This is my first post on the forums, also a new customer from the site. I have only just bought my first male sex toys, a prostate massager and the Tracey Cox Supersex Stroker. I have some issues with the stroker. Now this may sound odd, but I find it quite painful to slip inside. I have lubed myself up, applied plenty of lube to the actual toy. However when I try to slip in, I dont have much success, it just feels like its trying to peel my foreskin off (I'm not circumcised). I can eventually get it on and when I do its pretty good, but its painful getting to this point. The applied to the ridge side and the knobbly side.
My question is, has anyone else experianced this? Am I just abnormal that this is occuring? Am I supposed to wear a condom (I haven't been)? Does it need stretching out?
Does anyone have any suggestions? For refence I was using Durex lubricant and used it in the bath after having warmed if up in hot water.
Thanks in advance for any assistance anyone can provide.
I may have some ideas. Firstly, using this stroker in the bath with Durex lube is not the best idea. Durex lubricant is water based and therefore, water soluble. (It dissolves and rinses away in water, becoming useless) If the bath water is washing away your lubricant, this will cause a lot more friction.
Secondly, it is possible for some strokers to just be too tight for some men, and although you have not explained exactly which stroker you have, (there are 2 Tracey Cox Supersex strokers) I am going to guess you may have the "Tracey Cox Supersex, Super Tight stroker" This one:
For guys with larger penises, or problems such as phimosis, really tight strokers can be painful. This is definitely possible and it happens.
Suggestions:
Turn the stroker almost in half, like you are folding half of it back over the other half (Kinda like when you join a pair of socks together) then place lube all over your penis and the stroker, place your head slightly inside and then fold back the stroker over your penis. This might allow you to use it without the extra long initial stroke required to fully insert your penis.
Also try getting a thicker water based lubricant, as this may help too. (I recommend Sliquid Dude Lube H2O or Sliquid Sassy) and also avoid using it in the bath, so you do not wash away, or dilute the lube with steam or water.
Alternatively, if nothing works and it remains uncomfortable, remember that Lovehoney have a great returns policy, so you can always return it and try something else. heres the returns policy info: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/help/returns-policy/
Thank you for your reply. Its much appreciated :) I figured a bath was a good way to relax (I also enjoy baths anyway). I'll try in the bedroom next time with the same lube. I also bought some of the Maximus Anal lube for my prostate massager so I may give that a go as well.
In regards to the folding over technique you described, I didnt think to try that so I shall give it a go :)
I guess I should probobly go to the doctors in regards to my foreskin, to see if there is anything they can do. Its fine during masturbation and sex so I never saw it as much of a problem. I should not have googled the term, it has me worried now haha.
We are all a lovely bunch of coconuts have fun & enjoy LH x
Fluff is a wise old bird great advice again babe x
Thank you KinkyFuckery, I have taken the initiation test. I only came to the site looking to buy a Prostate Massager (based on a recomendation from forum), but ened up adding extras to the basket.
Thank you for your reply. Its much appreciated :) I figured a bath was a good way to relax (I also enjoy baths anyway). I'll try in the bedroom next time with the same lube. I also bought some of the Maximus Anal lube for my prostate massager so I may give that a go as well.
In regards to the folding over technique you described, I didnt think to try that so I shall give it a go :)
I guess I should probobly go to the doctors in regards to my foreskin, to see if there is anything they can do. Its fine during masturbation and sex so I never saw it as much of a problem. I should not have googled the term, it has me worried now haha.
If your foreskin generally does not give you any pain during sex or masturbation, and does not cause any infections or pain usually, I honestly would not worry about it. My partner has severe phimosis, he only has a hole in his foreskin about the size of a pea. He cannot retract his foreskin at all, ever. Not a chance to even partially retract it, yet he has got to 30 years old without too much bother, aside from occasionally pulling it back a bit too far during sex and causing small tiny tiny little tears that sting for a day then heal up. The problem is he was not very sexually active before he met me, and so now he has lots of little tiny scars due to teeny tears and it means his skin is even less elastic and tears more. He is having a circumsision soon as he tried creams but they did nothing for him.
I honestly think it was the stroker/lube/bath combination in your case and I reckon it is either just a tight stroker for you, if you are large, or the lube wasn't enough. xx Don't panic. Sorry I scared you x
Thank you for your reply. Its much appreciated :) I figured a bath was a good way to relax (I also enjoy baths anyway). I'll try in the bedroom next time with the same lube. I also bought some of the Maximus Anal lube for my prostate massager so I may give that a go as well.
In regards to the folding over technique you described, I didnt think to try that so I shall give it a go :)
I guess I should probobly go to the doctors in regards to my foreskin, to see if there is anything they can do. Its fine during masturbation and sex so I never saw it as much of a problem. I should not have googled the term, it has me worried now haha.
If your foreskin generally does not give you any pain during sex or masturbation, and does not cause any infections or pain usually, I honestly would not worry about it. My partner has severe phimosis, he only has a hole in his foreskin about the size of a pea. He cannot retract his foreskin at all, ever. Not a chance to even partially retract it, yet he has got to 30 years old without too much bother, aside from occasionally pulling it back a bit too far during sex and causing small tiny tiny little tears that sting for a day then heal up. The problem is he was not very sexually active before he met me, and so now he has lots of little tiny scars due to teeny tears and it means his skin is even less elastic and tears more. He is having a circumsision soon as he tried creams but they did nothing for him.
I honestly think it was the stroker/lube/bath combination in your case and I reckon it is either just a tight stroker for you, if you are large, or the lube wasn't enough. xx Don't panic. Sorry I scared you x
I had a little more success today. I woke up early to try it using the sock technique you mentioned and it was rather pleasant.
