Could I get some advice on how I could make myself last longer during sex?
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A cock ring. That seems to work for my husband and keeps him hard as well. Again i assume your male but your profile says female, but not normally an issue for a woman i find.
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I thought you were male automatically with saying āyou want to last longerā but no, the profile says your female. I thought women could orgasm over and over?
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I am male, donāt know why my profile says female and canāt change it
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You need to go into your profile tab and scroll down. Did take a bit of finding though.
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You can get local anaesthetic sprays to make you last longer, a condom, a cock ring can keep you being hard even after you cum, pushing on your perineum if you feel like you are going to cum, having sex more often can help as well. You could try to train your brain through masturbation techniques.
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Unfortunately us males cum much more quickly than females. Try a cock ring. Do kegel exercises. Spend some alone time edging, and bringing yourself close to orgasm. When close, tighten your pelvis muscles like when you do kegel exercises or if youāre trying to hold your pee. Do this over and over. Over time you will be able to do this while having sex, helping you control when you orgasm.
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Not sure if this is any help but Iāve seen lots of ādelay spraysā with mixed reviews, not sure if they actually work. 
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Things we do when Iām concerned about not lasting:
- She cums first via oral, then Iām in and after going down on her I can usually cum before sheās done riding the waves of her orgasm, especially if Iāve edged her.
- Change positions more frequently, or try to find a position that takes you longer to cum while she uses a toy/hand to O. (For us cowgirl usually works pretty well as she prefers a more rocking/grinding motion that puts more stimulus on my lower shaft and pubic mound rather than my head/frenulum, thereby I last longer. Usually.)
- Iāve never found cock rings to be more than marginally useful in delaying my ejaculation, but always worth a try. We do enjoy using penis extenders/sleeves for both play with size and also reducing my stimulation. Did recently get this cockring/sleeve that was surprisingly effective at both supporting my erection and may have helped delay slightly.
- If weāre planning for a full day of marathon sex we will often start with a quickie earlier in the morning, then go workout/brunch/hike and come back for the longer afternoon romp. We do that less often in the last year or so as intermittent ED has been a mild annoyance. I can still go 2-3x a day if Iām not in my head with anxiety or other disruption, but the risk is always there.
- Once upon a time I was reading up on male multiples and doing a lot more practice of edging/ejaculation control while masturbating and doing it regularly on top of our sex together and that maybe helped with self control and knowing when to stop.
Thatās what Iāve got. Weāve never tried delay sprays or anything like that. Wife was totally on board with me experimenting with all the other things and weāre pretty open about communicating the things that are bothering or pleasing to each other. Just as example, sometimes when Iām on the edge and stop thrusting to try and hold off a little longer, sheāll tell me that sheās close but everytime I stop moving she loses the edge (our default nightly sex is missionary with her masturbating while Iām on top) and that if I just keep going sheāll orgasm as soon as she feels me cum inside. So being able to communicate through that a) helps her get what she wants; and b) removes my anxiety about cumming ātoo early.ā
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+1 for kegel training. The app Stameena has been good for me. 3-5 minutes two or three times a day. Iāve used āKegel Menā as well which adds in breathing exercises but takes longer. You do have to commit the time to it though and maintain it. Stopping for even a week and the loss of control becomes obvious (to me at least). Also, Communication! If youāre in a relationship where you can, talk about it as your partner can probably help too. Or at least they wonāt ask as many questions about why theyāre having to change position every 30 seconds.
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Practice doing edging tends to help build stamina and also using some delay creams too
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@user763 and @JMS55 I have a vibrating cock ring that I need to commit to trying more. Iām typically hard enough and for long enough to please the wife, but what man doesnāt want to stay harder for longer periods of timeā¦. 
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Lots of tricks you can use but honestly, I just meditate.
I started regular meditation in my very early 20ās, bizarrely not as a relaxation thing but as part of martial arts training which developed into a much broader lifestyle. It took a while to click and was hard work at first, and I never thought of is as a sex thing, but it had the (welcome) side effect that I can basically control myself at will.
I can bang one out in three minutes or I can go 6- 7 hours. Near enough total control, I can shag my wife all night, however she wants it, as many times as she wants, and when sheās had enough I can just let myself go and finish.
Iām not sure if getting into it just for the sex benefit would work, and the amount of time and patience required would be crazy if it were only for that purpose and not for a bigger lifestyle change, but as a side effect of 25 years regular meditation Iām not grumbling. (I think it took around 2 years of regular meditation and mindfulness practice before I first noticed the effect on my bedroom activities).
I know it sounds like a kind of brag (which it isnāt supposed to be) , but Iām just saying that the whole tantra āthingā that Sting was famous for claiming to have going on - itās real (whatever name you put on it).
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A suction vibrating masturbator night help for solo time and edging. Suction by itself is good but when I add vibrating it feels amazing and if I havenāt cum for a while it can get me there quickly so I turn off the vibrations or remove myself from the toy for a few seconds then go back in to enjoy some more.
If I have sex with my wife and evening or day after that I can normally last longer.
Also when Iāve used some prostate milking butt plug dildo toys on myself a few hours or a day before I can last longer as I am fully emptied testicles and prostate so can normally last longer. Good luck.
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Have you got a link for this toy 