Hey everyone, I've come to realise through comparison with others that I have quite a small clit. This is frustrating as it makes it difficult to come from sex - in fact, I've never had an orgasm from sex with men or women (though all my sexual partners to date have unfortunately been quite unadventurous). I can get off from masturbation, but it's hard to stimulate my clit during sex, and oral doesn't really do it for me. Anyone got any tips for positions etc. which might help me come?
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Maybe a good vibrating cock ring ? or even better a wee vibe
We have a wee vibe and its fantasic
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I'm not sure if perhaps I have a similar problem to you, because in diagrams and photos I've seen of women's vulvas their clitoris has always been quite round and visible, almost like a little pea. Mine has never been visible and I've never seen it emerge from under the hood, so I don't know if that means it's small or I'm just weird!
I am able to get off very easily by masturbating or from oral sex, but penetrative sex is a little more tricky. Cock rings can be good but I think my clit is too high up for any of them to actually reach properly! What works best for me is to be on top of my partner and grind against him while he's inside me, or for him to be on top and grind into me for clitoral stimulation.
I can only orgasm from penetration alone if I'm very horny or my partner has almost brought me to orgasm right before entering me, either by oral or using toys etc. have you given that a go?
It took a bit of practice to learn how to orgasm during sex for me, but now I've got the hang of it and I feel more confident it's much easier and I can do it almost every time. Hopefully with a bit of experimentation you'll get there :)
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Try using an orgasm balm/gel and maybe a clit pump to maximise blood flow and sensitivity first off. Though I don't have a problem with the size of my clitoris I do have days when I just can't get there. When that happens I find doggy style with some anal stiumlation from my OH while I provide my own clitoral stimulation from a decent bullet usually does the trick ;)
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Im not Into clit stimulation infact it don't really do anything 4 me, but although I thought id never like the lack of intimacy involved doggy can b good n push good buttons , I like the spooning position for gspot stimulation
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My OH has a small clit too, she occasionally uses a nipple pump on hers for a short while before we have a session, it plumps it up to a huge size and makes it amazingly sensitive!
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A pump will likely help as it increases blood flow to the area and causes it to swell. I've just linked to a review in the bloggers thread for a part spreader, which some people may find helps as it exposes the clitoris, enabling direct contact during sex
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Foxxy wrote:
A pump will likely help as it increases blood flow to the area and causes it to swell. I've just linked to a review in the bloggers thread for a part spreader, which some people may find helps as it exposes the clitoris, enabling direct contact during sex
Was just about to suggest the same thing.
Pumps can increase the size through swelling which also makes it more sensetive.
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Last night my husband was as he calls it “giving me kisses” and I noticed at one point he kept like spreading it and sucking on my clit but then again spreading it and sucking on my clit but the way he was spreading it and sucking so quick I felt 2 things. 1 between his big hands, big lips and the wetness I think he was losing grip of my SMALL CLIT. 2 he was sucking like he just wanted more clit and he kept spreading cause it really pops out and gives him more for that moment.
He truly kisses it for hours until I tap out most times he usually waits for me to moan for him to please take it easy because she SO sensitive or my little taps on his head to let him know I can’t take anymore.
After we were done last night I asked him “do you think I have a small or big clit?” He said “small baby but I love it.” Did he confirm what I was thinking?
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What does OH stand for?
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Other half.
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It’s worth remembering that the visible clit is only a very small part of the whole organ, which extends into the pubis and the pelvis. It’s much bigger than you realise.
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My OH used to find direct clitoral stimulation too much. I always had to go one side or the other and outside of her clitoral hood to reduce direct touch. She never came during penetration so manual or oral was always our goto.
But then she discovered clitoral suction toys. Now she cums every time, right when she wants to and they’re always intense. Its so sexy watching her get herself off with one of those.
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I have a small one too so I hear u cause I can come from grinding on him like a cowgirl lols…… he takes me from behind in soggy style so goes nice and deep and teases my clit with his fingers so that works with gel or i play with myself ….. I get more from deep penetration though.
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@Sunshine3 soggy style, is that code for a large cream pie, or sloppy seconds??
Typo error , probably, but made me smile.
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My bet is that it involves a gravy boat.
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As others have mentioned, clits, like penises come in various sizes. The size does not relate to how sensitive it might be, and most women do not cum from intercourse anyway. The relative position of contact means manual stimulation is required.
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