Yeh, I think even when we get our own place it'lll probably stay at home.
The main reason I ask I think is because myself and 'J' have 'mental health' issues ( Nothing major )
And I was concerned about something that could effect our state of mind you know?
For example, I read Lubeyanka's Prostate Milking guide and although, From my interest I liked it and found it extremely informative, I was really put off by the whole 'Conditioning' thing. That could really fuck with someones mind no? Even if they were consenting to it. I may be wrong?!
Anyway, I have spoken a little bit to 'J' about it all.
First off I made sure that she knows we wouldn't try anything she or I don't want to, Both with bdsm and not.
Plus, Bear in mind, We're not even having sex still, So early early days yet.
So for example, Because of the person I am and my mindset, I am in NO WAY interested in being humiliated, Sissyfied or de-masculinated.
I couldn't take c&b torture or trampling as I have Hyper-Sensative balls and joint problems, So the trampling thing would kind not be good for that lol.
But it still leaves me with a lot of stuff I can and do want to try/do...
Obviously being restrained, Ball gag, Teasing, Whipping/spanking, Anal play, Orgasm denial, Pegging etc all come into it if I'm in the Sub role ( No! I'm not dinner lol! ) That does interest me.
And in a Dom role, I would like to take on like a Strict yet caring doctoresque mindset... Well that's one of them anyway.
I have to be mindfull of 'J' as she was in an abusive relationship before she met me, So it would be kept light, Non-Threatning ( Ie slapping, fish hooking, face-f''cking, throat grabbing are OUT. ) and with an underlying sense of humour and fun. That's even IF she was interested.
So I suppose I would like to restrain her, Use various toys on her, But mainly teasing ( As she teases me all the time lol ), Maybe some form of orgasm denial play. Exploration etc...
And I would like to play around on the whole Gynecologist aspect, But without making it painful!
So yeh, Quite a specific set of stuff just to begin with lol.
I do hope that one day we will try it out at least, If not, That's cool, I can always fantasize about it all still.