This may never even be an issue for me - I can hope - but thought I’d ask. For those of you who enjoy sub/dom play, but would want to keep it to the bedroom, how does that work in practicality? Love the idea of being submissive to my wife, but outside of the bedroom, I wouldn’t want that to persist.
Do any other couples have experience of this?
Thanks in advance
We regularly do Sub/Dom play. We mix it up so that no one person is always the Dom.
For us, in the bedroom we are role-playing. It is not who we are in life so there is never a danger that we will continue playing the roles outside the bedroom. We just kind of revert to who we are normally.
Just because you relinquish control in the bedroom does not mean your Mrs is going to continue ordering you about outside of it (although I imagine most husbands have been ordered to do something by the mrs from time to time).
Are you worried that she will become power hungry after or something? If you are I wouldn’t worry as I think most people understand that it just a bit of bedroom play.
For us, it’s just that, bedroom play. Also not all the time. There are times I want to be dominated or wife wants to dominate me in the bedroom. For us it’s not a lifestyle, just a kink we enjoy now and then.
We do this all the time - I dominate in the bedroom with spanking / pegging and more but outside in real life he is more in charge
No not at all. Just in terms of being comfortable (not as in a lack of comfort, but maybe getting over any initial feelings of awkwardness).
Ah ok I misinterpreted what you meant.
I (Mr K) can understand the awkwardness as I was very awkward and unsure when we got into the idea of pegging and relinquishing that control. Unfortunately nothing will get rid. It’s kind of like the first time of doing anything. You just have to give it a go to realise you were worried over nothing.
In the words of Mrs C when I was a bit awkward. “Just relax and enjoy the pleasure”. The experience is meant to be fun and your wife won’t think any differently of you after. In our case it actually brought us closer together.
I hope it all works out for you.
In a past relationship, there’s a moment of mentally stepping in/out of that mindset for both of us, myself being the sub role, going into it there was always a trigger that the mindset of dom/sub had begun, sometimes it’s a vocal command or getting into a certain position, but then similarly stepping out of the mindset, once everything’s over, both are aware nothing more is happening, it naturally shifted back into normal life. In the bedroom that dom/sub mentality is present but outside, it was an equal partnership.