Hi, my hubbie and I are interested in going to a club. Never been before, complete newbies.
Untamed in Bournemouth is not too far from us and seems it’s a nice, friendly place. Does anyone on here go there?
We are a little nervous as firstly we’re looking to watch and be watched rather than play with others but also we’re both early 50’s and hubbie is a chunky guy, me slightly overweight. Will we be out of place?
TIA x
We have recently been to a local one to us for the first time and had all the same questions as you. Not the same club as you mention.
We are both 50+
We like the Voyeurism/Exhibitionism aspects and being in a totally sexually free environment. It’s an amazing feeling.
You won’t be out of place. Everyone is very accepting and friendly. We chatted to a number of people and had a great time before exploring the play areas. We only played together.
See if the club has a message forum for upcoming dates/events. You can ask questions on there to put your mind at ease.
We can’t wait for our next visit.
Hi
You’ll stand out like a sore thumb…
(in your heads)
In reality, you’ll just be another couple, the same as everyone else, with others having no idea your first timers.
These kind of places thrive on friendliness, cos your not going to be swapping intimacy with unfriendly people are you?
We used to go for the exhibition side, and no matter your shape or size, you’ll never struggle to find an audience, equally usually there are people frolicking who want to be watched.
The only slightly negatives…
U can’t always see what’s going on when watching, and obviously your not going to get up close and personal lol
U might experience some couples who are there to swing, and won’t invest time in couples who aren’t.
Be clear in conversation, from the start so no false intentions.
You’ll find couples who will watch privately, and be watched that won’t hassle to swing.
And yes, it’s as hot, horny, exciting and intense as you may think, having people watch u.
And yes, u do tend to forget your being watched sometimes.
We once did it in a video room, the image being broadcast in the social area… Now that gets your pulse racing!!!
Thank you, I really appreciate the supportive replies.
I can absolutely see that we need to make our intentions clear from the outset (at least as they are now, lol) so as not to waste people’s time. Thank you for pointing that out MrGoodGuy
It’s as exciting as it is nerve wracking. I’ve read a few reviews of the club and all are positive but are mostly from younger people. Hence, my slight reticence in just taking the step/leap? and going.
Arry069, I’m hoping we feel the same way as you after our first visit. We’d like somewhere we can go, have fun and be able to express ourselves sexually both physically and in conversation. Sex never comes up in conversation really with our current friends, and we find it quite an interesting subject!
I don’t think you will feel out of place 
the main idea is to just embrace the evening while enjoying yourself. If it don’t feel right environment for you then it’s probably not the right club 
I would agree with others, we have been contemplating for a while and from all the research ive done, it really doesnt matter about your age or size.
We are waiting until a convenient killing kittens party comes up which we will potentially attend and that was the only organisers that used to do invites based on apperance/age but they have stopped that now from what I hear.
All local events should in theory be really accomodating and freindly atmosphere.
I’d love to have an audience in this type of situation
Majority of the excitement I get from camming is showing myself off
We aren’t swingers but I am friends with and connected with people in my local swinger and kink community.
I’ve actually been invited to swinger events and although we don’t swing I’ve been encouraged to check them out for the socializing and as a place to enjoy time with my wife. Once the weather warms up we might do that a bit.
I think it’s about connecting with people who appreciate you and the things you all enjoy. That’s a great feeling.
Me and my husband are looking for the same thing, I have been 2 one in London with a girlfriend just 2 watch and see how it all works and now me and my husband wants 2 try some out. Just need to find the right place and the right people x
Have a look on somewhere like Fab Swingers to find places to go and see some reviews, Good Luck.
I’ve been out of curiosity looking at what goes on in my local area
I saw one private group that has arranged meets at a private house
They have mixed couples and singles with a controlled ratio of single guys
They have an enquiry from to complete
I’m very tempted to see what the possibilities are
Its something we are thinking about trying out.
For us it would be others watching us having sex and watching other couples not looking to swap or join in with others.
Found a curvy night that would really suit us.
We’ve found somewhere we think we’d enjoy too.
We have agreed that the first time it’s just to suss things out. Beyond that we’ll think and talk about where we’d like it to take us.
