Tips & Prepping for Anal Play/Pegging

Sex Tips & Talk
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Hi everyone, i am new to the forum and i would like to find some advice regarding Anal Play, Prepping for it, and whatever else that may help us on our journey.
Ok so i a 67 year old guy, my partner is a very petite 60 year old asian lady, been married 34 years.
I am overweight which is caused by a medical condition and medications that i take, and as part of this, i have had Erectile Dysfunction issues for the past 5 years, so normal intercourse is not possible as i can only get about 70% erect and that is only when my partner massages it during sex play, or when i masturbate myself, but as soon as we try to have intercourse i lose what erection i do manage to get, seems like i need constant hands on play or stimulation to keep it up.
It has been quite a journey during these 5 years, thankfully we have quite a good collection of very good quality sex toys in our toy box under the bed, which all get a good workout from time to time.
As a way to try and give my partner something similar to intercourse, i bought several different types of strapon harnesses and several types of pegging dildos to use with them, however they were all basically hopeless in their design and we just threw the harnesses out, as well as most of the dildos too.
I eventually found the edited by mod Pegging Harness online, and we are now using that harness along with 2 of my partners favorite dildos, edited by mod, and she absolutely loves it when we use them, and our sessions can last for several hours, i put this down to the dildo has no capability of Cumming so she can do it all night long if she really wanted to.
I have always been into Anal Play, and she has always known this, but has always been reluctant to participate, either her doing it on me, or her receiving it from me, so i have had to go without because i am not really into using toys like butt plugs in my anus, that doesn’t appeal to me, i prefer to be pegged with a dildo, and until recently she has not really wanted to do it for me, but now she has come around and we have been trying it out, but not that successfully, especially if i have not taken a warm water enema before hand, as it can be quite messy, even a few hours after an enema it can still be messy, so to me, it would seem like that i need to do the enema within at least 30 minutes to 1 hour prior, not several hours.
She has also indicated that she might be willing to try some mild anal play using a few of ther other vibrating sex toys first, then working up to me using the harness and a suitably sized dildo to peg her with, so now i am thinking of buying her a smaller 7" edited by mod dildo to try out first.
We both realize and understand most of what we need to be careful of, but for her, the cleanliness issue is her main concern, as well as mine too.

If anyone has anything to add to the above, as in any advice etc, it would be more than appreciated.

Cheers, and thanks for reading.

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Hi and welcome to the forum @bridgyguy :blush:

I’m afraid I can’t help with your questions, but I’m editing your post to remove the other brands you’ve named - it’s against forum rules to name LH competitors :blush:

I’m sure other forum members will be able to give you advice :+1:t2:

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Hi there, my profound apologies for brqand naming, i did read the forum rules, but may have miss that part, so all good, and thank you.

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Welcome, it sounds like you’ve worked things out for yourself with the douching. Doing it hours in advance just defeats the purpose and don’t over do it. You only need to clean 7" worth, not your whole colon, doing it too much adds too much water and thats going to make things messier for you. I would recommend increasing your fibre intake, get yourself a good balance of soluble and insoluble fibre, research the difference for which is better for your body. This will help keep things cleaner for you.

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As above, the douching is the best thing you can do an hour or two before. Make sure you give it a good shave/wax if possible too as this can make things a bit messier.

The only other big bits of advice is make sure you use a decent anal lube and go slow and steady. If you both have a safe word that you can use, make sure this is ready so anyone is able to stop whenever they are concerned.

Anal is one of them things which can get messy at times, it’s just part of the human anatomy. Just take it easy and relax. I’m sure you’re doing a great job at staying clean so enjoy it. Also use a smooth dildo! Try and avoid anything with big ridges or bumps as they tend to cling on to stuff

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Enemas in my experience upsets my bowels to the point it gets quite messy. Maybe i used too much water but i never found them useful.
There are 2 things you need to do to ensure there is no mess.

