I’m like you and thinking it’s unlikely we’ll find a couple that work for everyone. But maybe a third who works. 
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Very good idea I hadn’t thought of that!!
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We are very tempted but nothing local please let us know of your experience good luck
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A quick google map search of adult entertainment venues shows the variety available nationally.
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South wales
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This is a fantasy of mine for sure, and like mentioned on another post, wife and I joke about it a lot, even around other friends but I don’t know if we could ever go through with it. It peaks my curiosity for sure and I’d think her joking about it (she is actually usually the one that mentions it) means she’s really kind of interested? A lot of the time when we watch porn it’s threesomes or couple swapping that we gravitate to. Does that mean anything? Is this how others eventually moved to the next step? I’d definitely go to a swingers club to watch if she ever would.
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My husband and I have started down this road recently, we are also near to Untamed in Bournemouth and wanting to give it a go (finding free time at the moment is proving tricky 
). We have joined SwingHub though, and have been to a social event which was brilliant! Got to know some people, made a couple of connections that we are exploring and made some new friends! Everyone is really lovely and welcoming.
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Interesting perspective.
The wife and I have only been to one club, and our experience was way different.
We saw plenty of totally nude people at it, and with surprising concern (it seemed) for viewers’ pleasure.
We didn’t have sex, but we did give eachother oral and we were both totally on display - not much was left to the imagination. Plenty of people crowding around keen to show their ‘enthusiasm’.
I did definitely feel weirdly like I was on display though… but she loved that.
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Not everyone is for everyone. You’ll be for some, but not for others - as is life.
These kinds of environments, as is my experience and understanding, has those who just are horny individuals who want to watch some action, and others who want to be watched. Most don’t care too much what the voyeurs/exhibitionists look like.
Just go in with an open mind.
Hope you both take a plunge and enjoy! It’s all just a bit of fun, after all.
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It’s been said before, but a positive presentation – confidence, sociability, and good grooming – can significantly influence attraction, regardless of body type. I had a very fulfilling relationship with someone of that build, and the chemistry was undeniable.
I’ve been twice with a partner. Was a very long time ago but the experience was positive.
We were both turned on by the idea but were a bit cautious. Loved the idea of voyuerism but didn’t want to end up going too far or being in situations out of our depth. We were also concerned about single men and being smothered with unwanted attention. But think main thing we done our research on venues, looked at reviews and feedback and were reassured single men were not allowed on specific nights. Netherthe less we were still nervous but finally plucked up courage and went for it!
We were a bit shy and at first the venue was a little quiet. Steadily things began to develop couples began to play, audiences formed and some quite intense stuff began to happen. We thought we’d better start to mingle rather than look like spare parts sitting all night at the bar!
We watched a few goings on, began to feed off the moment and took a deep breath and began the instigate something ourselves. We’d set limitations prior and we were a bit nervous but my partner unzipped me and performed oral sex on me similar to what @Gareth-described in his post. At the same time I raised my partners dress hem, exposed her stocking tops, reached round and played with her.
Both of us said after her hearts were beating wildly. We were nervous and a small crowd gathered. After a while they dispersed because something a lot more naughty was going on in a room next door (which we didn’t mind as it took the pressure off us)! One attractive, older couple stayed, they continued to watch .We played softly for a while, my partner was bi so the two ladies made out, kissed and explored, and my partners beasts were then exposed. After we all just had a chilled drink at the bar together.
A few months later we went back and the same couple arranged to meet us. That made us more secure. Similar thing happened again, this time the ladies got a bit more bold, went into something what I think is known as a “touch box”. They couldn’t see but they could be touched and pleasured by mysterious exploring hands 
But overall despite my initial reservations my experiences of swingers clubs were good. Not something I’d do all the time but so long as you do your research, set boundaries and limits, choose your night and pluck the courage up to go I think you are fine. And so long as you do make a contribution even with limits when you’re there rather than sit at the bar all night like a spare part
The positives were us we made acquaintances with the nice couple we met. In private we went onto have a few social, non sexual meets, a couple of mmff foursomes and my partner having some one on one sex with the female
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Interesting… maybe because it was abroad 
There’s Chameleon (Glasshouse) in Newport @AWB1955 I wonder if @MrGoodGuy or anybody else here has ever been to it.
That’s it’s sister club (they are twins )
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The one in Birmingham would have been fine for fun before I moved north of the boarder to the land of kilts and haggis. @MrGoodGuy I think you could do a guide to swing clubs kind of like the Michelin Restaurant Guide.
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It’s been the same for us. On all our visits there were plenty of naked bodies, sex to watch and it’s not been everywhere not just the rooms. If you really want to put on a show watch porn for tips, the positions they use are aimed at the camera view. Blowjobs, girl on top and missionary with her legs raised can all give a clearer view and use longer thrusting stokes.
As for age some clubs do have nights aimed at different ages or kinks. Check their calendar but on an average night there will be many 50 somethings and bodies of all shapes
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Hi, thought I would give a little update on this.
H and I had discussed boundaries etc at length, consulted our diaries and pencilled in a night to go.
Fortunately I checked the website before we booked a hotel as disappointingly the club has closed. Such a shame as it was close enough for us to visit a few times before taking the plunge to get involved with other people.
The idea of an organised event with a guest list, and hence the pressure to participate straight away just doesn’t appeal to us. And neither does trawling through profiles, messages and chats on a website like Fab. 
Oh well, there’s still lots of fun for us to explore together.
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It’s unfortunate the club you were looking at has closed. If you are still interested and looking again in the future Swinghub might give you additional options of events etc near to your location.
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Thanks for the suggestion but the appeal of Untamed was the weekly relaxed social, which was explicit in that there was no expectation to play and those new to the experience were welcome. It was a non pressured opportunity to meet and chat with like-minded people. We thought it could lead to a more organic connection.
I can’t imagine that at an organised event newbies who might not be up for participating, would be made particularly welcome.
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I think if you have the guts to go in the first place don’t worry about your looks. I am sure others will be feeling the same. 
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