Hi all! I’m new here and trying to explore more about sex.
I would like to know what women like to hear from their husbands when making love.
on my case, I am trying to incorporate dirty talk to my sex live in my marriage. even we have great sex we do not talk too much, but it is something I would love it, my wife is very religous and she has many taboos, , I started already with some stuff and seems she likes it, so our talking is mostly like: love you are so wet tonight, your tool is big and hard, throw me your milk. but I would like to go further…
the other day, we were making it a bit roughly, (she loves to make it hard ), so she asked me for the first time to fuck her as harder as I can, and I repplied her that I will treat her and fuck her as a bitch… I was very surprised she reacted very well and beg me to be my bitch.
do many women love to hear their husbands calling them bitch? (I always wanted to say it to my wife, but avoid it for many time because I was worried she wouldn’t like it) I always had that in my mind, I heard many times my dad saying that to my mom when they were doing their things in their bedroom, so I thought it cool
what other things you like your husbands tell you on the bed?
For me dirty talk is a must and the ruder the better
I recall once my husband was enjoying me and close to climax when he suddenly said he wanted to mouth fk me - I loved this as it’s so naughty and after he finished I asked if he wanted to mouth fk me - he was nervous but I said I love the rude talk and I would love him to mouth f*^k me
As time went on we extended our sex talk and now anything goes as we know it’s all fun pillow talk
So just go for it - I’m sure she realised it’s just sex talk - just do it
Love your open mind @batjamboree I wish my wife was as open minded as you are. I know her parents were very strict and sex was to bring children into this world.
my wife also came from a very strict family, and all sex related things are really bad looked. it took me some time to start trying to say something. first time I called her bitch, I was really afraid because I thought she wouldn’t like it, but I needed it to say it. I’m glad she like it.
sometimes I feel we need to say it in the moment or ask it in the moment when the things are rolling, if I ask her randomly : is it ok for you if I call you bitch when we are on the bed? i will probably get a slap on my face.
It depends on the person, and sex really doesn’t have a “one size fits all”.
My suggestion would be to explore what she likes, any particularly fantasy she may have? For a few examples.
Someone who really likes to be dominated may like:
“You belong to me”
“Who owns these holes”
“Make me cum, this is what you are used for”
Someone who enjoys being idolised and compliments will like:
“You feel so tight”
“Your going to make me cum so hard”
“Iv never felt this good”
“You know just the right way to use your mouth and pussy”
Someone who likes the idea of a gangbang or similar fantasy may like:
“Everyone is looking at how dirty you are”
“Imagine all of your holes filled while being used by so many other big cocks”
“Look at how good you are taking all this cock, such a good girl for me and everyone else”
As I said, it’s not a one size fits all, the route to making it work will be understanding your partner and making sure you say the things she likes and enjoys.
Terms like “good girl” “my toy” “beautiful” etc are pretty versatile. But you will need to explore what suddenly gets the session hot and what gets your partner wet and ready
My wife tells me to ‘fill her pussy up’ she has asked me to pull out and shoot on her bush (when she grows one). Other sexy talk is about imaginary group sex and BDSM ideas. She has suggested that I finish in her bum more than once. I’ve also said I want to finish by give her a facial, which she eagerly agreed to. She has quite an imagination when it comes to sex talk. It’s what keeps things interesting but it’s best not to over do it, keep bit for those really sexy times when you are both up for it.
Mrs W here … whenever we make love, whether it be me with Mr W or me with Penelope, bad language, rudeness, pet-names and name-calling is always used … it even happened with the 2 individual partners I had prior to Mr W. I guess that some people may have some verbal boundaries …
I love it especially when he calls me his dirty slut or whore amongst other things. Were into BDSM though and slight degradation and humiliation is one of my kinks so it doesnt have to be in bed either.
We went away the other weeknd and incorporated degradation into quite an intense scene where he just wrote awful things all over my body and then made me pose for pictures. Its all consented and negotiated though, and the nicest bit was my aftercare, when he came into the shower to wash it all off me while telling me how amazing i am and how much he loves me.
My husband and I were both raised Christian - he Protestant me reformed Catholic - but you best believe we’re two filtthy people. We’re into taboo sex and all sorts! Just because someone is (or was1) religious, they’re still a human being.
One of the things my husband does - that I find super hot - is he makes me reaffirm what I am and what I like, but he spices it up a bit too. For example, he really loves calling me his cksucker, so instead of just saying "you’re my cksucker", he emphasises it and makes me reaffirm it - “you’re my filthy little c*ksucker, aren’t you?”
Swap c*cksucker for bitch and you’re away
If you call a woman something, she can brush it off. If you ask her to affirm it for herself, it’s much harder to ignore, and therefore more effective. Just make sure there is lots and lots of aftercare after
I think it’s probably different for everyone and totally dependent on the dynamic of the people doing it. For us, we don’t really do much in the way of name-calling whilst fucking, but might tell each other how filthy they are, and describing other scenarios at the same time.
E.g. whilst thrusting into her:
“You’d love it if there was a cock in your mouth as well, wouldn’t you?”
“And you’d love to watch that, wouldn’t you?”
We tend to call each other a while rainbow of expletives and add ‘my’ filthy/pissy/dirty/horny/greedy to them: wh@re (but pronounced heur in a Belfast accent), c#nt, b!tch, c@ck, f#ck, b@stard etc.
One that I never thought I’d enjoy and gave me the ick was ‘daddy’. Very vomit inducing, until I said it jokingly one day and he loved it, that surprised us both lol never said it to anyone else and probably never would.
…also I forgot to get milk when I was out earlier, kinda ok with that now