Would love some advice on ways we can introduce this into our sex sessions. OH is very interested in it and would like to explore more but he is nervous and needs encouragement. He has told me his ultimate goal would be me to make him eat my pussy after fucking me but that is a big step up and at the moment his enthusiam for tasting his cum disspears after orgasm, I had read other guys mentioning a similar feeling.
So the plan is to build up to it, get him used to the taste and feeling etc.
During foreplay he enjoys tasting his pre-cum, licking it off my fingers, nipples etc, after a blowjob he has kissed me after I swallowed even though there was cum on my lips etc. So far so good.
I think I pushed it a little too far last time though, I was giving him a handjob over my boobs and as he was cumming i caught some on my fingers and pushed them into his mouth. He was a little shocked and later confided that while he enjoyed the spontanaity of it and my dominant behaviour, he maybe wasn't quite ready for that. He is still keen to explore further but it has left me a little scared, I often lack confidence in these things and I am worried about going to far.
So any ideas for ways we can work up to this that will be sexy and fun for us both? Have you done similar with your partners and what has worked well?
I am the same in that the idea seems hot when you are randy but not once you explode. Some recommended freezing some to use during the build-up. The other way is for you just to take control. He finds it hot so you are helping him when he is feeling weak! Tie him up and feed it to him and what better way than from you! That way if he doesn't like it you still have the tick in the box. It can't be that bad. I bet he doesn't agonise this much about you giving him a BJ! Have fun.
I guess the difference between me and him doing it is that I am turned on when giving him a BJ, often playing with myself or being played with so even during/after his orgasm I am still turned on and may orgasm again. That's why he loves his pre-cum I guess, as he hasn't orgasmed at that point.
If you are not using condoms, suck his penis clean after he has cum and then kiss. He will taste both of you in his mouth. It's very sexy and will get him used to his own taste.
There are 2 ways to help with this that I can think of; and I would use both at the same time.
1: get him to try tasting his own after solo masturbation. it may take him a while to take the plunge, but once he has it should start to get a little easier for him. As it's not just the desire that goes it becomes a bit of an "eeeck I can't do that" kind of thing. He just has to go for it; but he will have to keep doing it ; at least to start with.
2: After PIV sex, how long before he cn get it up again ? If it's fairly soon, you could say get him to straddle you and rest his softy between your breasts (assuming that you had PIV in missionary, so his cum stays in you better) the talk to him about whats waiting for him in your pussy. That way he will learn to get hard again while thinking of eating his cum out of you. When he gets it up again that desire should come back.
I have mentioned number 1 to him during discussion and said something along the lines of it s only a turn on when we are both involved, so I am guessing it is a bit of a dom/control thing that he likes.
Number is a great idea, it's not comfortable to have him on top of me for too long as we are quite mismatched in size but I am sure we could work something out.
It's actually a little similar to the first time we did any cum play. We had had sex, he had cum inside me and then we cuddled etc. A while later he was hard again and still horny, neither of us had the energy for full on sex though so we played together, he was wanking his cock and I was just gently playing with my clit. Out of the blue he asked me to finger my pussy and feel his cum inside me which was quite hot and then he told me to put my fingers in his mouth, it was a total shock at the time but really quite arousing. There wasn't a lot of cum in me as I had cleaned up after sex but it was what got this whole thing started.
From a guys perspective I can say I have no desire to taste any of my bodily fluids during or after sex.
when I was younger I was curious about what it tasted, only to know if it was offensive or gross to women. Yet I did not have the nerve to taste it.
My Wife will on occasion give me oral until completion then spit into a towel, which already makes me feel like it is something she does not enjoy. So we do not do it that often.
For now all I can suggest is honest communication and patience.
Speaking for myself I would describe myself as indifferent to the taste, it is not nice but it is not unpleasant either. Sometimes I swallow, sometimes I spit, partly it depends on quantity but mostly it depends on my mood at the time, if I am turned on I find it sexy to swallow as does the OH, if it's a bit more of a casual BJ then I usually feel more like spitting and OH doesn't seem to mind, he says the BJ still feels good whether I swallow or not lol.
well i'llproballay get in trouble but here it go's you want your wife to take the load but your affraid to try it yourself. stop and think about it if its to natey for you then why make her take it. same as you eating her how many times have you ate her her then give her a big kiss come on man you eat food and drink after her she's your love what makes it ant differance hor her to take your load and you not. i'll j/o put in a cup and drink mine any day my wifes likes it when i do that. same go's for her squirtting i love to have her stand up and squirt all over my face and drink all i can . maybe that makes me kinky but yeah i love it all sorry if i pissed someone off but no need to be a whimp with your spouse's love juice it not like being with a stranger.
