Sounds perfect 
A little more info
Sitting at home over a cup of tea, talking about your thoughts, limits, desires and fantasy is certainly a good idea
But typically, in a club, with alcohol, the environment - getting very horny - being scantily clad, seeing others looking sexy as hell
And we all know once in the act, you get revved up even more
Suddenly u may find yourselves going further than intended, can be good tho, cos it’s a great way of expanding your limits.
But what happens in the club, shud be left there if negative, u were doing it together, not cheating, and u learn by it.
You can also start in darker areas for modesty.
A club in the Midlands has glass ceilings/floors
So people can look down into the room below.
The room below is fairly dimly lit, so it can be a great way to start. As you can’t see much but occasionally you look up and see 2 or 3 sexy couples looking down watching you.
Usually they move on after 5 10 mins, so nothing full on
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I’m really keen to try this too, but logistically how does it work. Presumably I have to like the man in the other couple and my husband has to like the women? What if I like the man but the women doesn’t like my husband…? 
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Are you talking about swinging or being watched while you have sex?
If it’s swinging, yes it very much matters you both like the other couple
If it’s being watched, it’s either luck of the draw who’s walking by, or pre arranged, it’s up to you both?
We’ve never done a pre arrangement, but I’d imagine there’s gotta be some kind of attraction, after all your letting strangers see something very intimate and personal
Plus a private arrangement would probably lean towards being a lot closer and more exposed
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I’m meaning swinging. I suppose I’m curious at the chances of meeting a couple you both find attractive and they both find us attractive. Maybe I’m overthinking it…
Being watched doesn’t really turn me on but the excitement of fucking someone new after 25 years 100% does….
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I’m like you and thinking it’s unlikely we’ll find a couple that work for everyone. But maybe a third who works. 
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Very good idea I hadn’t thought of that!!
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Clubs are probably the best environment to invoke this
U can also look for people on a site such as fab or fun swingers - establishing a relationship with another couple over a period of time
Alternatively mingling in a club then dipping into a private room, either together or different rooms on your own with new partners
This is a very taboo and dodgy topic, and dabbling with soft play first maybe better, u may say your fine with it, but things change in the act, with jealousy and moods
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We are very tempted but nothing local please let us know of your experience good luck
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Where are you based?
A quick google map search of adult entertainment venues shows the variety available nationally.
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South wales
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Few in the Midlands like xtasia and chameleons not too far away
Chams is a dress down club, and has a fantastic atmosphere and ammeneties, def worth a few visits
This is a fantasy of mine for sure, and like mentioned on another post, wife and I joke about it a lot, even around other friends but I don’t know if we could ever go through with it. It peaks my curiosity for sure and I’d think her joking about it (she is actually usually the one that mentions it) means she’s really kind of interested? A lot of the time when we watch porn it’s threesomes or couple swapping that we gravitate to. Does that mean anything? Is this how others eventually moved to the next step? I’d definitely go to a swingers club to watch if she ever would.
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My husband and I have started down this road recently, we are also near to Untamed in Bournemouth and wanting to give it a go (finding free time at the moment is proving tricky 
). We have joined SwingHub though, and have been to a social event which was brilliant! Got to know some people, made a couple of connections that we are exploring and made some new friends! Everyone is really lovely and welcoming.
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Interesting perspective.
The wife and I have only been to one club, and our experience was way different.
We saw plenty of totally nude people at it, and with surprising concern (it seemed) for viewers’ pleasure.
We didn’t have sex, but we did give eachother oral and we were both totally on display - not much was left to the imagination. Plenty of people crowding around keen to show their ‘enthusiasm’.
I did definitely feel weirdly like I was on display though… but she loved that.
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Not everyone is for everyone. You’ll be for some, but not for others - as is life.
These kinds of environments, as is my experience and understanding, has those who just are horny individuals who want to watch some action, and others who want to be watched. Most don’t care too much what the voyeurs/exhibitionists look like.
Just go in with an open mind.
Hope you both take a plunge and enjoy! It’s all just a bit of fun, after all.
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Think your lucky to find such a club
We’ve been to a fair few clubs across the uk, a fair few times, and can’t say we’ve ever seen anything remotely similar
It’s been said before, but a positive presentation – confidence, sociability, and good grooming – can significantly influence attraction, regardless of body type. I had a very fulfilling relationship with someone of that build, and the chemistry was undeniable.
I’ve been twice with a partner. Was a very long time ago but the experience was positive.
We were both turned on by the idea but were a bit cautious. Loved the idea of voyuerism but didn’t want to end up going too far or being in situations out of our depth. We were also concerned about single men and being smothered with unwanted attention. But think main thing we done our research on venues, looked at reviews and feedback and were reassured single men were not allowed on specific nights. Netherthe less we were still nervous but finally plucked up courage and went for it!
We were a bit shy and at first the venue was a little quiet. Steadily things began to develop couples began to play, audiences formed and some quite intense stuff began to happen. We thought we’d better start to mingle rather than look like spare parts sitting all night at the bar!
We watched a few goings on, began to feed off the moment and took a deep breath and began the instigate something ourselves. We’d set limitations prior and we were a bit nervous but my partner unzipped me and performed oral sex on me similar to what @Gareth-described in his post. At the same time I raised my partners dress hem, exposed her stocking tops, reached round and played with her.
Both of us said after her hearts were beating wildly. We were nervous and a small crowd gathered. After a while they dispersed because something a lot more naughty was going on in a room next door (which we didn’t mind as it took the pressure off us)! One attractive, older couple stayed, they continued to watch .We played softly for a while, my partner was bi so the two ladies made out, kissed and explored, and my partners beasts were then exposed. After we all just had a chilled drink at the bar together.
A few months later we went back and the same couple arranged to meet us. That made us more secure. Similar thing happened again, this time the ladies got a bit more bold, went into something what I think is known as a “touch box”. They couldn’t see but they could be touched and pleasured by mysterious exploring hands 
But overall despite my initial reservations my experiences of swingers clubs were good. Not something I’d do all the time but so long as you do your research, set boundaries and limits, choose your night and pluck the courage up to go I think you are fine. And so long as you do make a contribution even with limits when you’re there rather than sit at the bar all night like a spare part
The positives were us we made acquaintances with the nice couple we met. In private we went onto have a few social, non sexual meets, a couple of mmff foursomes and my partner having some one on one sex with the female
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