My wife and I have been trying for the longest time to make her squirt, but it just won’t happen. We will have a big wet spot in the bed, but as far as the exploding gushing stream… not happening. If anyone has been in a similar situation and can give us any tips. We will be forever indebted to you!!!
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I think if you put “how to squirt” into the forum search tool you’ll find several posts with a short novel’s-worth of tips, tricks, and anecdotes on the topic.
Good luck and have fun!
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Awesome this is my first day on here. Still trying to figure out how to navigate everything. But i appreciate you letting me know… We have read so many different articles and watched how to videos. We’ve tried toys, fingers, and she has tried several times on her own with no luck. Everything I read says every woman can “squirt”, but the amounts are different for everyone. She is under the impression she just can’t do it, and I feel like she has it in her, but she’s not relaxing enough to let it just go, instead she tenses up just enough to stop it. Hell idk that’s why I was hoping someone has went through a similar experience and got through. Sure it’s a long shot, but a man can hope lol
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Thank you, I appreciate that… hopefully that’s it, we were just not slowing down enough to relax. Makes a lot of sense actually, if you can’t slow your mind down it’s hard to accomplish anything.
Side note- what’s your opinion on the thought process every woman has the ability to squirt vs some women just can and some can’t?
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Also keep in mind if you are aiming for a porn style squirt it probably isn’t going to end up that way. Real and Porn doesn’t go together unless it’s amateur
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It took me 52 years to squirt and it happened by accident. When I say squirt, it’s more of a continuous gush that seeps out and utterly drenches everything. We now have a splash blanket which means I can relax and not worrying about the state of the bed afterwards.
100% agree that if you focus on trying, then that pressure alone could be putting a stop to it.
Personally I use this glass dildo and my Lelo clit sucker and for me this works every time. But my OH takes his time with lots of foreplay beforehand.
Good luck and enjoy the journey
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I’d call it a win if I could get a little gleek spit out lol… thank you!!
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That’s a good point as well, but I feel like we are really good w communication and respecting each others wishes. Squirting is something we have both thought would be cool, but then you can’t get it so you start putting stress on urself which makes everything that much harder. But trying is my favorite part anyway lol… thanks for reaching out
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We love foreplay as well. Watching porn and playing with each other while we fantasize out loud about different types of scenarios is one of our favorite things to do. Although I never thought about the a clit sucker bc of 2 reasons really. Everytime I try to look up some kind of new technique to try it always says the same thing basically g spot w a come hither motion. You put hope back in me thank you!!! lol… second reason I never really thought about it to much is my wife’s clit is so sensitive she can’t handle it.
On a separate note I bet it felt the the heavens were singing after you finally squirted after 52 years!!! Good for you that’s awesome!!
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Some don’t have the big gush…squirt…spray. It just trickles out for some which sounds like what she is doing already.
If what you have seen or experienced is porn remember unless it’s amateur it’s acting and made more elaborate for the cameras.
Don’t put pressure on her to do it or it won’t happen. For me the first time it happened was a total shock and honestly thought I’d peed on him…I hadn’t heard about it so I held back when I felt it about to happen again or I got him to stop…I WAS young and it was back in the 80’s.
Fast forward a few years and being more educated found some blokes like it and some not. I have warned them that I squirt but not obviously every time…
Keep satisfying her…relax about sex and make sure it’s not your main objective.
Good luck and have fun.
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The come hither motion for the G spot might work on some, but it doesn’t for me. The shape of the glass dildo feels like it’s massaging the internal side of my clit which I’m guessing is the G spot!
The Lelo clit sucker that I have has lots of modes, rhythms and speeds and I tend to use this while my other half takes control of the dildo. Depending on where I’m at in my arousal and which way the wind is blowing! (Ie no particular reason) will depend on how sensitive my clit can be. Have you seen how big the clit actually is? It’s not just what you can see. By moving the clit sucker around ( with lots of lube) I can find sweet spots which are deliciously pleasurable but not directly on my clit which is why I’m in control of the clit sucker - I would not expect my OH to know where these sweet spots are and the buggers tend to move around too!
The first time I squirted, I had no real idea what was happening and the pleasure was taken away when we saw the state of the bed and mattress - it was like a bucket had been thrown on it. We then tried towels in case it happened again and it went straight through them ( more than one, folded too) into the mattress. This did have a negative impact on me, but the splash blanket changed that. We have a large one that covers the bed which is great for massages and then a smaller, round one which is easy to place mid session if it’s obvious things are going in that direction 
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For me a suction toy makes it happen with my partners fingers inside me or if I use a duo suction toy.
Have you used a suction toy yet? I would definitely give it a try xx
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The first line “My wife and I have been trying for the longest time to make her squirt, but it just won’t happen.”
To me this gives a slight sense of frustration and pressure, these two things are the biggest issue when it comes to squirting. Similar to if you feel your taking too long to cum and get stuck in that weird headspace “why won’t it happen” etc and you then last longer or lose the ability.
Squirting really does require patience, and being super super relaxed. So my suggestion is to take your time, try different toys like G-spot shaped dildos or suction toys and see how that feels. The easiest method is to get your partner to lay in front of you in a comfortable position, and after plenty of teasing and foreplay just slide two fingers in with your fingertips towards the front wall and do a “come here” motion. Apply a little pressure and do this quite quickly! The fast motion and pressure should cause a build up. The sensation she’s about to pee should start happening and this is where she will need to relax and let it go! Haha
It does take a lot of time and playing, we tried loads until she was riding me once and leaned backwards. She squirted and since then it’s been quite an easy thing to do for us. So just have a play and enjoy the adventure
Awesome thank you
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I never used to squirt up until a few years ago. I always felt very nervous as had bad experiences in my past that left me feeling uncomfortable in my own skin and even more uncomfortable during sex but my OH has been fantastic and so understanding he has worked with me to help me relax and enjoy sex. I remember the first time i did squirt over him i thought he was going to leave me but he loved every minute of it. I dont squirt all the time however which is something to also bear in mind if it does happen do not put pressure on her to make it happen again just take things at her pace
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I’ve never had an exploding gushing stream, for me its more like someone turned a tap on. I suspect the explosion is more porn scene than reality, which is likely pee to get the explosion.
I would suggest that you stop trying as the pressure from that is going to make it really hard to orgasm, nevermind squirt.
Yea I mean that’s basically what we did was give up on it. And mark it as a just can’t happen, but when I get the opportunity to ask a bunch of well versed ppl for some tricks I’ll jump on that everyday of the week lol
my tips are to
- make sure your wife is really well hydrated before hand, you can’t produce extra fluid if you’re dehydrated
- have a pee before sex
- put down a mat (like dri nites) or towel (although I go through a few layers of towel)
- aim for simply a regular nice time, if it happens it’s a bonus
- rather than a squirt I’d expect a gush or flow
- if she feels like it might be near, encourage her to bear down rhythmically, as if she’s trying to push out whatever is inside her (even if there’s nothing inside her), especially if there’s a squelchy sort of noise
- I like a firm dildo like glass or the desire silicone covered metal one
have fun!
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You are the best!! Thank you for the advice
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Slow build up missionary going in really deep but staying inside so you don’t come out more than halfway then speed it up a bit and push her legs back or put them over your shoulders . When she starts to get quite wet slow it down again but this time go all the way in and all the way fully out over and over and you’ll start to hear the quiffing etc that’s when you then need to all of a sudden donit really really hard and a bit faster and that should get her to squirt
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