squirting help

Hiya,

I'm new to the forums but have been addicted to the LoveHoney site for some time now. I have always wondered if it really was possible for any woman to squirt and have tried several times in the past without sucess. So i decided to invest in the njoy pure wand and as soon as it arrived i gave it a go. Well, something different definately happened! I think i did 'ejaculate' as my lady bits were suddenly a damn sight wetter but it didn't actually squirt right out!

I've spent a lot of time scouring the internet for hints and tips, but there is some conflicting info out there, so any advice would be greatly appreciated. I know I am definately hitting my G-spot and I am getting the 'need to pee' feeling, but am I supposed to just relax and let it happen or do you have to 'push' it out? I'm not sure if i have explained that very well, but any help would be awesome!

Thank you,

nat x

http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/1350-squirting/

Loads of useful posts in here for you.

Welcome btw

Hello and welcome,

I am the same with occassionally getting much much much wetter during orgasm, especially with very strong contractions inside me. But I dont consider that squirting, as that sounds to me as something completely different. And I guess far more intense.

Thank you both.

I have read alot of that thread and it would seem that some people do have to 'push' to help it along so to speak and for others it just naturally happens. Ah well, its proving to be a lot of fun trying!

I have similar problems, never squirted, really want to :( my guy always tries and wants me to aswell, it makes me feel inadaquate :(

Sexy_Seika wrote:

I have similar problems, never squirted, really want to :( my guy always tries and wants me to aswell, it makes me feel inadaquate :(

Same. And after hearing some of my friends comments I lost my sex drive 2 days ago. Especially their opinion on toys, for them my OH would be useless if I do use a toy while being in relationship

Laveila wrote:

Sexy_Seika wrote:

I have similar problems, never squirted, really want to :( my guy always tries and wants me to aswell, it makes me feel inadaquate :(

Same. And after hearing some of my friends comments I lost my sex drive 2 days ago. Especially their opinion on toys, for them my OH would be useless if I do use a toy while being in relationship

Awwww you shouldn't let it make you feel inadequate. For me if I do manage to squirt it will just be an awesome bonus! There is a lot of info out there that says not every woman can do it, but it also sounds like putting pressure on yourself really won't help. I think I'm lucky that my man isn't bothered either way, but is loving trying to help me!

Laveila, it sounds like your friends dont approve of toys? I think if you and your OH enjoy using toys then thats whats most important. My OH bought me a bullet vibe from here and sometimes I think he enjoys me using it on him more than I enjoy using it on me!

Hi, welcome to the forums. If its any help at all we have been together 17 years and the squirting thing is very new to me! I did'nt try to do it purposely but after quite alot of gspot stimulation one day it just happened! It shocked the hell out of me if I am quite honest and I was very embarrassed to start with but now I just think if it happens it happens (and more often than not Hubby does want it to anyway).

I honestly think that being relaxed is a big part of it happening so my advice would be to relax and let it happen but if you get the urge to push, as I sometimes do, then go with it (that usually makes it squirt rather than gush). I suppose every body is different so you have to go with what yours tells you to do!

Good luck! x

I've been trying to get my wife to let me try to make her squirt for a while but she can't get past the feeling like she needs to pee stage and just let go.

Maybe one day though :)

Thank you for the replies and the good advice!

As a rule I rarely orgasm through penetration, its all about the clit for me so this is also abit of a voyage of discovery! Just experiencing a g-spot orgasm is something new and different so I am having a LOT of fun even if the squirting never properly happens (just seeing the large wet spot underneath me on the bed made me grin my a** off so if the occasional gush is all I get thats good enough for me!)

scottishcouple - I understand what how your wife feels completely. It just seems wrong to let go when you get that feeling somehow! I hope you manage to convince her.

Avrielle - I completely agree about the squirting you see in porn, totally over dramatic if you ask me! And I'd certainly never had a g-spot orgasm before trying this and the njoy pure wand definately helped me with that. Its a different kind of orgasm, my whole body was shaking and I could barely stand after!

Thanks again everyone xx

Glad your enjoying your experimenting dirtyslut. I'm going to buy my wife on of the g spot vibrators to see how we get on with that to see if she enjoys it.

hi

i had this issue a while back and then i found a very good video on the net showing how to do it.

now i wont post a link but i will tell you how its done.

when you feel your orgasm approaching its normal to tense up right?

dont!

instead of tensing start pushing as if you are trying to pee. i promise you this works.

also the best way to squirt is through g-spot stimualtion. so a lot of people think that a straight forward in and out motion will do the tirck but it doesnt. the best motion is a come hither motion.

start gently and then increase pressure. the g-spot will start to change in the way it feels, it goes from hard to soft and spongey. thats when you start to feel the urge to pee. go with it.

