Me and my wife have been trying for a baby for over a year now and still no luck. We’ve been to a fertility clinic had some tests done and results all come back good. We have sex daily sometimes twice a day when she’s in her ovulation period, and I’ve reduced masturbation during the week leading up to ovulation week just to see if that can help?! Has anyone here struggled but finally conceived? Are there any little hints or tips you would recommend? TIA
4 Likes
I think dont get stressed it will.come good .
.
1 Like
I agree with @Craig1234 time and patience is needed and lots of good loving
avoid stress/ alcohol as these don’t help
after penetration is done rest with your legs elevated
2 Likes
No advice, just wanted to send a virtual hug your way. Have walked alongside friends with similar challenging seasons and know from other folks online/podcasts that it can be really hard on the relationship with the new disappointment every month and how every shot of intimacy comes with a weight and expectation that just keeps building.
So just sending you love and light and prayers if you’ll have them. It’s a rough road, but you’re not alone.
2 Likes
Having just gone through this last 2 years, my biggest advice which will be the hardest to follow is to relax.
We got pregnant pretty quickly first time which didnt end up sticking then after that it took us 2 years of trying consistantly. We tried everything and it was only when we started to really take stock and relax about it, have sex organically then we fell pregnant again.
2 Likes
Best advice is to have sex when you want to have sex without the pressure.
Once you get temperature charts going…ovulation charts…mucus tests etc it all gets too clinical and the male can get performance issues with the pressure to perform and sex then becomes a chore. Having sex when it’s dictated to you to have sex rather than it being spontaneous isn’t fun.
I wonder if we’ll get pregnant?
Is this the time it’ll happen?
Will I be able to cum?
Is my period coming?
I know it’s far easier said than done…but honestly to relax and not stress and put pressure on each other is the best thing.
Good luck
1 Like
It took me and my wife about 6 year to conceive. Went as far as planning sex down too what felt like the exact minute step by step with no joy. But once we decided to relax and just hoped it would happen and just enjoy the trying part. We managed to get pregnant with twins.
So my advice would be just relax and enjoy the moment and hopefully it will happen for the both of you 
1 Like
We had a similar experience, and my wife had a hycosy as part of the tests they did. Literally the month after she had the hycosy we found out she was pregnant. That was possibly what actually helped as as it can help flush out any debris from fallopian tubes.
I’m not suggesting she needs it as I’m not a medical professional, but has it been raised as part of the tests at all?
No advice just sending lots of fluffy good luck love. It’s a difficult time for ye and I really hope you get the right advice and support from the medical and/or alternative therapy professionals. I have had 2 friends in the same situation and after having a miscarriage I can understand the feelings in some way. Stick together and stay in love 
I know that trying makes sex feel like a chore or a “have too” but make a nice dinner and keep the connection you have together I really do wish you both the best and know that others understand
These sort of things tend to be with the fates and will happen when time is right. Sounds like your both doing all the right stuff so fingers crossed in time it’ll happen naturally without any stresses 
Twice a day is too much if you are struggling to conceive. Once every two days is what we were told.
But stress is the biggest thing, and having sex to a timetable is a mood killer. Best advice I can give is stop trying to have a baby, and just start fucking your wife again. If you get what I mean. I know a couple that almost split up, because despite all the sex, they lost connections with each other, because it wasn’t pleasuring each other, it was to conceive, they lost each other.
I also know another couple that did twice a day for four years, gave up and starting fucking each other properly, like they used to. Anal every other time, toys, etc, all of which had stopped, and they did get pregnant eventually.
Also, like for us, despite everything looking good, we couldn’t conceive. My body they thought. Sometimes it is just the way, I’m afraid. Biology is a kicker.
Good luck, and stop trying to conceive and start fucking her again.
1 Like
We were pretty chilled about it, didn’t put pressure on each other to conceive, just spent the time having as much sex as possible.
Don’t stress over it and just enjoy the activity. Stress is one of the worst things you can do. If you’ve had tests done and they’ve come back fine then it’ll happen for you.
Make the most of being child free, don’t get me wrong they’re great and there’s nothing better but they don’t half know how to get at every last nerve and drain your energy and free time is a thing of the past 
1 Like
Are you both relatively healthy? I struggled too, went to a specialist, told me to lose weight, wasn’t that much but to get it off, 6months later I was pregnant.
I also agree with others for the sake of your relationship and sanity, dont over plan sex, it becomes more like a job, connection can slip away and you are only doing the deed.
Try some relaxation, acupuncture, reflexology or just getting drunk
Good luck!