I’ve never orgasmed through just vaginal sex and I’d love some tips on how!
I’ve only orgasmed that way a handful of times. It’s not uncommon at all for women or vagina owners to not orgasm from vaginal sex alone. Some people just can’t do it. Our bodies are all different and respond to stimulation differently. You may have luck with a partner that can hit the g-spot or a-spot though.
My OH can orgasm through penetration but it’s few and far between. Can’t say I do anything different from the times she does and doesn’t. Only thing I can say is when it does happen it's when we have really passionate sex. The kind where you just can’t keep your hands of each other and just are really turned on in the moment. Those rare times when it’s a full red moon probably😂. It’s certainly not guaranteed like a clitoral orgasm.
Lots and lots of foreplay usually helps, but as others have said that sometimes a physical or mental wall can stop you from having orgasms through vaginal sex alone. Maybe try using a bullet vibe at the same time or act our a few fantasies to really get your heart racing.
Unfortunately it can just be one of them things, and it truly is trial and error till it happens.
Angie365 wrote:
I’ve never orgasmed through just vaginal sex and I’d love some tips on how!
Please don't get hung up on this desire. I chased it with my husband for the first three years of my relationship only managing it about five times and even then it might have been a clitoral orgasm. To those women who can get a vag orgasm I say great but they are in the minority.
My advice to you is to use this position. Lay on your back, raise your legs with your man sliding in from the side. He should then stroke your clitorous whilst going about his business. If he can hold on you should easily reach a climax with vaginal stimulation and chances are you may simultaneously climax, which is superb. Try it you will love it!
I can't either. Your not alone x
Delboy1991 wrote:
I can't either. Your not alone x
Plus one - and I've tried and tried with no success.
Here too.
The OH has orgasmed through vaginal sex alone a handful of times in 15+ years. We find adding in vibrations helps a lot for us. Especially the sort that allow you to continue to have pentrative sex - so maybe a bullet held to the clit, or a vibe worn on the penis. We've not had great success with so called "couple vibrators". A butt plug helps as well - since it moves the vaginal walls closer together and gives greater sensations consequently.
My wife can only do it on very rare occasion. Takes her mind being totally turned on and horny, plus an orgasm just acheived through clitoral play, then sometimes she is so lustful when I enter her and drive hard she can come once and sometimes more. But trust me it's only a few times a year and we make love 4-5 times a week outside our "week off".
For my wife her most intense vaginal orgasms happed when my penis rubs her G spot directly during penetration.
I'm not sure if I've ever had an orgasm. It feels good when I play with myself but not sure if it's an orgasm. The way people describe it makes it sound grander than it is so I'm not sure I've had one. :/also, I'm a virgin
I find I need a lot of foreplay but not to the point of orgasm, lots of oral sex but stopping just before orgasm and pausing for a good few seconds before repeating it a number of times. Then I like to go on top so I can control the angle of insertion and get him to hit just the right spot. It's not an exact science and it doesn't always happen. To be honest I prefer multiple orgasms during foreplay with different toys and if I happen to orgasm during the penetrative sex then it's a bonus.
Maybe I am the oddball here but I first orgasmed through vaginal sex and then blended orgasms years before I could even orgasms off of just clitoral stimulation. I agree our bodies are all different but here are a few thoughts:
1. dont stress and just focus on the orgasm, enjoy the journey and the sex act itself
2. experiment with positions that can also provide pressure or stimulation to your clit at the same time... good old missionary with some side to side grinding still is a go to for me,
3. explore your vaginal area with more than just a penis to see if you enjoy gspot pressure, if you can feel that with your own fingers or a toy and enjoy it you can direct your partner into a position with P in V sex that can probably get you there.
4. Finally listen to your body... are you properly stimulated via foreplay prior to actual sex? Are you lubricated?
5. Don't dismiss how hormona; birth control can affect sexual satisfaction, after i went off the piill sex was a totally different world for me with much more and easier orgasms.
