Can you please share your thoughts about using strap on to satisfy wife. I bought one but not used yet have told misses she was ok with the idea I come too quickly I want to fulfill her and make her feel good. Are there any possible side effects on relationship and sex life I am ok with the Iidea as long as it works. Any of u got similar experience. Any recomendations etc
Planning to use natural then near the edge swap to strapon and back to real and so on.
Is it good idea?
Please express your thoughts men n women both welcome
I haven't used a strapon on my OH, however I have bought a couple of dildos to use on her. They're both bigger than me (one only slightly, one MASSIVELY) and we've had no problems.
She likes me using them on her, but it's not like she prefers them to me or anything and I can still bring her to orgasm without them. To be honest, I get off on using them on her as well (they're black and she's really pale. Gorgeous combination).
So yeah. My biggest recommendation would be, use they to ENHANCE your sex life. Don't make your sex life about them. Don't use them all the time, only as a kind of, special treat if you like. If your wife loves you and cares for you, she will still enjoy sex with you and prefer you to the toys anyway.
Good luck and I hope you both have fun with the toy. :)
I bought this one. http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=3062 out of necessity due to health probs. Fun to use but OH doesn't really enjoy so it gets limited use. Helped me through a difficult patch which really isn't the same as yours. Good luck with your one.. Suggest using a condom with it and plenty lube. Vibrations are good with the one I purchased.
We have a double strap on and a single. Oh uses the double and the single on me and I use the single on him :) Never had any problems at all and Oh has used them on me for a few years. Personally I prefer the double, but I love Dp so that's just me !
I have a number of harnesses and dildo's which me and my boyfriend use together and they're great, we love them!
Strap-on play is excellent, providing you and your wife are both up for it then there shouldn't be any problems. I found it really nerve - racking the first time we used it, but we just went slow and it was fine!
I agree with some of the above comments, use them sensibly and include them in your normal sex life, don't let them take over! But when used for fun and in a happy relationship you should have no problems at all! In fact, they might even enhance your sex life and make it better!
I also have to say, do use plenty of lubrication! I don't use condom's with mine, because I don't see the need - but if you want to then that's fine! Plenty of water based lubricant and you'll be well on the way!
We've found that they have actually added to our relationship on so many different levels. At first yes we we're both nervous about using one but it soon turned into fits of laughter before all i will say is a very long night of enjoyable sex that we still talk about now as one of our memorable sexual moments. We've also invested in different strap-on's which give both of us different sensations.
I think that it's trial and error with what both of you will enjoy, but good look and enjoy the new adventures.
Never used one with a partner but have had partner's use dildos and vibrators on me and it is an ehancement to sex, not a replacement. It is key with toys though that you start slow so you know how much she can take and what angles work best. I think you recognizing that she would enjoy more penetration when you have stated you tend to come quickly it being a great partner and wanting her to enjoy more. Kudos and I say go for it!
My wife and I have more sex toys than we can possibly really need. Vibrators and dildos of all shapes and sizes, some very large ones and we also have some vac u lock strap one as well. These toys get used both on my wife vaginally and anally and also on me anally. They certainly don't endanger our relationship in terms of love, affection and respect for each other in fact the opposite is true. Not only do we both get extreme pleasure from the act in terms of both the giving and receiving but it also brings us even more closer and trusting of each other.