Sorry for the slightly personal question now, but you mentioned your partner suffered from the issue and is due to have a circumcision and had tried creams. Where the creams prescribed by a GP? I occasionaly has some discomfort during intercourse, usually because the condom has gone under my foreskin and begun rubbing. I am going to make an appointment with my GP none the less and see what he says.
I found the supertight.striker a little too tight aswell, I got in there after a lot of effort but using it made me shake due to it rubbing so hard on the head of my penis lol, couldn't actually carry on. I also have the pink double sided one and find this a lot better, although I still get the same feeling on the ridge side, the knobbly side works perfect. Cover the smaller end with your thumb, then put a dollop of lube in and make sure it's worked round the whole thing. Then put more on yourself. I find stretching it over works instead of trying to push my way in. You may simply be too big for it, or the lube isn't working too well, either way try different lubes/techniques of getting in, and if it doesn't work you could always send it back :)
Thank you for your reply. Its much appreciated :) I figured a bath was a good way to relax (I also enjoy baths anyway). I'll try in the bedroom next time with the same lube. I also bought some of the Maximus Anal lube for my prostate massager so I may give that a go as well.
In regards to the folding over technique you described, I didnt think to try that so I shall give it a go :)
I guess I should probobly go to the doctors in regards to my foreskin, to see if there is anything they can do. Its fine during masturbation and sex so I never saw it as much of a problem. I should not have googled the term, it has me worried now haha.
If your foreskin generally does not give you any pain during sex or masturbation, and does not cause any infections or pain usually, I honestly would not worry about it. My partner has severe phimosis, he only has a hole in his foreskin about the size of a pea. He cannot retract his foreskin at all, ever. Not a chance to even partially retract it, yet he has got to 30 years old without too much bother, aside from occasionally pulling it back a bit too far during sex and causing small tiny tiny little tears that sting for a day then heal up. The problem is he was not very sexually active before he met me, and so now he has lots of little tiny scars due to teeny tears and it means his skin is even less elastic and tears more. He is having a circumsision soon as he tried creams but they did nothing for him.
I honestly think it was the stroker/lube/bath combination in your case and I reckon it is either just a tight stroker for you, if you are large, or the lube wasn't enough. xx Don't panic. Sorry I scared you x
I had a little more success today. I woke up early to try it using the sock technique you mentioned and it was rather pleasant.
Sorry for the slightly personal question now, but you mentioned your partner suffered from the issue and is due to have a circumcision and had tried creams. Where the creams prescribed by a GP? I occasionaly has some discomfort during intercourse, usually because the condom has gone under my foreskin and begun rubbing. I am going to make an appointment with my GP none the less and see what he says.
Thanks for your help, I appreciate it
Yes they were steroid creams prescribed by the GP. I would make the appointment then and see what your doctor advises xx
I have also tested the same stroker and can at least add that you could try to heat it almost a bit too hot hehe. Most materials like rubber and such are less elastic when they are cold, heating it up in some hot water will make it a littlebit more elastic. However, I most say that I do find it to be a bit too tight and give a bit too much stimulation (making it painful).
However, since I got one of these "delay creams" as a toy tester I have tested this with the stroker, adding tiny bit of it will make you still feel but can remove the painful part of it all since it has numbed you some. Just something for you to test.
I just wanted to add I have had far more success today. I didnt need to use the sock technique, I simply slipped in (no discomfort what so ever). I didnt use the two lubes I had, I gave it a whirl with some baby oil and that seemed to be just the ticket. I'm so glad I bought it as one of my first sex toys :)
I have to say I like the ridged side the most, though I get a little bit too eager and finish rather early haha. I'll have to start controlling my self more.
Morthius, do you have a link to the product you are refering to?
I just wanted to add I have had far more success today. I didnt need to use the sock technique, I simply slipped in (no discomfort what so ever). I didnt use the two lubes I had, I gave it a whirl with some baby oil and that seemed to be just the ticket. I'm so glad I bought it as one of my first sex toys :)
I have to say I like the ridged side the most, though I get a little bit too eager and finish rather early haha. I'll have to start controlling my self more.
Morthius, do you have a link to the product you are refering to?
Be careful using baby oil with that stroker. I don't exactly know what materials have been used to make that stroker, but oil is damaging to any rubber materials. (Hence why you should not use oil based lubricants with condoms, diaphrams and rubber toys.) Just saying that, potentially, you might get a shorter shelf life from the toy. It may split easier or just...get damaged easier. I would recommend water based lubes, but upgrade from Durex to something more substantial.
I have had one of thease for 2 years now and I threw it away yesterday as I destroyed it ;)
I am a 7-8 inch L by about 2-3 inch W erect (depends how im feeling), I used to think "damn, I am not going to fit in there" but what I started doing, is first start yourself off so your up to 1/2 mast (as I like to call it), then, put some Maximus anal lube in the big end of the stroker, then, put your tip in and give it a little twist till it coats the inside (This is in the big end) once you start to do this push through till about 1/2 way through the toy.
then, with lube over you and the toy you will fined it a lot easyer to go in the small corect end.
I went to the doctors today to see what they could do. I'm being refered to the hospital to the Urology department with a view to having it pulled back. The doc said that I would be knocked out and they would pull it back so sort it all. I will have to be out for it as it would be very painful to have it any otherway, even with a local anesthetic according to the doc. Once that is done it should be right as rain :D
See this is what is great about these forums. It's like our own version of Embarressing Bodies. Without writing this thread you'd probably have suffered in silence forever. But by others sharing their experiences you don't need to. Hurrah!
