Someone just asked me to do some chat domination and I have no idea what I’m doing can someone please help me with ideas
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I have just had a four hour on line session with a Mistress.
It went like this.
The day before we chatted. She told me to do two things, cage myself and bury the keys and to buy some sissy knickers. Both of which I did and sent her photos to prove it.
On the night she asked various questions and told me to strip naked.
I was then allowed after some time to wear the pants. I was instructed to kneel throughout our chat and only allowed to stand when she allowed.
She set me a task to write a short essay on why I liked to wear my cage,
After she instructed me to dress in a wet look outfit ( my wife’s)
Eventually she chose some nipple clamps for me to put on from my collection and to wear a butt plug( first time for me)
I was then allowed to stand and she took a break.
After an hour we chatted again
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Is this something you’re in to? Do they want you to be the domme?
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@jocat yes they want to be dominated and it will be my first time so that could be interesting
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Thank you you’ve given me some good ideas.
Set clear boundaries, as well as safe words. These are just as important during online scenes/sessions as in person. You should be discussing all of this with the person beforehand, asking what they want, what crosses the line, and also answering these questions yourself, as you’ve not done this before.
I’ve had many individuals to push/cross boundaries that were agreed to, and it’s very important that you stick to them.
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@MissTery is this with a new partner or what is the connection? It sounds like you have to find out what is there turn on and what they are into. What ever happens sounds like you are up for it and should have a great time. i hope you enjoy it.
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Also quick addition! (Playing video games as I’m thinking so my thoughts aren’t completely whole right now 
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There’s different types of domination, so it’s also important to establish what kind they’re looking for. Is it just verbal domination, or are they seeking financial domination? Do they have specific wants from you? Eg. For you to humilate or degrade them, praise, etc.
These are all super important things you should be establishing before entering a dom/sub dynamic, even a short term or online one
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I agree with @RacyRosalee you need to have this conversation with the person themselves but its good to know what types of things to ask and think about so thats where the forum will be helpful.
You need to understand what domination means to them, when they picture it what does it look like? I love to be dominated but I don’t want to be humiliated or degraded. You need to understand what those mean for the person receiving this.
For example, people may feel that being called a slut is degrading, I don’t and thats where specifics come into it. An ex called me a slut and he wasn’t being sexy when he said it, my partner calls me his slut and has carved it into my stomach (I’ve spoke about this before, I love it, no kink shaming please). Two very different scenarios but one of those may cause a blanket ban on the word for someone else.
You need to know what after care they need. What after care means for them and you need to be aware that this will affect you too and you may need after care yourself.
The sub/dom(me) dynamic is liberating, I’ve dabbled in both sides and I’m all sub with a streak of brat 
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@MissTery does dominating turn you on?
It’s someone who I don’t know who approached me about starting this kind of relationship. It’s been interesting doing it. I really didn’t have a clue what I was doing. I asked what his expectations were. I think he just wants someone to join in with his fetish.
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@Dom624 domination turns me on sometimes when I’m in the right frame of mind. In my last relationship I was definitely more submissive but I haven’t always been that way.
@JoCat you’re right. I did ask about if he wanted to be humiliated etc because I wasn’t really sure how to do that. But that’s not what he was looking for. Just wants to be told what to do and to have to ask permission to finish himself off. He also likes to play with food so I think he wants someone to be part of that with him, someone he doesn’t know in real life.
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Good luck with the domination, sounds like you have found someone to dominate. @MissTery
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How is it going? Have you denied him orgasms yet? 
Honestly I saw SW’ers and assumed slimming world peeps … lol
I thought the same @FortySomethingWife, I’ve commented on this thread already, and I feel like I had the brainpower then to know what the SWers means and now I’ve no idea 
@MissTery, put me out of my misery, whats SWers?!
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@FortySomethingWife @JoCat
SW is a common online abbreviation for sex work
adding the ‘ers’ makes it sex workers, although the confusion could lead to interesting conversations
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That’s it! I wonder did I realise when I commented
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@MissTery as long as you are being sexually satisfied from it and it’s not just for him. Giving a blow job or fucking when not in the mood is one thing but domination is very different