I see many copies of the original . Now with added built in vibrators and USB recharging , nice . Look up Happy Rabbit Vibrating Starpless Strap on .
I’m a massive fan of anal play both solo and with my girlfriend. It was something that I found I got into with a couple of partners before and wasn’t to sure how my girlfriend would feel about it. But after being open it’s something we have a go and both got into. From her it’s a power and domination feel and for me I just love the feel and have recently got a prostate vibrator that hits the spot. Many guys are shut off to it as they think it’s gay but the male prostate has many spots that are pleasurable and why not experiment if you are open to it.
emily1989 wrote:
This sounds great! How do i mention it to my OH? he might think i think he's gay? Sounds so horny though!
gyrator53 wrote:
If you know him well enough just go ahead and ask! I would consider myself straight but have some prostate toys and a plug or two. If my OH wanted a MMF I would be very happy to be taken. I guess it's not about labels like gay, bi or straight, just that if it feels good it is good and go for it!
Well, you could just mention that you have been reading up on what feels good for men - so you can make him even happier of course - and that you found out about the area around the prostate being the real 'engine-room' of the male orgasm and, purely in the interests of scientific investigation, you want to try shagging his arse off 8-)=
emily1989 wrote:
This sounds great! How do i mention it to my OH? he might think i think he's gay? Sounds so horny though!
If you know him well enough just go ahead and ask! I would consider myself straight but have some prostate toys and a plug or two. If my OH wanted a MMF I would be very happy to be taken. I guess it's not about labels like gay, bi or straight, just that if it feels good it is good and go for it!gyrator53 wrote:
Well, you could just mention that you have been reading up on what feels good for men - so you can make him even happier of course - and that you found out about the area around the prostate being the real 'engine-room' of the male orgasm and, purely in the interests of scientific investigation, you want to try shagging his arse off 8-)=
From a stereotypical 'burly' guys point of view its methats got the hangup over it. I will admit anonymously that I really want to try it but having joked about it when my OH straight up asked if I wanted to try my knee jerk reaction was no... And I haven't been able to bring it up since! That's one reason I've put my name forward for the reviews of strapons would be a good way to say - you'll never guess what came in the post!! Maybe next time we've had a few drinks....
Hi all, newbie here, been reading through this thread with interest.
I'm a happily married guy of 9 years, with a growing interest in anal experimentation. Think it all started having read about it on blogs like 'Girl with a one track mind' - sounded a bit hot and taboo.
Have an enjoyable sex life with the other half and we have v tentatively introduced some anal play into our sex. Sometimes I lightly touch her there whilst fingering her clit - occasionally she moves my hand away but other times she gets v horny and moves her bum closer towards my finger to encourage me. When I'm on top and close to orgasm she's started reaching for my bum knowing how much it turns me on and is v happy doing this. So far we've not experimented with her touching me there during handjobs or blowjobs though maybe we're getting closer as she's discovered how horny I get when she touches my perineum during a handjob.
I've bought a beginner vibrating buttplug which I've used for solo play (and managed nice hands free orgasm couple of times in conjunction with the bath tap against cock whilst using the butt plug) and have even done a crazy impulse purchase of beginner vibrating strapon. She doesn't know about any of these kinky purchases and has never actually had a sex toy, so I'm wondering how to bring these up.
I'm just a bit apprehensive on a few things which are holding me back:
a) Will this kink takeover (my enjoyment) and stop me from enjoying our more regular vanilla sex, which I do find v enjoyable. Will non anal stimulation have less of an effect?
b) Will she lose her sexual attraction to me seeing me in more vulnerable role? She has tied me up and done light domination by teasing, etc but pegging is on a completely different level.
c) I feel reasonably secure in my sexuality but what if she get's insecure about it thinking I'm going to go off with a guy (I'd never say never, but I'm only attracted to women).
Part of me feels she'd be totally up for seeing how much she can satisfy me this way, but part of me feels I'm at risk of breaking something that's already v special, for sake of a kink.
A. J. wrote:
From a stereotypical 'burly' guys point of view its methats got the hangup over it. I will admit anonymously that I really want to try it but having joked about it when my OH straight up asked if I wanted to try my knee jerk reaction was no... And I haven't been able to bring it up since! That's one reason I've put my name forward for the reviews of strapons would be a good way to say - you'll never guess what came in the post!! Maybe next time we've had a few drinks....
If she's already open to the idea you don't need to wait for a strap-on tester (which may be too much to start with anyhoo). 🙂 Have a browse of the site together and casually flick through the butt plug section ('You know, I've had a bit of a think and I may have dismissed the idea too hastily...'). Or read her some relevant threads from the forum. That's often a good conversation starter. 👍🙂
I'll link the guide section too in case you want to have a read.
