Hi Ambitious Outsider,
I too am small busted, I'm now 32 B but for years I was A, especially through the teenage years. For most of those years I was flat. So I can related to how fun that can be at the best of times.
I've never heard a man say 'the sex was grat, but I wish her boobs were bigger' and if he does he's an idiot who needs to work through some issues. And you don't need an idiot, right?
However, I do hear men say 'I wish she was more confident.' Men find confidence and enthusiasm far hotter than we are led to believe. And thinking back, all the people who ever made me feel inadequate for my small bust, were other women.
With this is mind, if you flaunt your figure in the bedroom, he'll feel like he won the lottery.
It was a revelation to me to find out that men, far from liking me despite my breasts, actually think they're amazing. Size doesn't come into it when they're loving how perky, well shaped and flattering your petitie breasts are. Start getting big headed, you deserve an ego trip.
There are so many things petite girls can get away with that your larger boobs gal will be just of jealous of. We can wear pretty much anything, we can buy pretty bras without underwiring and our bust is the one most designers have in mind when they're creating fashion.
Don't listen to any magazines or TV that say you have 'no breasts.' That's b*llocks. You have breasts, you have small breasts and men
Padded bras can be a great way to customize your look. You get decide which day your bust is heavier and when it's not. But try to embrace the looks you get from being petite as well. On a special occasion, a dress or top, without a bra can look stunning, if you wear the right cut. Halter necks are great. You can get away with plunging tops too. There's also some great substitutes for cleavage from a bare back to showing your legs instead of your chest.
I understand why you worry about your boyfriend, but I find if a man wants to be in a relationship with someone, that's exactly the case. If he says he's happy, and you're happy, don't worry about what your insecurities tare making you think and just enjoy your relationship.
I spent years in my teenage years thinking a boob job would make me happy. But the more I began to enjoy the company of young men, the more confident I became. I realised being happy in my own skin, no matter what I looked like, was incredibly attractive.
I like to think I'm a catch, I take care of myself and I look good. However, I also know I'm not Megan Fox, thank God. Because I'm confident I've been able to walk into parties, along with women owning huge breasts, and walked out with the most desirable man in the room. It takes a while to master but fake it till you make it.
Men, just like women, are attracted to people for a variety of reasons. If they all wanted big boobs, it seems strange how many of them are lusting after Keira Knightley, Kate Hudson and a thousand other small busted women in Hollwood.
One suggestion I have, is to perhaps encourage your boyfriend to incorperate nipple play into your bedroom fun. Having someone worship your assets can help tremendously and they'll become something you connect with your sexuality, not your anxieties. There's some great toys on LoveHoney that can be used as nipple toys and the vibrations can feel amazing.
One last thing, one of the greatest feelings in a relationship is feeling that your partner is continuously choosing to be with you. Every day they're with you, it's because they want you above everyone else.
Hope that helps a bit. Enjoy your boobs!