i recommend putting some towels down though as it can get very very wet.

my first time took a good hour of g-spot stim befor ei started to feel anything.

also its better if you are in a slightly raised up postion. as well as that push down on your tummy, just above you pubic bone. this pushes the gspot down on to the fingers/toy/penis whatever you are using.

if you still have difficulty please feel free to contact me

also if you want a link to the video that explains it better than i can dont hesitate to get in touch.

it is an amazing feeling when it happens, just make sure your other half knows what to expect lol!!!

oh just to add the same applies if you want to squirt during clitoral stim too.......instead of tensing, push down. above all though.....RELAX......its the best way to achieve a squirt!

as for the porn squirts......i too squirt like that, some are fake and you can tell which.

a real squirt leaves the woman shaking and her legs giving out and bottom end bucking like a bronco, usually you cant stand up afterwards for a good ten minutes hahaha.

bexiswetnow wrote:

oh just to add the same applies if you want to squirt during clitoral stim too.......instead of tensing, push down. above all though.....RELAX......its the best way to achieve a squirt!

as for the porn squirts......i too squirt like that, some are fake and you can tell which.

a real squirt leaves the woman shaking and her legs giving out and bottom end bucking like a bronco, usually you cant stand up afterwards for a good ten minutes hahaha.

I can have problems with weak knees and not being able to stand or going into real exhaustion for long minutes even without squirt, by just having very strong orgasm, in my case clitoral. the longer and stronger the orgasm, the longer I have problems with getting up afterwards. I also managed to fall asleep after some really strong orgasms

But your info was really nice. I never tried pushing down.

bexiswetnow wrote:

hi

i had this issue a while back and then i found a very good video on the net showing how to do it.

now i wont post a link but i will tell you how its done.

when you feel your orgasm approaching its normal to tense up right?

dont!

instead of tensing start pushing as if you are trying to pee. i promise you this works.

also the best way to squirt is through g-spot stimualtion. so a lot of people think that a straight forward in and out motion will do the tirck but it doesnt. the best motion is a come hither motion.

start gently and then increase pressure. the g-spot will start to change in the way it feels, it goes from hard to soft and spongey. thats when you start to feel the urge to pee. go with it.

i recommend putting some towels down though as it can get very very wet.

my first time took a good hour of g-spot stim befor ei started to feel anything.

also its better if you are in a slightly raised up postion. as well as that push down on your tummy, just above you pubic bone. this pushes the gspot down on to the fingers/toy/penis whatever you are using.

if you still have difficulty please feel free to contact me

also if you want a link to the video that explains it better than i can dont hesitate to get in touch.

it is an amazing feeling when it happens, just make sure your other half knows what to expect lol!!!

Thank you so much for this! My OH does know what to expect and is like a little kid at the thought of me covering him in my cum for a change!

I am finding it so hard to know when exactly to push. I get the need to pee feeling and have tried pushing as soon as I get it and waiting until I have started orgasming but still nothing yet. It is difficult not to tense up though, I swear my legs have a mind of their own when I have an orgasm sometimes! I think I definately need my OH's help on this. Once I start to orgasm I just can't concentrate on pushing on my tummy as well as taking the toy out and pushing to try and squirt too!

I really appreciate all the comments and wish everyone good luck with their squirting missions too xx

I would also like to say thanks for the info.... me and my OH have also tried to get me to squirt but have failed so far... we have watched videos and he understand he needs to keep the pressure on my pubic bone aswell...

i get the feeling of needing to pee but like everyone else it doesnt go anywhere!! i will try pushing out a little and see if that works.... also does anyone else sometimes feel it painful?? like the video i watched the guy was pretty rough and quick and hard with her.... i need my OH to be on the gspot but to keep it alot less rough or else i just find it feeling painful?

anyways thanks again everyone for all the help... im v v new to this forum stuff but LOVE the website!!!

twig: the thing is, that every woman is different, so what may work for stimulation for one may not work for another. Some woman prefer rougher manipulation, some need more gentle. You will have to find out what works for you. If it is painful, then something is wrong and you need to change the technique. Maybe put a less pressure on. Or maybe the pace is too fast.

Video can be a bit... misleading at times. They dont always show things accurately.

to the OP - thanks for starting this thread!

To those who have posted info - thank you! I really really want to learn to squirt. Guess I might need a teacher though as I've been trying on my own for a while and not managed it yet :(

i usually contract my kegal muscles really tight and then release as if im pushing out piss really hard, he loves it, dont be affraid

I don't think a Redtube link is permitted, but if one were to visit that site and find video 15878, it's quite informative - literally, it's filmed in an educational way rather than a purely titillatory one.

Apologies in advance mods if even that reference ist verboten.