I have always been the submissive one in our realtionship, especially in the bedroom, and over the last few months have become more and more submissive in our daily realtionship.
Me misbehaving has resulted in various punishments, often a bloody good spanking. I received one a couple of weeks ago for being a brat, a few days later I was answering back, O/H said I obviously had not learnt my lesson so my punishment would be a daily spanking for 7 days!!!
Yesterday was day 6 (my cheeks have taken some punishment this week with various spanking implements) after my spanking we had a chat and O/H suggested that a weekly maintenance spanking would be a good idea as I had not misbehaved at all this week, so a weekly reminder may keep me in order and that I should now be his sub 24/7, doing as I am told when I am told, without answering back or being a brat. Thinking about it I liked the idea of this, so have agreed to it, with safe words in place.
This will start properly at 10am this morning (when daughter goes to work) I have been told to present myself in his office at 10am when I be given the rules to being his sub, I will then receive the final spanking of my 7 day punishment and will also be given my orders for the day.
So wondered how many subs do receive maintenance spankings, or how many doms give them, do they keep you or your sub in order and make you/them think twice about misbehaving?
I suppose I am spanked regularly and at different levels . Not sure its maintenance spanking though. The lowest level is hands or paddle that just warm my bottom and breasts. The most extreem is cane crop that bruises and breaks the skin so bottom and breasts cant be spanked for a few days or a week after. I may get punishment on soles of feet and vagina inbetween. Xx
Knowing couples with such a relationship that's etweennyeh two of you. I'm aware of one of my friends gives her sub a maintenance spanking every Friday night to keep her in line and remind her who's boss and hopefully minimise inter fractions over the weekend. how bad it is depends on their behaviour during the week even tho they will have had the punishment for whatever they did.
Wouldn't maintenance spankings actually reduce the effectiveness of them as a punishment?
If you are wanting to exert a level of control over the sub, there has to be a form of stick / carrot doesn't there? If you keep spanking as a regular occurrence, then the stick element of that equation would be reduced in my opinion.
By all means, keep a tally of indescretions during the week and deliver the punishment on a set day, but there should be a reason for it I would think.
I think the theory is that if you like receiving spankings, you may well be "naughty" just to get a spanking. Therefore, if you have a maintenance spanking scheduled, you'll be less likely to be naughty just to get one.
It is one of the reasons we don't do spankings for punishment reasons. I love being spanked, so it isn't a punishment!
We often do spanking in either roll play or as punishment while in sex and to do with sexual behaviour. I am the submissive and in the bedroom love to obey my mistress and we often have a bit of public play and challenges or things I have to do around the house to get rewards instead of punishment. That’s as far as it goes for us though we don’t do domination in our day to day life.
My hubby’s the dominant one in the relationship and especially in the bedroom department, if I’ve done something ‘naughty’ my punishment is getting spanked, if I’ve been really bad then spankings are hard and leave me red raw , I’m very naughty on a daily basis, especially when I answer back to him, he puts me across his lap and I take it like the naughty wife I am
Sometimes life gets super busy or filled with stress and it weighs me down and I feel disconnected from my submission. When that happens I can ask for spankings or other tasks to help ground me again. But we have different things that we use for daily maintenance, like I have to kneel in my collar for a period of time each night, and I have to do tasks and send him photos as evidence. I also keep a submissive journal which I try write in 3x a week to help keep that headspace. I can write about anything I like, and I can keep it private or share.
, I’m very naughty on a daily basis, especially when I answer back to him, he puts me across his lap and I take it like the naughty wife I am