Hi everyone!
I’m looking for some advice! My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years, and I think it’s time to spice it up a little. What is the best way to start this? And to explore what we may be into?
I have a bullet vibe that I use on my own, am I best off bringing that into the bedroom and seeing where it leads? Is a partner oriented toy a better option?
We have been relatively vanilla, so I’d like to start simple and see where it takes us!
Thank you in advance! 
Yeah, try the bullet first. What’s to lose? X
Starting off with what you have is the good option for financial considerations as @Hannahnim has when it comes to toys and starting your journey of sexual discovery.
What I would add is that every journey starts with planning and to plan you need to have a conversation and a heart to heart.
What do you like to do separately that you want to show each other. Be it positions, bondage, toys and so much more. Start off slow, do you both like porn or the erotic word.
Ask us all, we all started the journey one way or another.
I’m not sure of your interests (sex toys) but how about adding some simple lingerie aswell? (I know its not everyone’s cup of tea). These are LH’s suggested top 10 toys for couples which might give you some ideas.
Welcome to the forum @professor_denim 
I always think the best way to start is to have an open and honest conversation with each other. Discuss things you both may want to try with no judgement if someone suggests something that is not your cup of tea.
If you are both a little shy with being open you can do a sex compatibility test (Google it).
Essentially you both take a online quiz and select things you may be interested in trying. If you both select the same thing it tells you what you matched on. If you don’t match it doesn’t disclose those kinks.
Hello and welcome,
The first toy I ever introduced to my now 20-year relationship was a pair of fluffy handcuffs, but if you’re starting vanilla, don’t start there.
Bullet vibes are a great place to start. Why not try a vibrating couple’s cock ring, like this one?
Best of luck.
I for one love to watch my partner use a vibrator on herself,over our years we’ve used many toys and we started with a small golden bullet 12 year ago ( stil have it and it still works surprisingly) there’s no harm starting with the bullet maybe play with yourself for him to watch or ask him to use it on you
I think a good start would be to introduce the bullet into the bedroom. T?his could then start a conversation with the Love Honey site and together coming up with a few suggestions together.
If the bullet is a success then maybe you could both have a look on the love honey site and choose a coup!e of toys you might like to try.
The bullet 
Welcome to the forum.
It’s a very tough question to ask as everyone has different levels of spice.
A great starting point that I always suggest, is a naked massage. Can be on the bed or on a duvet on the floor etc.
as a male, I always start with her getting the massage. Some of it is just a massage but some of it is lingering the hands in certain places for longer than I would on her back.
This always leads to something more. Never fails.
Then after time, introduce a wand. Great for sore muscles but also great for stimulation.
Hi and welcome to the forum.
Given the price of many toys, I think start with what you’ve got. You could maybe try some massage oil so your session is more focussed on slow pleasure, and introduce the bullet after a nice long massage session. See how that goes and talk about it later, discuss what you liked and maybe what you’d like to do different or add. Or maybe you’ll decide to keep doing that for a while to see how much you can get out of it. There’s no rush.
Sometimes, going through LHs shop with your boyfriend to see if anything immediately grabs your attention might work. If not maybe discuss some of the toys and how they might feel or how you might play with them. That might spark something. Essentially, go at your own pace, don’t rush unless you want to, talk, talk and talk some more, and have fun.
If he knows you’ve got the bullet ask him if he’d like to watch you use it, then maybe stroke it up and down his cock. I’m sure he’ll be delighted.
It’s a start… Perhaps browse the LH site together and see if you agree on anything to give a go, plenty of instructional videos to review.
Hey! It was their wordage not mine! 
