I have always had a tights fetish since I was young and I didn’t even realise it was a thing until I went online in my 20s.
I told my wife about my fetish and I would buy her sheer nude and tan tights (my favourite) we had tights sex, foot jobs you name it.
But in 2007 I had to tell her I had a problem with porn, I got help for it etc but ever since she won’t dress up or wear tights for sex.
Unfortunately my fetish hasnt gone away, I don’t really want to turn back to porn or meet my needs outside the relationship and otherwise our sex life is pretty good.
I occasionally wear tights myself to masturbate in but I have never told her this.
I have considered telling her I would like to wear for sex but worried it would freak her out or think I am a full blown cd. It’s just tights that are my thing.
Do you guys have any advice. It’s very hard as I can’t switch off my kink
It’s good that you admitted the porn addiction and resolved it.
I would hazard a guess that your wife is now wondering why you chose to look at naked Women on the internet as opposed to her, she may be feeling unattractive and her confidence may be too low to feel comfortable dressing up for you. If this is the case it may well be best to start building her confidence before you suggest anything else.
This is purely based on what you have mentioned, as well as a lot of women have lost confidence having found out their partner watches a lot of porn.
@DanceswithPenguins I understand this and i have done what you would call a lot of self work on the last few years which means that being open and honest is important rather than hiding stuff.
We have sex weekly use some toys but my wife is adamant she won’t dress up and if I ever mention I get shot down. Sort of like I have to keep that part of me repressed/in a box.
First steps are self realisation and acknowledgment , as I’m sure you’d have learnt when seeking help for porn addiction. It’s good to acknowledge you’ve still got this fetish for tights and the next step I’d suggest is opening up to your wife about it, ok maybe not the part about you wearing them if you feel not ready to tell her that yet (not that it should matter to her), but to make her aware of how much you enjoy seeing her wear tights and that it is a massive turn on for you…. Maybe if she could see this is what you still enjoy, in turn it could make her feel equally good too
@AJSTAR I am going to give it a try because it’s something I want to share with her rather than going elsewhere to get my needs met after all these years. It’s just one of those parts of our relationships where I feel repressed and like I have to put this part of my sexuality in a box if that makes sense.
You are right it shouldn’t matter to her but she is quite conservative about this kind of stuff as opposed to the kind of women that would be like “great, we can both have a lot of fun in tights and see where it goes”.
