Hi,
Me and wife have been married for nearly 10 years. Since some time me I have had a fantasy of having this MMF threesome scenario. I once brought this up last year and she was not happy. But recently she has seemed to open up a bit and giving hints about threesome in our casual conversation. Using of dildo while sex and DP using dildo.
I am wondering if she also wanting a threesome and giving me an hint! Bit nervous to ask.
Would you say it is?
Good luck with this and I’m going to watch this keenly as I want to have a think with my wife
None of us know your wife and all we can do is speculate. You’ll never know unless you ask her.
There are many other topics here on threesomes use the spyglass to search for them.
One thing everyone here has not said and I would have listed as top no no, is just find a guy at the pub and bring him home.
Dildo is totally different than adding and extra person in the mix
As @Gareth said none of us know your wife to say for certain. She may be opening up to the idea, or she maay just be willing to talk about it because she knows it turns you on. If she is opening up to it, the one thing not to do is rush her. She needs to feel like your priority, not your fantasy. Good luck to you both 
Only way to find out is by asking ! 
Would love a threesome with 2 guys and I am dressed as the woman always wanted to be a woman and enjoy the thought of having a man in my ass while I enjoy his hard cock in my mouth
Maybe just ask again? Make sure they are hints and not your overthinking/subconscious though.
Just wanted to share an update, recently during sex I had the courage to bring this up, I asked about threesome or having another c**k to play with. She initially said, No I just need yours but bought this up few mins later and jokingly saying you have to pick the person and I will approve it depending on how he is lol
I guess it is a positive sign… still not 100% sure
You need to be sure that she is 100% on board. I have a plan of my own and I have told my husband what I would do if he ever asked me to do this and he has said he never would. It would involve humiliation for him and I would leave him and it would be the end of our marriage. Once it is done it cannot be undone. Also you should not ask about doing new things whilst having sex, these things should be discussed outside the bedroom while you are both thinking straight. So you will need to ask her again while you are not being intimate something like “so did you mean what you said the other night about a threesome or were you just fantasizing about it”
She could have just agreed as part of a fantasy during sex to help her orgasm. Also she said no and was not happy when you asked her before so what has changed in your relationship to account for her change of mind? She could have just meant that you pick the dildo to use on her.
You need to have a full conversation about having a threesome. How will you find the guy, what are your expectations, boundaries etc.
It’s not a decision to take lightly. If there is any area of sex you feel nervous about discussing, you’re not ready. If you can’t have a completely open, transparent conversation about feelings and emotions you not ready.
We’ve started down the path of finding a third for MFM and its sexy, erotic and fun. But there are lots of things to talk about and consider, and it needs to be at a pace you can control.
It’s best practice, but if that works for them?
Simply could be that a seed, once planted takes a while to germinate.
I admire your strong views BTW. You know what you’re up for, and what you’re not.
Others can change over time, I have a feeling you’re well set in the main. Nothing wrong there.
I agree with you though, the conversation should be replayed outside of the bedroom.
Yes I do have strong opinions about this so my husband knows where he stands. We talk a lot about what we are prepared to do sexually and have hard and soft boundaries in place. This one is a hard no for both of us as we are enough for each other. To be honest if it changes in the future I think we would both be too old any way 
Celebrating our 39th wedding anniversary on Saturday so we are doing well.
100% direct conversation is required. Hints are hints and can be fantasies only. Take a moment where she’s showing interest and just talk about it.
I’m in a similar position. Mine has swayed from “no”, to “maybe”, to “if we did it, it would have to be with some far away”. Difficult to know what’s pillow talk and not. I’d never pressure though
But why would she otherwise say you pick the person and I will approve it if I like?
Was it just a reaction during sex
Just to give you a brief update, have not been able to have a full on conversation yet, probably because I am worried how she would take it, but she gives me hints when having sex or double meaning talks about bigger c**ks etc.
If she is talking about bigger cocks you should ask her if she wants something bigger than you and if so does she mean the real thing or an extender or bigger dildo. You are not going to know unless you ask her. But make sure it is not just dirty talk during sex, ask her afterwards. It could just be a fantasy she has but might have no intention of wanting to make it a reality.
Have to agree with the answers.
If your have the kind of relationship that is trusting enough to even think of doing this, then surely you are open enough to talk about it.
I agree though that test the water first to make sure its not just “dirty talk” during sex, and she does it cus it opens her floodgates.