I’m a 35 year old male and have had several sexual partners over the years. Not loads, but a few. The problem I have is, I’ve NEVER managed to ejaculate during sex. I’ve often had to fake it (which is strange as it’s usually the females doing it haha) as otherwise the sex goes on FAR too long.
I know that a lot of guys may think “why is he even complaining about lasting too long?” but it’s the fact that I’ve never managed to actually finish during sex. The fact I can last ages is nice, but I’m fed up of never being able to finish, regardless of who I’ve slept with over the years.
Having been single for several years, I got into the habit of masturbating quite often (and manage to ejaculate fast & easy when doing so) and watching a lot of porn, so this is probably something to do with it. I’ve gone the past 2 weeks without masturbating and not looking at porn, hoping that it may help, but after sleeping with my new partner earlier today I had the exact same issue happen… I just couldn’t finish.
I’ve read about something called “death grip” from watching too much porn and masturbating too much, so perhaps it’s that, but I was just curious if there were any supplements out there that can help me to ejaculate quicker, as I’m willing to look at any options available at the moment. I’m going to carry on not masturbating to see if it helps, but it doesn’t seem likely to help at the moment, unless I need to wait longer than 2 weeks. I actually would love to have children as well, but the fact that I’ve NEVER been able to ejaculate during sex is making me really sad.
Any help is massively appreciated anyway, thanks in advance.
My sexual partner had the same issue and it took him a few weeks of mostly daily sex to get used to the change in sensation. As far as I know he didn’t take anything or do anything different except be really turned on
Is there something you find really exciting that you could incorporate into PIV? I know its hard not to overthink it, but that really will make it harder for you to orgasm.
When you feel this tense your legs and give all you got will help you climax, better if your partner in on top and stretch your legs and flex your feet downwards this tightens your muscles in your pelvic area and give you more intense feeling when climaxing
I don’t know for sure but I suspect the porn may be the issue. Porn gives you a different view of how actual sex is likely to be. I would try removing all porn for at least a month and try to concentrate the mind on your partner, you need to relax and enjoy being together.
I’m in the total same situation and for me it’s mostly that I’m on antidepressants what stop me from finishing but also over thinking can add to the pressure especially if your used to it not happening and then when you try your mind has subliminally already decided it won’t happen again…
Try another tablet…… there are 100s just need to find the right one for you!
I had citalopram and couldn’t cum at all now on
sertraline and all
Is good!
