I've a fantasy of bringing another girl into the bedroom for a one off experience with my wife and me. Wifey has had a few encounters with other women in her past and I'd love to see her being pleasured by another girl again.
I've read heaps about the minefield of doing this with someone you know. That's definitely a no go.
I'm wondering if anyone has experiences of just a single night in this boat with a female escort? And what were the psychological barriers / after effects with that?
If myself and OH do, that's how we've decided we'll do it.
We reckon it would be a lot less arkward.... When it's over you've no hanging around.
She might charge you twice though... lol, no think it is a good idea if you are not comfortable approaching someone closer to you
Think it would be better and safer if you met a 3rd party in a swinger club.
Yes, plenty of clubs around (depending where you live of course). Definitely not a good idea with a someone you know as far as I'm concerned.
Hello,
Right, I'm not really sure how to go about this post.
I do, do esorting, and take on couples, but I stress my sex eucator work is more improtant not only to me but my clients too.
Basically, where the other encounters for your wide enjoyable? Where they random or planned? What actually happened? Like was it simple touching or more?
These are factors you have to consider.
As a sex educator I teach people in couples, poly, and all backgrounds. I do this when escorting too, and a good escort will ask to check-up on what everyone involved feels and is feeling to consent to. The fact is that in escorting work a lot of group encounters are put together by one person, thinking it'll be a fab idea, using past experiences of theirs and the others involved as a way to say 'eys this will work'.
But sexual confidence, preference, limits, desires, and bodily fuctions all change and affect our desired day-to-day. Sometimes these's a clear cut reason, other times there isn't. What I'm saying is that you wife may have enjoyed those past encounters, but might not like the idea of an escort. The reason she may have enjoyed the past experiences is because they had different elements behind them at the time which felt right to her when acted out.
But a good escort would be happy to chat with both parties prior to the event. Many request to chat via phone to both prior too, and some include a 10-15min meet at a local pub to help test the waters and see if the hiring couple are comfortable. A good escort will walk away if they aren't. Although many escourts also request a deposite fee... but you have to understand they would've booked you for the intended time.
As a sex educator, there's always risks of psychological effects happening.... but these aren't always negative, some memories can be used positively in future role play and as wank material.
It'[s complex if I'm honest, and no matter how much research I do, sex ed training I attend, and escorting, there's always the possibility of psychological effects happening, both positively and negatively. These can happen in everyday relationships too, as well as swinging, and play parties, it isn't just a thing which happens when hiring an escorting - I have helped, chatted, and been involved in all of these now.
Basically chat with your wife. Choose your escort to be one who would suit you both. Request certain things which will make you both feel comfortable. I also suggest using a hotel for couples meets as it is no-mans-land.
Also pick an escort who knows about the female body. One who is willing to focus on both of you equally too (some can be a bit one sided).
I must admit, planned threesomes when done in my personal life are a lot better than random ones. It's all about communication with everyone involved. I've had a few unplanned thressomes where people have gone off to the side and felt very negative and shy about the event.... even I have done that when I've found I wasn't comforable in a certain group.
I think the above pretty much covers it all in choosing the right escort... I think if my OH and I were to have a threesome I'd be much more at ease with an escort and one who knows thier way around than another person ... I think I'd be a bit jelous other wise.
Is it something you've spoken to your wife about? x
Exactly.... That's how we'd ever plan it.
And there's no uncomfortableness after... If you want them to stay then they can, otherwise it's a taxi, thank you and goodbye, no awkwardness.
I agree completely with "The Nymphomaniac". Basically, it's all about communication before, after and during. If it's something that you both really want it should be a pleasurable experience.
It's something that we talked about earlier in our relationship. It was a potential, then as the years went on, and not wishing to involve anyone we know, it drifted more into the realms of fantasy.
With my 40th approaching, I'm thinking of broaching the subject again. This time with the suggestion of a romantic city break and a visit from a female escort ;-)
That's how we'd do it..... My birthdays coming up soon.. Maybe I might suggest the same. 😜
Me and my OH have discussed this and were still not sure, we've not been to any clubs or anything an haven't paid too much attention to the websites we joined as we just get stringed along or they turn out to be lying etc. You'd get none of that with an escort.
I'd like to hear more about what you decided and how you both felt after, if you decided to go ahead xx