I would love a threesome with my wife, but cant get her interested, do I give up ????
Well the first thing to ask yourself is why you want a threesome.
Secondly, it's not something to enter lightly - whilst they can seem like a good idea at the time, someone is bound to get hurt.
How have you approached the subject with her?
Not a chance I would do it with a man or woman involved I know some do but I personally don't understand why you would want somebody else involved when your with the person you love. I get that it's a horny fantasy for loads me included but I would never do it. I would give up her saying no in the first place suggests it's not for her
I agree with David. Have a think about why you want a threesome. It's quite a sensitive subject so be gentle with it. It is one thing to have a threesome fantasy (I did before I was involved in one!) but the reality is sooooo far from the fantasy. It pretty much broke up the couple I experimented with in that way. For it to work on any level you both have to be super confident and secure with each other and the relationship and in yourselves. And all parties must really want to partake. If she isn't comfortable with the idea I wouldn't push it as you will make her feel insecure and that she isn't good enough and lose confidence in herself and the relationship. If you are not happy with your sex life maybe combat that first and see where the trouble lies. If your sex life is great but you want to try out this fantasy then it's your call as to whether it is worth sacrificing a good sex life or good relationship for a fantasy that might go as you imagine it will. If you don't have a good sex life and you are noy happy in the relationship then go and find someone who is up for a threesome as much as you are. I for one would never do it again and I never ever would have done it if I were the one in the relationship becauses it causes emotional unease sometimes.
Yes give up. Think of your wife and leave your fantasy as just that.....a fantasy.
It really isn't a think to push, if she's said no leave it alone, by keeping trying you'll just make her feel like she's not enough or that you're interested in sex with a particular person which is even worse. Sorry to say but you have to accept she's not gonna do it, if she doesn't want to, and if she did give in it would probably ruin your relationship in the future
first rule of threesome - ALL THREE people must be interested and willing
A friend of mine who has done two threesomes told me he would never do another, he felt that instead of them being fun they became competitive instead. I could never do one, I would become jealous, plus if you're wife is heterosexual then she'll probably feel like a spare part waiting for her turn if it's a M/F/F threesome you're after - I know I would feel like that.
I would give up, if you’re wife is not willing then there is no point in pursuing it – if you do then it could just push her away from you.
Just Jenson wrote:
first rule of threesome - ALL THREE people must be interested and willing
Big thumbs up to this  Everything I would of said, but in one sentance (I do waffle a lot lol)
I love threesomes, the wife , me and her favourite vibe.
I personal would let it go if my oh asked/suggested i think i would feel very hurt an like i wasn't enough for him
that could just be me tho im not a very confident person in general
Hi there, here a few previous threads on threesomes which you may find useful to have a read through :) x
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/473216-threesomes/
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/322-having-a-threesome/
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/721828-threesomes-foursomes-advice/
yummy mummy91 wrote:
I personal would let it go if my oh asked/suggested i think i would feel very hurt an like i wasn't enough for him
that could just be me tho im not a very confident person in general
No not just you this is exactly how we both feel about it. We have talked it over and try to simulate it . I have f##ked my wife with her big vibe whilst she gives me a BJ she lies down with her head off the bed and I stand over her. This way you can't she and it makes it more realistic. The way she was being so greedy with may penis and grabbing my ass trying to get me to thrust told me she really enjoyed it.
For me she sits on my face reverse cow girl giving me the same as her all I can see is her. Then she gives me a double handed HJ and try's to simulate her pussy. I am thinking of getting a flash light or something but just the same as you post worried she will think what she does isn't good enough.
Being bisexual my OH expected me to be up for it, which I was initially, we went to strip clubs together and had dances just to see, but the idea that another woman turns him on frustrates me, even though I know of course they do, but I don't need to see it. I think most women have fairly low self esteem and to see their man with a women who they think is sexier than themselves is hard. Get a sex doll?
could always talk to her before purchasing anything just to see how she feel about it if your worriedGentle giant wrote:
yummy mummy91 wrote:
I personal would let it go if my oh asked/suggested i think i would feel very hurt an like i wasn't enough for him
that could just be me tho im not a very confident person in general
No not just you this is exactly how we both feel about it. We have talked it over and try to simulate it . I have f##ked my wife with her big vibe whilst she gives me a BJ she lies down with her head off the bed and I stand over her. This way you can't she and it makes it more realistic. The way she was being so greedy with may penis and grabbing my ass trying to get me to thrust told me she really enjoyed it.
For me she sits on my face reverse cow girl giving me the same as her all I can see is her. Then she gives me a double handed HJ and try's to simulate her pussy. I am thinking of getting a flash light or something but just the same as you post worried she will think what she does isn't good enough.
My g/f is bi/pansexual and has had LTRs with women before. She likes girls physically more than men, we just happened in some other way.
The way I'd see a MFF threesome (and it's something we discuss a lot although haven't done it yet, we still enjoy each other too much to share) would genuinely be as something for her. She puts it "You're my best friend and if I'm doing something I love I want you involved." Obviously there's the standard male thing of thinking more = better and fantasy porn scenarios, but it's something I really think we'd both enjoy, with the right partner.
As said above, all three people need to be willing, open, not get jealous and know what the groundrules are.