Just joined this forum. I have a smallish dick and recently found out my GF has had big dicks previously. Is it wrong that this turns me on and I imagine what is like for her to take a big dick?
Hello and welcome,
It’s not weird at all. Have you spoken to your girlfriend about your kink? What does she think?
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She doesn’t want to talk too much about it. Says it doesn’t matter although I haven’t said that it turns me on. Too embarrassed
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All good things start with communication. If you’re embarrassed to mention it, could you write her a note or drop her a text/email?
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That’s a good idea. Although it’s embarrassing g to admit her former partner is better and bigger than you. Although again there is a bit of a turn on in admitting that.
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So you can just say “I’m not sure why it turns me on to know that but it does, and I’d like to talk about that and see if we can’t find a way to explore this kink together” 
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Ha, you’re good!
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I’ve been kinky 20 years and with my husband for 18. You could say I’ve had plenty of practice haha.
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The worry is opening up to the fact that I do have a small dick and he has a massive one. I mean what did they do previously that I can’t do?
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Nothing you can’t. She’s with you for a reason
I’m sure there are others who will be along who share your kink too
Hope so. It’s just when there when you watch porn and there is and reference to big dicks all through life - big dick = man.
Porn isn’t a great example of reality, and if you’ve been to naturist events like I used to, you’d know that size doesn’t define a man. Personally I think confidence + competence = man.
In a person with male anatomy who identifies as a man, obviously. I don’t advise calling women men 
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I believe that if it’s something that actually turns you on you should try telling her about it. Porn is an awful example here, dick size is mostly just preference (atleast from my personal experience)
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Thanks. I know I should tell her. It’s more about whether I’m jealous of previous big lovers or that fact it turns me on I’m smaller than them.
Theres the old saying,
“It’s not the size of the boat it’s the motion of the ocean”
I.e. big dick doesn’t mean great shag! By all accounts I’m not the biggest my OH has had but she says I’m the best.
Although she kinda has to as I’m married to her lol.
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I think being jealous might be a part of the kink, its what turns you on about the whole situation, nothing wrong with that. you just have to remember that dick size isnt really that important
Ha ha
It is part of the kink, and I like that fact. It’s just the fact that he has done things to her that I can never do!
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I once wrote in my diary that my husband is a sex god, and he accidentally saw it. Guess who wore “sex god” boxers on our wedding night? It was nigh one of the shortest marriages in human history!
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Well, if you feel like it then you should learn to do stuff that he could never do. Cock isn’t your only “tool”
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