watching me its left me hornier than ever and i cant get it out of my mind
Whilst my hubby was sleeping the next night and seeing my hubby naked before he got into bed i was so horny as soon as he was asleep i couldnt help myself the thought that he could wake up turned me on all the more i managed not to wake him up but the orgasim was amazing i did feel a little guilty but he wasnt in the mood and i needed to release the sexual tension .
I now cant get out of my head my hubby watching me mastrubate and getting turned on watching me the thought of him watching me and getting turned on by me is driving me crazy plus i now want to watch my hubby arouse himself
the thought of us doing that and watching each other and not rushing into sex seeing what gets each other going its driving me mad i dont know what to do as my hubby doesnt talk much about sex and if i ask him what gets him going he always says he doesnt know i want him to watch me get aroused by me take his time with me instead of quick foreplay and grabbing sex on the only two nights we are together.
questions are =
Am i normal to want my hubby to catch me pleasuring myself ?
is it normal to mastrubate in my sleep or to wake up whilst doing it and unable to stop ?
is it normal for me to be so turned on to pleasure myself whilst my hubby sleeps secretly hoping he catches me so i can watch him get turned on?
is it any different for men with wet dreams ?
do men mastrubate whilst sleeping ?
what would be a mans point of view be on the above would he be disgusted ?
would you be mad if you woke up to your oh pleasuring themselfs ?
me and my hubby have a fairly good sex life although sometimes rushed or only on certain days due to working hours even after being with my hubby for 20years i still get turned on just looking at him.which isnt bad and we both love each other dearly but when it comes to sex and what turns my hubby on hes a little gaurded and doesnt like to talk too much about it he has started to open up a little this year buying sex toys etc but rarely uses them on me himself but yet he will watch porn with women using toys, my hubby has joked that my sex drive being high is to do with going through the menopase early which i know its not its just down to men and women have different sexual peaks lol
any feedback would be great to what experiences other women have.
thanks in advance