Girls have all the luck with underwear, there's so many different styles and designs and almost all of them look and feel *amazing*. And what do guys get? Black pair of boxers. Booooring! So I do have quite afew pairs of girls undies and I do occasionally wear them out, or to work, and it feels fantastic :D Especially a well fitting thong.
Tights, holdups etc feel great on as well, but I don't wear those very often. I would only wear them on request or if I was feeling particularly kinky, but when on that cold, sheer feeling is totally unique.
So yay for guys in girls clothes, viva la gender revolution eh?
i feel i want to try the cross dressing thing but so far have only tried underwear and night clothes that i occasionally wear to bed. they feel so comfy and nice and like you said there is more of a choice.
but i dont think ill ever go to the full on CD bit and wouldnt do it in front of any partner i get, unless she suggested it.
i feel i want to try the cross dressing thing but so far have only tried underwear and night clothes that i occasionally wear to bed. [...] i dont think ill ever go to the full on CD bit and wouldnt do it in front of any partner i get, unless she suggested it.
Why not? I mean, why be with somebody if they aren't open to hearing your desires respectfully? You'd hear your partner's, wouldn't you?
I've gone out with girls before who felt that being feminine (and by that I mean including heels, make-up, or pretty things) into their lives was "conforming to the stereotype" and refused point blank. They never lasted.
I like pretty things. I like make-up and heels and silkyness and I don't care about stereotypes. And I'd cheer on anyone, male OR female, who felt the same.
I like all the feminine stuff, if I'm in the mood for it or going out. but usually I'm just slobbing around in baggy jeans and Metallica or New Model Army (or my best one, South Park) T-shirts. No make-up, hair tied back in a low ponytail at the back of my neck, no jewelry except for the multiple piercings in my ears and nose ring. A lot of peole label me as a dyke, but if I'm just talking to the lads down the pub, or slobbing round the house, no one really cares. My male friends who dress the same as me find it much easier to talk openly to me aswell when I'm not "dolled" up. They just see me as "one of them", not a "chick in the blokes crowd".
My OH hates it when I go out looking like a man and not flaunting what I've got, but hell, I think he'd rather I was talking to the guys about general stuff like music rather than being in a skimpy dress where they just drool all over me and think about my body. I find I get distanced a lot when I wear my dresses and skirts with them, cuz they feel uncomfortable about me being "sexy" in front of them. If that makes any sense.
I remember a few years ago when I was first diagnosed with long-term clinical depression and I had to see a phsychiatrist. He came from India and was used to seeing women as objects and pretty things on your arm. This did not go well in his attempt at helping me. "Go out, get a haircut, get some make-up on, buy some nice clothes for yourself and you will feel much better!"
Geh! Kill Shrink.
You sound perfectly happy with yourself. People who refuse pretty things coz of a stereotype are more the people with problems I think.
There's definitely a time and a place for dressing up, I agree with you Avrielle_Aniko. I've gone out with girls who dress up for everything, I mean even going into work they'd spend half an hour putting on makeup and choosing clothes. Takes it a bit too far imo, I'm happy to be with someone who's happy to throw on some clothes and get out the door :D
Why dont you really go for it on a night out to see a musical - theres always loads of guys skinny and large in corsets, stockings and stilettos galore whenever ive been to see the musicals rocky horror picture show and priscilla!
both amazing shows btw - you'll lose your voice singing and jason donovan has better legs than me grrrr!
I salute your commitment to kinkiness my friend! I think people should explore all the weird and wonderful ways there are to get their kicks (I know I do!)
I get the urge to cross dress too...I love wearing boxers and I have a favourite fantasy that involves me wearing a suit and trillby and taking two gorgeous ladies for the night ;) *sigh*
Ooh, very interesting fantasy! Never thought of that one before :) I can see the attraction to it though. Save, sophisticated, very cool, in control. And a hat, don't forget the hat!
Heh, I'm only ever with people who approve and support all of who I am. Otherwise, for me there's no point. Since I can't be somebody I'm not, there's no point in my trying to change my sexuality just to fit in with somebody's ideas of what they think is right for them. It's not like I'm providing a sexual service and have to provide what the client wants, so if somebody doesn't approve and support all of my sexuality, then I'm out of there.
So what if they don't expect it? Tell them gently. In my experience, if they are respectful to you about that, then they are likely to be respectful to you about other stuff too. Conversely, I also find that if they're disrespectful about that, then they're likely to be disrespectful to you about other stuff too.
Elle-Scotland wrote:
Avrielle_Aniko wrote:
I remember a few years ago when I was first diagnosed with long-term clinical depression and I had to see a phsychiatrist. He came from India and was used to seeing women as objects and pretty things on your arm. This did not go well in his attempt at helping me. "Go out, get a haircut, get some make-up on, buy some nice clothes for yourself and you will feel much better!"
Geh! Kill Shrink.
You sound perfectly happy with yourself. People who refuse pretty things coz of a stereotype are more the people with problems I think.
Although I agree that most mental health professionals should be taken out and dismembered, I do think there is something significantly right in advising somebody to go out, get pampered a bit such as with a haircut, get some new clothes of your choice which you feel comfortable and confident in, and usually, I find that can help in the short term.
On the other hand, I totally agree that the outward appearance is a symptom of the inner being, not the cause, so I agree that changing the appearance of unwellness is unlikely to change the cause or the fact of it.
