The Annex at King's Lynn, couplesonly based in norfolk, couplesonly.info, seems to be a bit of a desert in that area. A bit further afield and you have Jaydees, near St Neots, Vanilla alternative on the A1 at Tempsford
sd63 wrote:
ChocolateBear wrote:
Been reading with interest. These appear to all be up North, is Google the answer to ones in London / within an hour of London? What's the etiquette on single guys attending/watching? I would absolutely participate if invited but I’m currently single and want to explore group sex/exhibitionism/voyeurism. There’s a lot of comments on ‘pervy’ guys so trying to avoid that pothole :( Somebody recently told me about Black Man’s Fan Club. Any thoughts? That and Bi-Kink, the latter of which looked veeery intense. CB x
Vanilla Alternative is just up the A1 and easily within an hour of London. There are quite a few even closer to the smoke. Arousal at Dunstable, Le Boudoir is in London, as is the Hellfire Club.
Can't speak for other clubs, but VA only allows single guys on Friday nights and then by pre-booking only. I've heard stories about couples being hassled by single guys and followed around by blokes trying to get in on any action. Etiquette says you can watch, but only join if asked...some clubs have specific couples only areas.
Thanks a lot, I'll be checking them out!!
Quite fancy going to a swingers club, as a single female, and see whether it's really my scene. I'm not sure where to find a good one in Scotland. Any tips? I'm on the west coast.
I have seen the website. It looks good. What is it like?Sam83 wrote:
Has any body ever tried Townhouse in Wirral.....? It’s our favourite by a long mile, super friendly and clean and attracts a great crowd. Chameleons is next in the list for us to try, it’s been highly recommended by friends who go. :) :)
Hi I’m D’Arcy, I’m new here. But I have been reading your messages and wondered if anyone know of any fetish clubs in London?
Intereted in goig to Vanilla Alternative after reading the comments on here.
We normally go to Angels in melkshom, but last weekend we went to Secrets in Totnes, from what i've read and seen, VA and Secrets are pretty similar. We had a great night at Secrets going on until 3.30 am. We met a couple there and had some fun with them as well as in the pool and one of the orgy rooms there. Would definitely recommend the place. Already booked for their New Years Eve party
Darcy6 wrote:
Hi I’m D’Arcy, I’m new here. But I have been reading your messages and wondered if anyone know of any fetish clubs in London?
There are loads. Club DVS, Pedestal, Torture Garden, (soon to be ending) Subversion, Toppers, London Alternative Market Afterparty, Sanctum, Club Rub, Antichrist, O&I (technically it's in Kent), Twisted (technically Bedford), Rabbit Hole, Club Femdom, Blue Door Dungeon, Zara du Rose, Future Parties. And many more.
Google London Fetish Scene Calendar for a complete list.
kelly_michelle wrote:
Darcy6 wrote:
Hi I’m D’Arcy, I’m new here. But I have been reading your messages and wondered if anyone know of any fetish clubs in London?
There are loads. Club DVS, Pedestal, Torture Garden, (soon to be ending) Subversion, Toppers, London Alternative Market Afterparty, Sanctum, Club Rub, Antichrist, O&I (technically it's in Kent), Twisted (technically Bedford), Rabbit Hole, Club Femdom, Blue Door Dungeon, Zara du Rose, Future Parties. And many more.
Google London Fetish Scene Calendar for a complete list.
Wooooah that calender is awesome! And a lot of the meets are free too :) Looks like I'll be busy until Christmas...
I don’t want to put you off ChocolateBear, but please bear in mind any event listed as a munch is more about kink than swinging. If you are looking to explore kink/fetish/bdsm they are a great place to meet people but if, as your earlier post suggests, you are looking for group sex and watching/being watched, then you may not find what you are looking for at a munch. Not all fetish clubs allow sex and some that do will have restrictions.
kelly_michelle wrote:
I don’t want to put you off ChocolateBear, but please bear in mind any event listed as a munch is more about kink than swinging. If you are looking to explore kink/fetish/bdsm they are a great place to meet people but if, as your earlier post suggests, you are looking for group sex and watching/being watched, then you may not find what you are looking for at a munch. Not all fetish clubs allow sex and some that do will have restrictions.
Hi Kelly.
Thanks. Yes I realise the 'munches' are just casual meetups :) 'Vanilla' as they say haha. I need to create a Felife profile and have a proper look at the events :D
I went to TG in July which while moderately terrifying was an incredible experience and I'm going to Antichrist and another TG next month. There's a heavy metal meet listed on LondonFetishScene I'm going to try to go to as well \m/
This thread has got me curious about visiting one. I would use a site to arrange meeting with someone, but like dating apps/sites, it’s annoying that you have to pay a subscription fee just to be able to read/send messages.
