We’ve decided on our first sex position being the missionary position. We looking for some beginner tips on how to master this position.
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I’m a male, almost 60 with 3 adult children.
Missionary is a great position but it may be good and bad based upon many factors.
Doing it in a car will make it difficult, whether it’s your first time or your 100th time.
Doing it in a place that is noisy or where you’re afraid of others hearing you or coming in will affect it too.
So, the time and place is important.
A nice bed with room or on many blankets on a floor, like in front of a fire place are good options.
Also, talk about it ahead of time. If one is having sex with someone they should be able to discuss and talk about sex with that person, especially ahead of their first time.
If your heights are much different, be sure to factor that in. Maybe have a few different kinds of pillows to put under the back of the person who is on the bottom. Now, you may not like or want that and that is fine of course. But it’s nice to have them handy should the need arise. My point is to take things like that into consideration ahead of time.
Have lubrication available and whatever kind of contraception you’re using. If you’re going to use a condom, have more than one. Opening the packing may damage them, tear them etc. especially when hurrying to open it in the “heat” of the moment.
Think about whether you’ll both be completely naked or one of you or both of you partially dressed. There isn’t a right or wrong answer here and in time you’ll surely do it dressed partially dressed and completely naked.
Missionary doesn’t matter for this next point I’m going to make. Regardless of the position one will be in, keep in mind to be clean, have fresh breath etc.
Also, one may try multiple different positions in the same sexual event so it’s OK to begin and do it for a while in the missionary position just as it’s OK to take a break, to switch things up etc.
Don’t forget to spend time on each other before just doing it to make sure both of you are sufficiently turned on and aroused. That also applies to having sex regardless of position.
Now, while you’re actually having sex, don’t be afraid to talk. Both of you should talk about things like speed, depth, angle to ensure it’s comfortable for both of you.
Sometimes just jackhammering away is OK, but not always and not unless the lady wants that to happen that time or at that moment.
A male doesn’t just need to go in and out as deep as can as fast as he can. Now, sometimes that is good, depending on the partner, but not always. Vary your speed, your depth.
Also try going in just a bit and pushing up with the head of your penis against the top portion of her vagina. I’m getting at the so-called G spot, which should be found and touched with your hand before having intercourse the first time.
Communication is important, throughout it. Make sure you’re both ready. Make sure she or you both want to continue as if one wants to stop, then you stop even if the other person doesn’t want to stop.
Consent is key.
If you’re not aware, read up on lubes as there are many different kinds and they don’t all play well with latex condoms. Mainly I’m getting at oil based lubricants as they are bad for latex condoms as they can break down the latex quickly in condoms and that may lead to bad things quickly.
If you’re not wanting to get pregnant, have a Plan B ready. Why? Condoms can and will break and if that happens, it’s nice to have the Plan B available.
You don’t want to be worried and rushing around the first time you have sex because the condom broke and the both of you are worried, nervous and anxious about pregnancy.
If you’re heights are much different and you want face-to-face contact, you’ll have to work to achieve that, like if you want to kiss while doing it in missionary position.
I mentioned pillows earlier, they also help you adjust the angle that the male or toy goes into the female (or male too of course).
The top person can move a bit further up so their pelvis aligns with the receivers pelvis as a way to try and create clitoral stimulation.
Now, I’m sure others have different definitions of the missionary position but folks may move around a bit. The person on top can raise themselves up by having their arms out straight with their hands on the floor or the bed for some of it instead of always lying on top of the other person. The person receiving may lie near the end of a bed so the other person could stand though I guess some might say that’s not the missionary position anymore.
The receivers legs may wrap around the person entering instead of just lying on the floor or the bed.
Depending upon size, heights and such, the person entering may put their hands under the receivers back so their hands come up under and over the receivers shoulders so you can hold on, pull against the receiver a bit etc.
You both may lift or raise your hands above your heads, even when you’re both lying on the floor or on a bed and you may hold or intertwine your hands with each other above your heads while in the missionary position.
You or both may put your hands on the other’s bottom during missionary too.
To me, changing things up during it is nice as opposed to doing it the same way until the deed is done. But to each their own of course, there is no right and wrong.
Like anything, one needs to try different things to see whether they like them. Experimenting will lead to new discoveries and you’ll both learn what you like and don’t like.
Prepare, relax, be safe and enjoy.
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