Certainly using a toy to do p-spot play was never in my wheelhouse. I always thought of anal play as “ gay” but my views have changed now that I know how pleasurable it can be.
In my younger years I would have never thought I would be pegged much less that pegging would be the major form of my sex life. I would not have imagined tasting, licking, eating my own cum on a regular basis. Wife and I got together when we were twenty and now sixty three. Our sex life has surely evolved.
I was very much a one man woman and unprotected sex only if you’re planning on having a baby, I’m now polyamorous with two partners and I have a breeding kink. Sure, I still use protection, but it’s hormonal, not barrier.
I think I’ve always been this way deep down but never had the partner I felt I could explore with. Even with my wife who is incredible and I love so much - I was just scared to say what I wanted. Now we’re buying toys together, the kind that are meant to go up my ass. It’s incredible. I never thought I could get what I wanted until I just asked and found out that not only can I get that, but she’d be just as excited about it as I am.
I probably wouldn’t have believed it. Curiosity, an open mind, and hearing other people’s experiences made me realize it’s okay to explore what I enjoy.