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/anal-sex-toys/buyers-guide/
Alurkingnewbie wrote:
Part of me feels she'd be totally up for seeing how much she can satisfy me this way, but part of me feels I'm at risk of breaking something that's already v special, for sake of a kink.
Hello and welcome 🙂
I think an open and honest conversation with her might help you out. It's usually best to pick a time when neither of you is busy or distracted, normally somewhere outside of the bedroom, and not before or during any sexy time. Browsing the site together and chatting about all the different things you can buy can be a good opener if you can't think of a way to break the ice. 👍 There are even some apps and games you can play where you each privately tick which sex things you're interested in, and which are a hard 'no', and then it tells you all the ones you've matched on.
Kinks can sometimes turn into obessions, but not often. Normally they just get folded into the growing variety of things people do. 👍🙂
A. J. wrote:
From a stereotypical 'burly' guys point of view its methats got the hangup over it. I will admit anonymously that I really want to try it but having joked about it when my OH straight up asked if I wanted to try my knee jerk reaction was no... And I haven't been able to bring it up since! That's one reason I've put my name forward for the reviews of strapons would be a good way to say - you'll never guess what came in the post!! Maybe next time we've had a few drinks....
Look up an app called mojo upgrade. It allows you and your other half to seperately fill in a series of questions that include ones on anal sex. If both tick the same boxes, that opens up a new conversation and you go from there. You only see results where both tick yes.
Theres also the old "I was reading about....... activity and it sounded intriguing" or something along those lines, but as per Ian, an open and frank discussion outside the bedroom is best.
My wife will sometimes partake in my anal play (we have a few harnesses and she has pegged me on a handful of times) but equally knows of my enjoyment of various anal toys. When I started expanding my collection to include girthier toys (as I really enjoy the full / stretched sensation), she did 1/2 jokingly ask if I was planning on switching teams. She said it in a jovial way, but I suspect there was a little bit of fear that it might happen. I reassured her that I wasn't interested in the real thing, and that even when she has taken me with a strap on, its because its her wielding the toy that makes it so enjoyable.
About your other queries -
a) Will this kink takeover (my enjoyment) and stop me from enjoying our more regular vanilla sex, which I do find v enjoyable. Will non anal stimulation have less of an effect?
Hard to say, you may find you enjoy anal stimulation, but if you are getting pleasure, does it really matter. I enjoy anal play, but I enjoy pleasuring my wife more, to me, its an enhancement of an already enjoyable activity. If we have a time where I don't get any anal stimulation, it doesn't make it less enjoyable.
You can still enjoy both too, pop in a butt plug next time you are having sex, win/win!
b) Will she lose her sexual attraction to me seeing me in more vulnerable role? She has tied me up and done light domination by teasing, etc but pegging is on a completely different level.
Her sexual attraction to you being more vulnerable could increase? It really depends on whether or not she is normally submissive sexually and fears "taking charge", or if she relishes the opportunity to be the dominent one from time to time. Only a discussion about it can give you the answer.
c) I feel reasonably secure in my sexuality but what if she get's insecure about it thinking I'm going to go off with a guy (I'd never say never, but I'm only attracted to women).
As above, she may question what it is about anal play that appeals. An inaminate object can not and does define your sexuality. The only thing that makes you "gay" is if your gay!
Oral sex on a female is an activity that "lesbians / gay women" do, yet women don't think themselves as lesbian when their male partners perform this on them (and equally oral sex on a male is an activity that "gay men" do, yet when a female does it on their male partners, men don't think of themselves as gay).
Anal stimulation gets a bad rep and there is lots of shaming of it in many mens circles, but once you get past that and realise how much pleasure there is in it, if it weren't for the "gay thing" men would crow about their prostates being stimulated down at the pub with the boys more than pretty much any other sexual conquest.
Part of me feels she'd be totally up for seeing how much she can satisfy me this way, but part of me feels I'm at risk of breaking something that's already v special, for sake of a kink.
Talk, talk and talk some more. Reaffirm to her that you love your sex life as it is, but want to look at ways to continually evolve how you both derive pleasure.
Best of luck
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I’m a straight guy who loves anal play of all sort fingers, vibrators particularly prostate ones and pegging. Many guys think it’s gay but it’s about experimenting on yourself and a male anus has a p spot and lots of nerves that enhance pleasure. I love it even more letting my girlfriend take control and it mixes things up
I love it! My wife teases me with her fingers while I jerk myself off which makes me explode! I didn't think she'd be up for for it as she's not a fan of anal play on her but says it's a massive turn on seeing how much I enjoy it! Hopefully we'll move onto anal toys eventually and having her peg me! Fingers crossed!
I bought an entry (lol) level vibe Butt Plug is week, I do like perineum and surrounding area play with bullets, kissing , rubbing, wands and so on but I have to say after the first try I'm undecided about backdoor play , only a first proper solo try mind.
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This obviously isn’t the place for you. Your insecurities will be better catered for elsewhere.
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