Ok, end of ramble. Stay tuned for more exciting rambles coming soon to an internet near you! :p
I salute your commitment to kinkiness my friend! I think people should explore all the weird and wonderful ways there are to get their kicks (I know I do!)
I get the urge to cross dress too...I love wearing boxers and I have a favourite fantasy that involves me wearing a suit and trillby and taking two gorgeous ladies for the night ;) *sigh*
xxKPxx
I've had thoughts like that before! For me it's a top hat and tails though.
Every time I shop for a job interview I really want to get a proper three-piece suit. Trousers, waistcoat and jacket. I can really clearly see myself on the morning of the interview choosing a tie in a strong colour the suits me. I never do because the point of the interview is to get the job and showing up dressed like that is unlikely to impress.
One of these days I'll have a spare £100 and I'll get a proper tailored suit. If nothing else it'll satisfy the fantasy!
I salute your commitment to kinkiness my friend! I think people should explore all the weird and wonderful ways there are to get their kicks (I know I do!)
I get the urge to cross dress too...I love wearing boxers and I have a favourite fantasy that involves me wearing a suit and trillby and taking two gorgeous ladies for the night ;) *sigh*
xxKPxx
I've had thoughts like that before! For me it's a top hat and tails though.
Every time I shop for a job interview I really want to get a proper three-piece suit. Trousers, waistcoat and jacket. I can really clearly see myself on the morning of the interview choosing a tie in a strong colour the suits me. I never do because the point of the interview is to get the job and showing up dressed like that is unlikely to impress.
One of these days I'll have a spare £100 and I'll get a proper tailored suit. If nothing else it'll satisfy the fantasy!
For me it's men's casual wear, urban fashion, some hip hop styles too, I LOVE mens clothes always have, I'm a feminine person but I'm very aware of my male and female side - I think everyone has both sides but we don't all recognise it, at least I've alays been aware of both my sides. I'm straight but I love wearing male clothing sometimes. Don't think I'd fancy a suit or a top hat and tails tho - my boy side is more casual lol cross dressing is fun, I think anyone who enjoys it should go for it and just enjoy - if you are a cross dresser to what ever degree you like it, you should embrace it as part of who you are - I own several male items of clothing and I'm building my collection, I like next, burtons, Hugo Boss, River Island... I sometimes mix male jeans andshoes with a female top as well I love playing around with clothes. My wardrobe is half male half female, its a reflection of my two sides and I think I have them in perfect balance, when you get to that stage it feels great because theres both sides of you in harmony. Only downside for me is I'm short, so I have a problem finding stuff to fit me sometimes! Sizes small to medium usually fit and I realy like doing it. Sometimes I wear a skirt, sometimes I wear trousers, I just dress as I please and entirely for my own pleasure. It IS hard to tell people when you first get to know someone I usually wait a long time before I say that I also like wearing men's clothes but more often than not I've had a very positive reaction - and sometimes exes of mine have given me stuff too! I love cross dressing. And I think if you want to, you should!External Media
my gf is trans-gender and i find it such a turn on when she is all dressed up in sexy undies and a tight dress. Its one of the things that attracted me to her! Knowing that she is feeling sexy and confident gives me a huge lift, I do draw the line though and we dont share undies!
Although I agree that most mental health professionals should be taken out and dismembered, I do think there is something significantly right in advising somebody to go out, get pampered a bit such as with a haircut, get some new clothes of your choice which you feel comfortable and confident in, and usually, I find that can help in the short term.
Hmmm. Well, you are entitled to your opinion I suppose, but I've never been one for being girly. Its only recently I've started wearing dresses ect. For all my life up to about 2-3 years ago I've always been the pure tomboy.
I am also completely ungirly. I own no dresses at all and won't. I also do no heels or frills, ever. I visit the hairdresser approximately once every couple of years. The only makeup I use is lipstick. I don't primp. I get dressed and that's it. But that's beside the point.
Pampering can include all sorts, including the haircut of your choice and the clothes of your choice. I didn't specify gender slant, just whatever you feel comfortable in, which could be anything. Where did I specify anything "girly" in my post?
50's style trouser suit with braces!!! must have the braces :-)
Hell yeah! I don't know if you've ever seen the epispde of Ally Mcbeal when Ling dressed as a 50s man for a swing dance competition but I fell head over heels for her dressed like that! I'm no Lucy Liu but I think it'd be damn good fun to try the outfit!!!
Although I agree that most mental health professionals should be taken out and dismembered, I do think there is something significantly right in advising somebody to go out, get pampered a bit such as with a haircut, get some new clothes of your choice which you feel comfortable and confident in, and usually, I find that can help in the short term.
Hmmm. Well, you are entitled to your opinion I suppose, but I've never been one for being girly. Its only recently I've started wearing dresses ect. For all my life up to about 2-3 years ago I've always been the pure tomboy.
I am also completely ungirly. I own no dresses at all and won't. I also do no heels or frills, ever. I visit the hairdresser approximately once every couple of years. The only makeup I use is lipstick. I don't primp. I get dressed and that's it. But that's beside the point.
Pampering can include all sorts, including the haircut of your choice and the clothes of your choice. I didn't specify gender slant, just whatever you feel comfortable in, which could be anything. Where did I specify anything "girly" in my post?
Ah, ok. I get that. But sadly the doctor who suggested, did mean for me to be wearing dresses and make-up and girly stuff.
And just as sadly, I agree that many mental health professionals should be taken out and dismembered, as I said before. I'm really sorry you had to endure that from him. What a scumbucket. :/
