Do you still do alot of your kinks when you have been single or have alone times when your partner isnāt there for long periods.
I have plenty of kinks but now itās coming up to 7 years since my relationship ended Iām finding Iām not indulging in alot of my favourite kinks, it was much more fun to do it with my partner or doing it to show my partner later on, some of my kinks are partner involved kinks in one way or another like my scent kink that involved her worn clothing.
I have started to loose my interest in some of them probably in the last twelve months, I just donāt fee that excitement with some of them, I know if I was with a partner again those kinks would be very active in my life again.
Are you a person that always keeps those kinks active in solo times?
I think I need to force myself into those kinks again to get that spark back.
Iāve indulged in my kinks when Iāve been single but agree, itās not quite the same. It can be enjoyable and satisfying but sharing that experience makes it even better.
I think thereās also less self-consciousness when getting kinky with a partner as it has less of a āhiddenā vibe to it.
My lingerie wearing is much more fun with a partner but having said that, indulging on my own still appeals for the taboo aspect and the idea itās āmy little secretā
Same goes for sploshing. Great with a partner, but because itās a slightly weirder fetish Iāve often gone more extreme when alone. Certainly when first exploring kinks, getting messy especially, Iāve tried it alone first. Iāll admit sploshing is so weird I thought āNo one else would understandā. Like so many kinks though, that simply isnāt true.
@teacake It is hard when youāre not partnered. One of the things I did during the times I was single was to hit classes. Not for the purpose of meeting anyone but to learn. Youād bne surprised how you can stay energized by learning or relearning something. And being around other people is a good thing as well.
During those times I also spent time self-tying. But donāt feel bad feeling like you want someone to share with it happens just keep exploring.
Iām definitely in no rush to meet someone itās just some of the kinks I use to really enjoy has been a bit deflated, maybe itās time to discover new kinksā¦
I use to film myself doing my kinks talking to the camera like it was being doing for someone.
Iām not sure about anyone else, but Iāve found over the years kinks can certainly change. I know mine have. Iāve found partners definitely improve them.
Maybe itās time to get back on the horse, enjoy yourself and bring them back
To be honest having always been single, I tend to find many kinks need a second person involved to get the most from it otherwise it do just seem lacklustre or not workā¦
I myself always dream my wife could become even partly interested in sex . Back when she no longer had any interest in anything remotely to do with sex I was devastated . I threw away all the toys and sexy , kinky lingerie . I pretty much quit pleasuring myself . After maybe three months I decided to use it or lose it . I have been self pleasuring for over two decades now . Winter time is when my drive diminishes greatly . I wear lingerie almost every day , she does seem to enjoy the view . Granted many kinks are difficult or impossible by myself . Took me a while to get good at pegging myself . Been using soft silicone nipple suckers for about two years and really woke up my nipples . I guess after many decades of stroking myself , I was a bit bored with my cock . Just before my wife no longer participated in sex , we started pegging . Anal play by myself is a staple now . I must admit I find myself caressing my nipples all the time . I preform for the camera and videos , send them to my wife . Something that helps me is the posting of photos here . I hope several people might use them for their pleasure , and that makes me happy . Too bad you do not have a fuck buddy . Summer time gets me to a much hornier place where I might self pleasure almost daily . Hope you find a happy place in you self pleasure and or somebody to play with .
I had been thinking about starting something like a forbidden relationship something just for fun but has to be kept but that would probably be a bit hard to do these days as I canāt think of why it would have to be kept quiet. Back in the day it was a friend sister we had the hots for each other and no one knew for a long time what was happening.
Thinking about what you said here for me my kinks have been pretty consistent over the long years, I could never imagine me not wanting to do them again, Iāve added to the list but never taken any away thinking thatās not for me anymore.
I think I need to actually see some new kinks to see if it appeals to me, I suppose itās time to start checking out places like reddit for dedicated kinks groups.
Now youāve mentioned it, you can blame my very poor choice of wording here @teacake
Change for me was just finding new kinks. Iām still very new to this space but Iām similar to you and have never taken any away once committed and Iāve tried it. My kinks are limited and weather permitted so I could probably do the same and look for more
but that would probably be a bit hard to do these days as I canāt think of why it would have to be kept quiet. Back in the day it was a friend sister we had the hots for each other and no one knew for a long time what was happening.