Best wishes in your journey.
I’m not a woman, but my wife and I have been following a lady by the name of Kim Anami. She hosts a site that teaches women how to strengthen their vaginas to better strengthen their orgasms. She states every woman should be able to experience all possible types of orgasms. My wife and I have been experimenting with foreplay, positions, sex toys, jade eggs, Ben wa balls, and the other night she had learned how to squirt. And I gave her multiple vaginal orgasms. So I would look into her online courses and also google how to have cervical orgasms. The vagina seems to be a very interesting and powerful thing. And it’s always fun experimenting with your partners and solo.
I think it’s very rare for purely vagina penetration to lead to orgasm. I think your best bet is to find a partner that can hit your G Spot and hope for the best.
I also can't do it sadly.
I'm lucky, then! I can do it quite easily!
Either me on top - rubbing backward and forwards, and only slightly lifting myself upwards occasionally... rather than totally in and out, this gives me quite and intense clit orgasm. In missionary position, I wrap my legs over his, so my feet rest between his knees, then hold his bum to keep him close, then grind myself against him, so my clit rubs up and down his pubic area - this makes the tip of his penis rub quite hard over my g-spot and then hit my cervix....keep doing that for a few minutes and I have a vaginal come.
I don't think not be able to orgasm during PIV is anything to worry about though... as long as you have an orgasm....who cares how it's achieved!
LadySpider wrote:
I'm lucky, then! I can do it quite easily!
Either me on top - rubbing backward and forwards, and only slightly lifting myself upwards occasionally... rather than totally in and out, this gives me quite and intense clit orgasm. In missionary position, I wrap my legs over his, so my feet rest between his knees, then hold his bum to keep him close, then grind myself against him, so my clit rubs up and down his pubic area - this makes the tip of his penis rub quite hard over my g-spot and then hit my cervix....keep doing that for a few minutes and I have a vaginal come.
I don't think not be able to orgasm during PIV is anything to worry about though... as long as you have an orgasm....who cares how it's achieved!
Yes you're right Lady Spider. I consider myself lucky to actually being able to have wonderful orgasms, mostly clitoral ones and sometimes blended ones. But I do get annoyed when I watch those movies - not only porns, most movies in fact - and they show a woam orgasming nearly at once when something goes inside her vagina. I tell you it's so annoying.
Yup - Lu SB - one of my biggest objections about porn!
BigE358 wrote:
I’m not a woman, but my wife and I have been following a lady by the name of Kim Anami. She hosts a site that teaches women how to strengthen their vaginas to better strengthen their orgasms. She states every woman should be able to experience all possible types of orgasms.
I have to say, that I do not agree with that woman. I know lot of it comes from practise, but I admit those type of talks are often what actually ruins the sex for women. Because they often feel they should do it and if they cannot, something is wrong with them.
E.g. I have friend who claims to be able to orgasm through nipple play alone. I have very insensitive nipples as woman to the point that most stimulation does nothing to me at all. Especially when playing alone - only nipple clamps seem to work. Rest good luck.
But then I can orgasm without being touched, which is something I learnt in the last year, and I dare say I am minority there. So things can be learnt, but there are some things, which just will not change much, because things just do not work the way they work for someone else.
To the original poster:
I cannot really orgasm through sex vaginally either, but i been lately successul with reaching it with toys. However it takes longer for me to reach it, so I regulalrly just opt for a normal clitoral one when alone - lazy me.
My only tip I guess is to use ben wa balls, these seem to help me a lot to gain more enjoyment from penetration. Also I like cold toys (not possible with a guys penis), it really helps to get more stimultion for me.
And I also like thrusting toys, but those also take longer for me to reach, so very unlikely with guy. What helps in general is to be really turned on, maybe read a good sexy story before it and just enjoy, do not push yourself. Ideally try it on your own, so you are only focused on yourself, not the guy you are with and can enjoy yourself fully.