A very newby to all this and ive Just started to play with butt plugs and dildos on myself but find i cant stay hard at the same time as they are in is this normal
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It’s a new and different feeling.
Take time and enjoy yourself while playing. Over time when you relax more and get into it your erections should come in time. There can be a lot going on in your head and new things your body is feeling.. can just take abit of time 
for now… just try enjoy the butt play!
Hi @0001 are you using the plugs/dildos for solo play or during sex. If the latter try them during solo play and relax into it, it is a new feeling exploring new areas of enjoyment. It’s exactly as @r3k says, trying something new takes getting used to. Seeing what you enjoy. Don’t put yourself under any pressure
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Not an uncommon occurrence, I have been practicing for a bit and it is achievable sometimes.
I find the more I try to rush past the relaxation and enjoyment I can’t get the erection. But be patient and don’t let it worry you it can happen.
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Yes solo play, i dont know how my oh will feel about us doing it so ive not said anything to her
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Ok. Enjoy experimenting with plugs and dildos during solo play and get comfortable and see whether you like it. When the time is right, perhaps during sex you can mention it to your OH. You will know what works best for you both and whether she will be receptive. This worked for me
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Word of pre warning. If you start getting erections during butt play while Solo. Don’t be atall shocked if you can’t get hard again at the start or any time during joint play, it happens and is just part of it at times
Indeed, for some when you stimulate the prostate with anal play, it can lessen your erection.
Just in general or at that time?
Totally normal to go soft when doing anal play, mostly because your anus is that sensitive its your brain concentrating on all the fun its getting, I’ve cum plenty of times whilst soft during anal play.
Also it’s quite common for me to be totally soft whilst my OH is pegging me for the same reason, it’s quite erotic watching a soft cock leaking prostate milk!!
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I wasn’t sure if I could cum if I wasn’t erect but I did for the first time a bit ago while riding a dildo it was a completely different feeling
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Sounds good, a prostate orgasm!