I think you are right about the gusset. @Goth_Girl
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Had a very frank discussion with the OH about whatās going to happen after I graduate from my uni, which left us both in tears but needed to get talked about as I feel weāve both been living in a bit of a fantasy land without facing reality 
Itās mainly over which one of us will be moving, as Iām a US citizen and heās a UK citizen. I currently study in the UK on a student visa, but if we were to stay here weād have to move (at minimum) across the country, as there are no jobs in our current city for the qualifications Iām getting, and weād most likely have to get married so I could get a partner visa (as we havenāt lived together for 2 years, and most places wonāt sponsor a visa) and heād have to find a new job 
Same would be true if we moved to the US, as the only jobs are across the country from where I grew up, and weād still have to get married so he could get a green card and employment would still be up in the air for him Doesnāt help he only has a college education (UK, not US college), so heās more limited qualification wise, though he does have a lot of experience in the field heās in, but itās a very specific manufacturing field, though he keeps saying he wants to become a driving instructor We also have two fur babies that we would never part from, and then thereās the issue of moving all our crap to wherever we move as well We could move one place for a bit, then another, but Iām the type of person who kind of wants to live all over and heās definitely the type who likes to settle down and stay (which is nice but I want to live many places over my life) I love warmer places so my dream end goal is someplace like Cali, Hawaii or Australia to settle down in long term (though only feasible if we both got more lucrative jobs) Just lots of big life decisions happening 
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Oh, really?
See I originally thought that, but the more I looked at it - the more I was unsure.
So those are bum cheeks at the sides then.
After close inspection, I was starting to think it was some kind of bug because of the texture on the gusset part.
And the butt cheeks were the bugs big eyes 
Did you reach any conclusions @rosiedosie ? Horrible position to be in. How do you feel about living permanently (or at least until you both have lucrative jobs and more countries are fighting over you) in the UK? What were his feelings about emigrating to the states (if the fur babies can make the trip)?
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No conclusion reached as of yet We really need to weigh all the pros and cons before making a decision, as there are certainly plenty for both Free healthcare in the UK would be a plus for me as I have a chronic health condition, but then again the US just feels like home (even though I know a lot of people are dying to get out ) 
The fur babies would be able to make the trip (theyāre 2 cats, one is 4 kg and one 3 kg so both could fly in the cabin), though it would be a trek Probably wonāt reach any conclusions for another month or two Honestly itās really hard as one of us will feel like theyāre sacrificing more, even if we end up living in both places after a while
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Really tricky, I hope you find a solution you can both be happy with and whatever you decide either the UK or US governments are helpful with the visa! Lots to mull over. Big hugs.
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Best of luck @rosiedosie, I hope everything works out for you 
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Sounds complicated 
I donāt envy you.
Hope you can sort something out. 
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Just been surfing about on here and found this - Positions of the Week - #190 by Ian_Chimp which made me chuckle a bit. Looks good but I think I would need time with a Chiropractor if I tried that 
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Iām saving that one for when we go on a Space Cruise.
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Has anyone else noticed the emoji have changed slightly. 
its really bugging me for some inexplicable reason
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I think we got some extra ones in the process tooā¦
(There are plenty more if anyone fancies a browse )
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I feel for you, they are big life decisions. Hopefully you will get it sorted, it may mean one of you compromising more than the other in the short term. Itās great that you have had the big conversation, and itās important that you both keep those discussions going until you reach an agreement on what to do.
My husband has always wanted to return to New Zealand permanently, but stayed in the UK for me as Iām close to my family. The NHS is also an important consideration for us too as one of our kids has a medical condition. He knows that we will eventually move, but the timing has got to be right.
for you.
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Has the forum just changed for anyone else? There seems to be a bar at the top that stays when I scroll down and it wasnāt like that before! Maybe Iām imagining things?! 
Yes, I think it has changed @Kitty-Cat01
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Oh yeah. I had noticed a few small tweaks but that one passed me by.
The avatars lingering on the left side if you scroll down a big post threw me first time i noticed it too
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I noticed the avatar thing a few days ago but not the bar thing. My phone just flickered and then it looked different, made me jump! Glad Iām not imagining stuff!
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Fabulous review @Mint-Monster . I love this outfitā¦ I donāt have so much of a use for it now but I would have given anything to wear it out on Halloween back in my student days, prior to your review I wouldnāt have bought it assuming the legs would be too short but its great to know it works for the taller girl too. I agree a black collar would be better but you look fabulous in it and the make up is spot on too.
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@Peitho - Thank you! Yeah, unfortunately the legs donāt make it great for us shorties, haha. Iām half tempted to cut the feet off to make a better fit.
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Does the āmembers onlyā category need moderator approval? I just tried to start a new thread and it said āawaiting approvalā like for the photos categories. Is this right or have I just posted in the photos category by mistake?!