I joined swingersscotland.com out of curiosity. Quickly realised that you couldn't do much with free access so accepted the 72 hour free trial for upgraded VIP membership. Cancelled it the same day but customer service chose to take a 3 month subscription payment and cancelled it from the end of 3 months. I was (am!) furious. Lesson learned. If they want your card details in order to sign up for a trial, in order to continue membership after the free trial, don't take the free trial. 😡Gazzoid wrote:
This thread has got me curious about visiting one. I would use a site to arrange meeting with someone, but like dating apps/sites, it’s annoying that you have to pay a subscription fee just to be able to read/send messages.
We went to Pleasures on Saturday KM, awesome night! Met some lovely couples and stayed 5 hours, the food at midnight was very welcome. Both really enjoyed it and we're going again soon :)XAndyX wrote:
Thanks KM, it may happen one day!kelly_michelle wrote:
XAndyX wrote:
Has anyone tried Pleasures in Kent? We've talked about trying it but it's just going for it we struggle with! It's the only one I could find close to us in the SE.
I went quite a few years a go and used to enjoy it. The other one you could try is Eurekas which is near Brands Hatch. It is a nudist place during the day (with some swinging activity going on) and has specific swinging parties at the weekend.
So, we went to VA again, this time on a Friday night.....whole different dynamic to the place. We figured that as, it seemed very difficult to 'break into' some of the obviously established circles that go to the club, we'd give a Friday night a go, where they club allows a limited number of single guys in..the though process being that it would be easier to involve a single guy than a male half of a couple and leave the female 'unoccupied'
Surreal...very surreal....Mrs D was still very nervous about things and we ended up just playing together...the surreal part was the fact that not three feet away were several single guys 'enjoying' wantching......there's a tick in the 'never done that before' box
One thing we found, and this is one big plus about clubs, everyone is extremely respectful, you'd think, with such a male heavy environment, that there would be a deal of 'pushiness' about trying to get in on any action.....none, not a bit....most nightclubs, if I'd left Mrs D alone for any length of time, there'd proabbaly be a bloke trying to chat her up. Not here, in fact one bloke came over to her just as we were leaving and paid her a huge compliment. I love the no pressure, no judgement atmosphere of the place, too expensive to be a weekly treat for us, but both of us are keen to return.
We're on a 'sabbatical' from swinging at the moment. We met on a certain swingers site and went from being FB's to happily married. Between us we've visited a fair few clubs in our time, some of which aren't around anymore but there are a few we'd recommend dependant on what you're looking for and your 'comfort levels'. Our favourite was always Xtasia as your options were wider than some clubs. A 'nightclub' feel with a greta variety of play available - from private and group rooms to the upstairs 'dogging zone' (we left a few dents on the car bonnets in our time!), the tub and the great foam parties and theme nights. As a 'dress up' rather than towel/lingerie club you had the choice to go smart casual or dress a little more risque. We never had any issues on single male nights but be prepared for a larger number of them attending than at clubs with restrictions on numbers. Chameleons is also great - the BBW nights are legendary but as a 'wet' club (i.e. towels/naked/underwear only) it was less our thing. Others we'd tried (may not still be around of course!) include Jaydees, Cupids, Exeter Swingers, The Lodge (definitely gone), and Decadents. The best advice is to do some research before deciding where to go. Fabswingers has a review section for clubs where you'll get a good idea of both the club itself and the clientelle. Of course all reviews will be biased in some way especially from regulars, and those who frequent rival clubs, but it's all helpful info. It's defintely also worth speaking to the owners, making sure you get a tour on your first visit and even touching base with other couples via websites - many will have sections where people post details of club plans and 'looking for meets' sections. Go with an open mind, talk in advance about what your limits are (although things can change if you feel comfortable) and remember that you have the right to say no whenever you want. Generally people (yes - even the single men) will be courteous and respect boundaries. And those that don't will soon be ejected if you approach management. It's a wonderful life and one where once you get comfortable and confident in it the opportunities are endless.
Great insight. I know this wasnt our original thread but your post is great. We've just signed up to our local (ish) club and i was nervous about how it works. Not so much now. Thank you! 😘
Wide-awake wrote:
Quite fancy going to a swingers club, as a single female, and see whether it's really my scene. I'm not sure where to find a good one in Scotland. Any tips? I'm on the west coast.
Hi Wide-awake, I am in Scotland too but not ventured into the club scene yet, though I am very keen to! There's CJ's townhouse in Glasgow and After eight in Edinburgh, both are rated on Fabswingers in club review part of the site, I think u need to be a member of fab to read them though! I am too nervous of bumping into anyone I know so I am looking further afield and possibly Germany as I enjoy German swinger porn for some reason??? Hope you find what you are looking for xx