Hi,
Me and the OH are sat talking about sex and were curious as to what other couples talk about during dirty 'love making' ? We both get off to the whole groupsex/ gangbang scenario but want to incorporate other fantasies whilst having sex/ other dirty chat? <3
We hope you're all enjoy your kinky evenings!
xxx
We sometimes talk about sex we've had with other people (not when we've been together with others). That can be very erotic at the right time.
Peakcouple wrote:
We sometimes talk about sex we've had with other people (not when we've been together with others). That can be very erotic at the right time.
Interesting, so using past experiences and fantasy scenarios may be a good way to create a dirtier mood?
MrandMissbutterfly wrote:
Peakcouple wrote:
We sometimes talk about sex we've had with other people (not when we've been together with others). That can be very erotic at the right time.
Interesting, so using past experiences and fantasy scenarios may be a good way to create a dirtier mood?
It works for us, for example one of us might say "did I tell you about my first 3some?" or "this reminds me of the time one of my boyfriends and I had sex on the beach" and then say some things about the experience. We both find it very erotic.
You also could say something like "how would you feel if we were being watched now?"
Or you could watch porn and say "would you like me to do that?"
They say the mind is the most effective sexual organ, after all!
Talking to get in the mood is usually me giving slight orders as to where I want her and how I want her, she tends to act innocent and tease me till I’m biting my lip.
When we do get to the act we have pet names that we use like “master” “daddy” “sir” for her and I tend to just call her a “good” girl if she follows and “bad” or ‘naughty” girl if she disobeys. I like to push boundaries like if she’s tied down I’ll say things like “just imagine what a room full of men could do to you right now” or call her my property or hold her between the thighs and ask her who owns her .... areas. It really depends how far we go but dirty talk does tend to be more dominant than anything else.
Both great ideas that we will use. She's into the whole couple swap scenario with older guys so using names like '' daddy'' etc may be a good way to start. We havent ventured into BDSM as much yet but combining tht with dirty talk may also be a good way to go?
In honesty I'm no good at talking dirty. I can be "ordering" or demanding while being Dom, but can't do general dirty talk. OH never talks dirty.
We sometimes recall shags we've had or things we've done, or places we've shagged or the like, and say how good they were.
I'll also sometimes say something I'd like him to do to me someday. Perhaps a position idea or something from here. Also, asking him how he felt at some point, if he w*nked over me at a certain point etc.
Sometimes I just call him an animal or the like. I'm more verbal than he is, but he can get quite filthy too when he needs to..
I find that if he is starting to go soft, some dirty talk can bring him back.
Some words may need permission before using such as "Whore ,Slut "etc. Even in role playing these are discussed first . Personally I dont like them but If my OH wants them used then Hey Ho as they sometimes can enhance the scene .
As previously mentioned in a thread I can't post on my OH is into the whole cuckold idea. I don't know what to say during sex to tie that fantasy in as my miind goes blank. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated :) Also were testing the waters slowly so buying her a toy from Lovehoney to start us on our journey. If anyone has any suggestions on this and the use of realistic toys during sex I'd love to know.
MrandMissButterfly x
I think that would depend on which role you’d like to play - would you be yourself, perhaps sitting on a chair watching her play with the toy and not allowed to touch, or would you play the part of the other man taking your lady, telling her you’re going to send her back to her partner satisfied and dripping with your seed because you can do it better ...if that makes sense 😅
VioletWolf wrote:
I think that would depend on which role you’d like to play - would you be yourself, perhaps sitting on a chair watching her play with the toy and not allowed to touch, or would you play the part of the other man taking your lady, telling her you’re going to send her back to her partner satisfied and dripping with your seed because you can do it better ...if that makes sense 😅
brilliant idea ! Must give it a try
Talking dirty us something I just can't do. I don't know if you have seen Simons attempt in the inbetweeners but that would be me! I'm glad others have been able to offer advice. Good luck!
RosyCheek wrote:
Talking dirty us something I just can't do. I don't know if you have seen Simons attempt in the inbetweeners but that would be me! I'm glad others have been able to offer advice. Good luck!
haha, yes Im not sure whether it is something that you can work on or naturally good at! :P
xxx
Me and my OH dont really talk a lot during sex let a lone talk dirty...
We often have to be quiet when we are going at it as I live with my dad and he shares a flat with other people.
I wouldnt even know where to begin really! Its difficult when you have to whisper everything.
Is it something you want to try or not that bothered ? Missbutterfly xxMusicfreakysheeep wrote:
Me and my OH dont really talk a lot during sex let a lone talk dirty...
We often have to be quiet when we are going at it as I live with my dad and he shares a flat with other people.
I wouldnt even know where to begin really! Its difficult when you have to whisper everything.
The ‘you know what I really want to do to you, it’s really kinky and I think you are going to love it’ approach is a hell of a turn on which has opened up all sorts of sex experiences. Just discussing it can make you feel naughty, slutty, dirty and aroused. We do this after a few drinks.
My missus would soon tell me if I didn't talk dirty, as its a big turn on for her !!
This wasn't really my thing but my partner wanted me to do this, so I do it and its seems to really turn him on. Its really frustrating me though as now i'm really into it but even though it was his idea in the first place he never reciprocates beyond saying 'yeah' when I ask him dirty questions.
Actually I don't like doing it myself but I love my wife doing it. Before just now she wouldn't say much but I hinted and she had used a few words for men's parts in our last play. This was a real turn on for me to hear. Even at 49 I still believe that women are quite reserved with anything sexual, so to hear my wife use rude words it takes me by surprise in a good way.