  1. Have a bowel movement. This empties the rectum (lower part of the anus).
  2. The sigmoid colon is the part where poop is “stored” before moving into the rectum. When it moves down this is the feeling you get that you need a poop. You need to empty the sigmoid also because anal play will trigger the sigmoid to empty into the rectum.

I usually empty my bowles first then use a butt plug an hour before any anal play. Inserting the plug in and out a few times and rinsing the plug and wiping myself in between insertions will ensure the rectum is totally clean. However when walking around and clenching on the plug will trigger the sigmoid to empty after a while. I then repeat the insertion/rinsing routine until all is clean. Re-insert the plug for another while and walk around will ensure the sigmoid is totally empty. Then you are almost guaranteed no mess.

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Just get rubber gloves and lube, stick your finger in, and gently remove anything by hand, bin the glove, thoroughly wash hands. Jobs a good one. It only takes a minute or two to have the whole passageway clean as a whistle.
I know some people are squeamish about this, but if you are open enough to stick toys in, it isnt too much of a step to clean it with a lubed gloved finger.

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Hey welcome to the forum sir!

So anal play and getting prepped for it can be quite a routine but sounds like you’re on the right track. Always best to leave a good few hours after an enema before play to allow things to settle, Try not to eat a massive meal or sorts before hand, and depending how deep your penetrating it’s good to keep in mind the anatomy of your anus as if it’s only a smaller dildo of say up to 7” in length then you don’t need that much water to clean out your lower intestine…

Many when it comes to cleaning down there tend to use too much water and it breeches into the upper intestine which then starts off a full cleansing and that can take a good hour or so to fully flush out once started.
Bizarrely if you was to look on some porn sites you might come across a few helpful videos of people explaining and demonstrating how best to douche before anal :slightly_smiling_face:

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Ok, this may be a little too anatomically graphic for some readers and no need to reply to any points I make but you mention medical conditions and meds.

If your stool is firm it should be no problem to have clean anal sex. A quick douche should be all that is needed to flush out anything you can’t push out yourself. Wait a little bit and have one more expulsion that may have worked it’s way down from movement. If you are soft or liquid it is way harder to get a clean flush because it can hold in the various nooks and crannies of the rectum. Health, meds, and excessive alcohol can all have this affect. It can still be done but takes more flushing and more expulsion after some movement each time which does take away from “the moment”.

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For sure give it a go

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Hi there again, ok so i have an Enema Syringe that is a tube about 5" long which has a small bulb on one end with thin holes in it for the water jets, the other end has a large rubber bulb that you fill with warm water, so i take a shower, i have a 1 litre plastic jug with warm water and i squeeze the rubber bulb to remove all of the air inside, and then i insert the needle end into the jug of water and it will suck the water into the bulb until it is full, i then insert the syringe end into my anus about 3 to 4" and slowly squeeze the bulb until the water is being held inside my anus, i remove the syringe, and then push the water out of my anus, and in most cases there will be a bit of a mess the first couple of times that i do this, once i see no more mess, i stop.

This procedure seems to confine the water to my main anal area, and not entering part further up inside me, and it usually takes about 4 lots of water before i am totally clean.

My partner refuses to participate in any of our anal play (pegging me with our harness and dildos etc) unless i am clean, and personally i don’t blame her, even i hate the thought of having a mess during these intimate moments, for me it takes away the passion and the thrill of it all.

We don’t use a dedicated “Anal Lube” we use our water based massage oil (its a clear odorless natural product with no chemicals or perfumes added) as it seems to work a lot better with our silicone and TPE based dildos and other vibrating toys that my partner has in her box.

We both have our own favorite pegging dildo, she has an 8.5" silicone based rechargeable vibrating one that has a textured surface and we use when i peg her in the pussy (no anal as yet but working on it) or for when she uses on her own to masturbate with, and i prefer my 9" TPE non vibrating dildo as it is smoother for me in the anus, especially using the massage oil.

For us, sex is usually always a spontaneous thing, but we are now trying to work out a way of being able to manage things in regards to me having my Enemas prior to our hookups.

Cheers everyone