Hi, my hubbie and I are interested in going to a club. Never been before, complete newbies.
Untamed in Bournemouth is not too far from us and seems it’s a nice, friendly place. Does anyone on here go there?
We are a little nervous as firstly we’re looking to watch and be watched rather than play with others but also we’re both early 50’s and hubbie is a chunky guy, me slightly overweight. Will we be out of place?
TIA x
We have recently been to a local one to us for the first time and had all the same questions as you. Not the same club as you mention.
We are both 50+
We like the Voyeurism/Exhibitionism aspects and being in a totally sexually free environment. It’s an amazing feeling.
You won’t be out of place. Everyone is very accepting and friendly. We chatted to a number of people and had a great time before exploring the play areas. We only played together.
See if the club has a message forum for upcoming dates/events. You can ask questions on there to put your mind at ease.
We can’t wait for our next visit.
Thank you, I really appreciate the supportive replies.
I can absolutely see that we need to make our intentions clear from the outset (at least as they are now, lol) so as not to waste people’s time. Thank you for pointing that out MrGoodGuy
It’s as exciting as it is nerve wracking. I’ve read a few reviews of the club and all are positive but are mostly from younger people. Hence, my slight reticence in just taking the step/leap? and going.
Arry069, I’m hoping we feel the same way as you after our first visit. We’d like somewhere we can go, have fun and be able to express ourselves sexually both physically and in conversation. Sex never comes up in conversation really with our current friends, and we find it quite an interesting subject!
I don’t think you will feel out of place 
the main idea is to just embrace the evening while enjoying yourself. If it don’t feel right environment for you then it’s probably not the right club 
I would agree with others, we have been contemplating for a while and from all the research ive done, it really doesnt matter about your age or size.
We are waiting until a convenient killing kittens party comes up which we will potentially attend and that was the only organisers that used to do invites based on apperance/age but they have stopped that now from what I hear.
All local events should in theory be really accomodating and freindly atmosphere.
I’d love to have an audience in this type of situation
Majority of the excitement I get from camming is showing myself off
We aren’t swingers but I am friends with and connected with people in my local swinger and kink community.
I’ve actually been invited to swinger events and although we don’t swing I’ve been encouraged to check them out for the socializing and as a place to enjoy time with my wife. Once the weather warms up we might do that a bit.
I think it’s about connecting with people who appreciate you and the things you all enjoy. That’s a great feeling.
Me and my husband are looking for the same thing, I have been 2 one in London with a girlfriend just 2 watch and see how it all works and now me and my husband wants 2 try some out. Just need to find the right place and the right people x
Have a look on somewhere like Fab Swingers to find places to go and see some reviews, Good Luck.
I’ve been out of curiosity looking at what goes on in my local area
I saw one private group that has arranged meets at a private house
They have mixed couples and singles with a controlled ratio of single guys
They have an enquiry from to complete
I’m very tempted to see what the possibilities are
Its something we are thinking about trying out.
For us it would be others watching us having sex and watching other couples not looking to swap or join in with others.
Found a curvy night that would really suit us.
We’ve found somewhere we think we’d enjoy too.
We have agreed that the first time it’s just to suss things out. Beyond that we’ll think and talk about where we’d like it to take us.
Hope you have fun. x
Thank you. Yes that was our thoughts check it out first and see what its all about and then take it from there.
If we don’t try we will never know.
Hope you enjoy.
Us too - love the idea of watching and being watched… haven’t found the right place yet but keeping on looking!
Hmmm, I think you’re making some valid observations. Did you still find it enjoyable being in that environment with like minded people?
Having been do##ing a few times in my younger days I’m imagining it will be a little like that but in warmer, more salubrious surroundings! Putting on a show isn’t necessarily the same as being watched and enjoying what you’re doing with the other people an added turn-on.
But we’re going with an open mind, and no expectations as such.
Thank you, this sounds a perfect approach for us.
Sounds perfect 
I’m really keen to try this too, but logistically how does it work. Presumably I have to like the man in the other couple and my husband has to like the women? What if I like the man but the women doesn’t like my husband…? 
I’m meaning swinging. I suppose I’m curious at the chances of meeting a couple you both find attractive and they both find us attractive. Maybe I’m overthinking it…
Being watched doesn’t really turn me on but the excitement of fucking someone new after 25 years 100% does….