Hope you have fun. x
Thank you. Yes that was our thoughts check it out first and see what its all about and then take it from there.
If we don’t try we will never know.
Hope you enjoy.
Us too - love the idea of watching and being watched… haven’t found the right place yet but keeping on looking!
Just to explore that watching /being watched
When we went to clubs, and hoped to watch (& be watched) I painted a picture in my head, a graphic picture, much like watching a porn movie.
I had visions of naked couples, with easy viewing of cocks sliding in and out of vaginas, pussy and ass being eaten, an hour on porn hub so to speak
However, the reality is somewhat different.
Theres never an abundance of this going on, orgy rooms are probably the liveliest, if you don’t mind being in that kinda environment.
Couples at clubs tend to dress obviously, but that doesn’t always make good viewing.
So you’ll see couples “At It”, but you won’t see much detail.
And it’s hardly proper to go too close, sticking your head in for closer viewing. 
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Equally, when you are in full coitus you don’t think about what body parts are being shown to your audience, cos your at it.
It’s something to be mindful of, as is clothing, all depends on what you want to show off naked wise, what your wife may be comfortable with.
Being comfortable with how you look is a must, and what you may look like shagging
Also keeping an erection may be a thing with an audience (may be a few people!)
Then that’s a vicious circle, cos u can’t get hard and u know your being watched
And how much do you want to show off?
Having sex, trying to put on a show, where you expose body bits can be quite a challenge, then it loses its intimacy as your shagging to entertain, if you get what I’m saying.
TL DR
It’s not what you think it is!
Ultimately you’ll end up just watching two clothed people together, watching one go up and down - not what you see in the movies!
Hmmm, I think you’re making some valid observations. Did you still find it enjoyable being in that environment with like minded people?
Having been do##ing a few times in my younger days I’m imagining it will be a little like that but in warmer, more salubrious surroundings! Putting on a show isn’t necessarily the same as being watched and enjoying what you’re doing with the other people an added turn-on.
But we’re going with an open mind, and no expectations as such.
Typically we’d enter an area and there would be no one around, we’d get to it, then at some point you’d be aware of people watching.
Usually from a gate or something to stop close up encounters or involvement by unwanted participants.
Then it’s a case of do you carry on pretending no one else is there, or maybe you reposition yourselves to expose more?
Perhaps remove clothing to reveal flesh, make noise, be aware of your Cum Faces 
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These are all discussions to have pre club.
Will you be comfortable sitting 5ft away from a full on orgy, on a raised bed in a darkened room, can be pretty intense for the first time, especially for women.
We’ve had sex in full jacuzzis, but water hides alot, but you may get stray hands, how are you dealing with that or if couples just kinda join in.
It can be boring too, we’ve fucked in an open padded, multi lvl room, with 2 others couples at it, you can’t see much, especially as distance and clothes, and you end up forgetting they’re there, so no thrill as far as exhibitionist or voyeur wise.
We’ve fked on love swings with people watching, but again, your bare ass is about all you can see
Female glory holes are the same, your head between her legs hides most of the area
See why it’s important to have a plan, cos moving your head exposes her wet pussy.
She might not be comfortable with that, she may be when turned on - that’s a whole separate topic itself!!
Yes we enjoyed it, and the wife’s opinion did change in the club, than if we’d discussed it sober, but it definitely provided body confidence.
It does add a new level of thrill, especially if you are naked, as its something you’ll never normally do, but you do need to talk about whether you want to just do it, with an audience
Or put on a naked, full bits on display, letting your observers closer or holding back at a gate
The obvious choice is to go light, clothed, locked gates and not showing much, see how it goes, as you get braver, slowly add more.
But golden rule no. 1 make sure your BOTH comfortable with it, it’s easy to get carried away in the moment forgetting your other half may not be as enthusiastic
Just a quick add on
Theres some light options we’ve encountered too, for example
Rooms with one way glass, a viewing seated area the other side
Rooms with angled mirrors and a locked door, so people outside can see in, but not intensely
Opaque glass, with a bright light, so outside you can see a bit but not a lot
Video room, so you go in, lock the door and your broadcast to maybe a seated community area inside the club.
Yes we’ve done all of these, and a few more 
Thank you, this sounds a perfect approach for us.