So I wonder how many couples prefer slow loving versus high speed action. So many times, watching porn, even amateur stuff, I see couples going at it like jackrabbits, even oral or hand work. It just seems to me to not be enjoyable, like they are trying to get it over with instead of taking the time to feel it all. I prefer slow, sensual movements, where I can feel the texture and sensations more. I love very slow deliberate movement. What are your preferences ?
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Go where the mood takes you both
Doesnāt need to be just one speed
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Time and place for all. Both for me. My OH and I generally have a lot of foreplay and oral to start our sessions. Rounds 2, 3 and beyond, definitelyslower and .ore intimate. When I have her restraind to the bed, and im edging her and teasing her, when I do enter, I take it slow to continue teasing her more. When she is on top, its almost always slow and easy. At times she rides me fast and hard. Or I speed up from underneath. Anally, I mostly slow down my tempo with her. I have gotten carried away and pounded her booty fast
Fast hard fucking when I have her bent over random furniture throughout the house. Also outdoors, always fast passionate and doggie style.
Honestly doggie style pretty much hard aggressively while spanking her sexy ass.
Pole driver position hard fast aggressively and deeper.
When she has teased me to long, definitely hard fast.
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Slow, sensual tease to start, love the feeling of his foreskin sliding back and forth whilst building up speed to hard, deep and fast until orgasm.
If Iām on top, then slow and steady. If we want speed, heāll thrust from beneath.
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Bit of mixture depeningbon what we are doing, no hard or fast rule
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Yeah, sometimes it is difficult to not just get carried away, and thrust like crazy. I have to force myself to slow down at times. Resisting the urge to speed up the pace, and doing just the opposite seems to make the sensations amplified, like edging. When receiving oral, I like to tell her to go so very slow, and deep. Feeling every nuance until I can not stand it anymore and cross over to orgasm.
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Generally slow, unless itās doggy style.
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Slow and easy to start with then things get faster, but really it all depends on the time and situation.
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Starts slow, we are normally in doggie so when i can feel i am getting close i push back against him and move quicker to encourage him to thrust faster, which normally does it for me.
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Each to their own I say! I kinda donāt have a clue what I prefer as never had a relationship to explore all this with 
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For me. Itās all of the catagories! But as a sensualist Iām all in on slow and steady and going for diistance. I want to engage my partner as emotionally and mentally as possible. Free the mind andā¦you knowā¦everything follows. If youāve ever heard of a Yoni Massage, you kind of get the point. 
But as in all thingsā¦sometimes primal and exhausting is a very good thing. as a lot have said here however you get to what works for ypou and your SO enjoy it to the hilt.
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Sometimes I want to take things slow and enjoy each part of it, other times I want to get pounded hard and fast. I can never choose just one or the other.
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Slow and loving for me, and including lots of different things such as oral and thing which will guarantee she has an orgasm!! Quick when a necessity!!
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Yes.
Like others said, it depends quite a bit on the position, the mood, and even what stage weāre at. We almost always start off slow, and regularly end up a little closer to fast, but even thatās relative (not sure I could say how many āpumps per minuteā or any other metric.
Our go-to routine (bedtime sex) is modified missionary (my legs are on the outside of her legs, more of a CAT position) and once Iāve eased in slowly the majority of my motion is more grinding than thrusting, alternating between supporting myself on hands/elbows like the top of a pushup vs rising more upright and supporting my weight on the headboard while she rubs her clit. Tend to transition to more of a rapid/steady thrusting as she approaches her orgasm and we regularly cum within seconds of each other.
Same pattern follows if sheās on top - she prefers to take more slow, grinding motion to stimulate her clit on my shaft and mound and make sure my headās hitting the right spot, and then speeds up as she is nearest her orgasm.
I guess we both do tend to default to a slower and intentional pace and placement of all our bits where we want them, savoring the sensation of each movement. Also, weāre not old yet but we aināt as young as we used to be and no point in risking injury to either of our dear bits by jumping in with reckless abandon!
I think the only place we default to lightning quick is if sheās already cum and rolls over and offers herself to be taken from behind that is more often in, hard, fast, and quick orgasm for me. But itās almost always after sheās already orgasmed and everything is very warmed up. The occasional quicky where she offers to me to cum in from behind is also quick, but not aggressively fast, more like a minute of well-placed deep strokes and boom Iām done, which is a different thing entirely.
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There have certainly been more than a few times when we have got going when the build up has been so intense that going hard seems to be the only way to end the encounter. I think most times it would be when we are doing doggy, her bum is kind of chunky and she can take the impact. I do have to be careful if we are in some positions as I can go too deep and hurt her, and, even me if I get too aggressive.
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Slow and sensual mostly but some occasions where your both just that way out and want it a quickie can be fun, say your about to go out and getting dressed together etc and the mood takes you a fast passionate quickie can be fun and sometimes just has to be done
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We prefer slow loving, itās what we both prefer and the only time we do fast is when we are doing a quickie.
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Perfect answer, nothing to add
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Samantha here. Most guys iv been with go at it frantically for 5 mins and then its over.
Ben mixes it up and loves to tease me. He knows how to make me cum in an instant. It will be slow and steady with just the tip of his cock inside me, then heāll go hard with deep thrusts. He will often pull out to lick me out half way through too.
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My take on @JGood response was there is a place for both depending on your moods and that you should mix it up. Iām not recommending one over the other, just be receptive to your partners mood and whatās working for both of you.
My partners common response to most sexual questions is āsometimesā. Sometimes she just wants to be fucked hard, sometimes she enjoys being teased. Sometimes she enjoys the switching back and forth. Itās the variety that keeps it fun
On the oral mid session though I love tasting my partner when sheās really wet or creamy
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