As a male I have stumbled across a few individuals locally who offer tantric massage.
On reading the blurb initially it got my interest, despite the increased cost. Basically I got turned away fron that as an option as I found it all a bit seedy.
The whole idea of being able to control my orgasm’s for my partners pleasure, in essence extending our lovemaking to ensure her enjoyment, rather than my usual performance that personally I feel lacked what she deserved.
On researching it and individuals who appear to professionally support it, actually seams like an escort rabbit hole.
I have a habit of winning when my OH and I make love, are there any suggestions out there on how to explore and develop the tantric aspect, it all sounds exciting for me and a better alternative to delaying condoms that inevitably leave my OH disappointed when I don’t achieve, any ideas on how to self educate for a tantric experiance during lovemaking?
Honestly, this is not a subject I have personally gotten into but have looked at it from time to time. My suggestion would be to buy a recommended book and explore it with your partner. There will likely be some things of intertest to you both, others to one or the other, and still others of no interest. A book can always be tucked away in the night table drawer until of interest for new ideas or if your are really bored one night.
A tantric massage is going to end with an orgasm, which isn’t going to teach you anything but it could be a fun thing to try with your partner!
Do tantric retreats happen in real life or only in the movies? You could try googling it to see if there is anything like that where you live or it could make for an interesting holiday.
So if i’m reading this right, you don’t want to orgasm and then for it to be over. Does your sexy brain shut off after you orgasm? Is that what this means? You orgasm first?
Could you orgasm and still continue to pleasure your partner? Your orgasm doesn’t have to mean that sex is over, still kiss, still touch her, give her oral, use toys and accessories or give her a yoni massage.
I found lots of videos on porn sites for lingam massage when I was researching that, so I’m sure there would be the same for yoni massage.
Hmm not sure I’m understanding the subject properly but I’d maybe recommend some fun role play and have your wife do the tantric massage 
Set a room up all nice with candle lighting, calming music and some essential oils… it could be a really fun exploration for you both to have 
@JoCat thanks, some useful thoughts, @AJSTAR I have edited my initial post so hopefully it reads better now.
You definitely sparked a memory there and I think that will be worth revisiting with the massage, however I was the masseuse.
I quess my goal is for longer prolonged lovemaking where the final finish is more powerful for us both with a better understanding of our bodies spiritually.
I will start looking for a book 
There are many great illustrated books out there that not only show but explain that I purchased over the years. I just really never got into it past a Yoni massage myself. In sexual exploration I would equate it to pressing barbells (sex & kinks) versus Yoga (Tantra). I think that is the best analogy I can come up with right now. Tantra is very much a blend of spirituality and pleasure and I hope you enjoy exploring it. There are many that do…
Hi @RJ40
We like the Tantric ‘vibe’ - but not serious explorers (I think we are a bit too silly)
Layla Martin does podcasts and has great webpages with lots of guides and info.
Some of the things that we take from it and really like are; creating a great environment (we really pay attention to our bedroom, colours, fabrics, music and stuff)
Massages; lots of baths together, massages with scented oils and candles.
Intentions; sometimes we look each other in the eye and declare an intention for a ‘play’ session.
In terms of lasting longer, I think one of the main things is the positions that you use.
We have a form of sex where we face each other sitting up on pillows and have PIV - it feels amazing and my wife can use fingers and toys to play with us both, have orgasms and just generally get massively ‘sexed up’!
Try breathing exercises to slow yourself down, and in the position above, there is no real thrusting so you can just enjoy the sensual feeling but not chase an orgasm.
You can try a a penis extender / sleeve also - that’s pretty fun, adds a bit of ‘ooh’ for my wife and will slow down any ‘over excitement’.
I guess ‘edging’ is the thing - just taking a break when you get close.
If we have a long session like that, by the time I have an O, it’s usually pretty intense - and very satisfying.
Have fun trying!!!
Read, listen, watch, digest and practice also have courage to improvise.
It’s not just about making your OH cum or delaying your own orgasm it’s about touching every nerve exciting it so that by the time of release their whole body is read for it. It’s bringing body mind and spirit into sync. Both your and your other half’s. To build it all to a point and tease it back and bring it to the boil again and again, until there is no force on earth but death itself that can stop you from cumming.
Or so I’ve been told 
Who wouldn’t want to experience this! 
It’s a goal in life. Like a game of Change, I like to spin the wheel I’ve just made sure that wheel is minus the death option
One to practice as often as possible. 
Fellow wordsmith @Jgood has already explained this pretty well, but as a tantra practitioner myself I think it’s important to touch (no pun intended) on one thing I don’t think anyone has mentioned, and coukd be very helpful for you: breathing.
You need to slow your breathing down and really focus on the connection with each other, not the sensation. Feel one another, not the need to orgasm. Tantra is about touch, as others have said, not about the race to get off. Steady breathing (and controlling your breathing if it gets a bit carried away) will keep you back from the edge.
Communicate with your partner: if my husband gets a bit carried away, sometimes he needs me to step up and gently remind him to breathe and just feel the sensation - feel me - not his desire for an orgasm. It sounds a bit seedy, and some of the Channel 4 documentaries on sex really don’t help things, but Tantra can be oh so beautiful and sensual.
Lastly, explore Tantra and meditation music, and try lighting your spaces with ambient lighting. We really like Tantra Masters music for our practices, “Guru” is a favourite.
Good lock to you both, and happy exploring 