Us guys do have this mental block but it is quite easy to get over it if its something he wants to try, This is something that may help your guy out when he is alone, I think it will be easier for him do try this out by himself first then when he is comfortable he can bring you into the fun. Here is my tips.
Picture yourself masturbating if you normally get prepared for it like tissues or towels to wipe it up then don't this time make sure which ever room you are in there is nothing you can use to mop it up.
If you like to watch porn while you masturbate then make sure what ever you watch will go on for a long time after you have cum if you can make it so its on a loop then thats great.
While you are masturbating take your time think of how HOT it will be tasting your own orgasm think of your partner seeing you do this how sexy it will make your partner feel because you know it will turn you partner on, Have you cum well lets assume you are cumming Now here comes some different tips that i hope will get you over that mental block:
You are lying there with cum over your hand or where ever, you have now lost that urge to want to taste lick your lovely cum up for the first time,don't move just carry on watching that porn and wait until you get that little bit horny start thinking about how much you are going to enjoy this and how much it would turn your partner on or the person you have a big crush on and then lick it off.
If you have no porn or you are just not a porn watcher then masturbate with your eyes closed thinking of what ever or whoever turns you on and when you cum dont open your eyes but straight away put your fingers straight into your mouth assuming you have some on your fingers then keep reaching for where your cum landed and keep on scooping it up until its gone. Maybe you have pictures of your partner or someone you like so before you close your eyes and start masturbating look at those pictures and think about that person so when you close your eyes you have that person in your mind maybe you can imagine that persons face to make it feel more real.
Do you have a video camera no well your mobile will do as we all have camera phones,why not set it up so you are filming yourself masturbating you can think that you will be giving this special recording to your special friend even if you dont ever give it them,It will help you want to taste lick your cum off because the person who will be watching it wont be expecting the special ending,Myself I love making videos that my girlfriend gets a extra surprise at the ending,Knowing you are filming yourself can be very exciting and sexy and you can easily forget about the fear of having your cum because you are thinking about that person you are doing the video for. I had lots of videos of me licking of my cum in different ways before I even showed my girlfriend because I wanted to get it right and give her a good ending instead of her just seeing me masturbate and cumming and then the video ends.
The quick method seems to be a good starter when you cum and quickly put your cum in your mouth without thinking about it and as with everything the more you do it the more easier it will be,Then you can have fun by thinking of different ways you want to have it on your tongue or mouth.
I’m with EaOutlaw1969 on this one. I don’t have any desire to taste after I’ve cummed. Before is a huge turn on tho. Having said that - it’s a massive turn on for me to lose all ability to move (being mummified) and to get the cum dropped in my mouth from my wife’s mouth or pussy. Or bum. But that might go a bit far?? Haha.
I use to get my OH to give me a bj and instead of her swallowing she us to kiss me and we shared my cum. It turns me on so much. As it's straight after I had cum it didn't give me a chance to say no. I have just started to eat creampie, I had the want to do it for a few years but at the point when it was time to eat I always bottled it and still do sometimes. I have told my OH to just push me down there every time now regardless or if she is on top as soon as I have cum to sit on my face not giving me the chance to say no.
My wife is into this, her favourite way is her riding me cowgirl then once I have unloaded into her she slides up my chest and hovers over my mouth where I can get as much out of her and to really round it off we have a good snogging session and by that time I'm getting erection.
Had a chat about things last night and he liked some of the ideas mentioned.
He definitely confirmed that the appeal of doing alone just isn't there at all, he feels no urge to do so, it's entirely a couples thing and a dom thing really.
Like the idea of waiting to get hard again to try things so we will try that.
He also told me of a fantasy of his that reinforces the dom part of it. He wants to be restrained on the bed, something we already enjoy occasionaly, after much teasing and using him for my pleasure he wants me to ride him until he cums in me and then be forced to clean up the mess he has made in me.
Obviously something we will need to work up to over time but hopefully we will get there.
For now I think we will just make it a little bit more of a regular thing, when I give him handjobs or blowjobs etc I will make him eat some of it, gradually building confidence.
Read a lot of view on the following subject and I really want to go down on my wife when I have cum
inside her, it always gets to the point after and I just can't do it. Any view on this would be appreciated. Is it a turn on ? For her or am I just bi curious that I want to taste my own cum or is it the thought of getting her and me more excited . ??