Hi AlyBlue, I like glass because it can be warmed or cooked to your pleasure (if you're tight I'd recommend warming it gently first in warm water), for me I like a curved dildo so it hits my g spot (yum!) not my cervix (ouch). The more curve, the better for me. Glass is solid and inflexible so if you like a firm pressure on your g spot then it's ideal. I like softer material on my clit though as I'm uber sensitive there.
Angle wise, I lay on my back and push vibrators firmly against my g spot so I don't tend to use anything too lengthy. Like I say, the angle is key so a nice curved vibrator is a must. I've reviewed the LH black Silicone g spot vibrator, that's great as it's very curved!
Sex wise, doggy style can be painful but spooning is fantastic. I also like to lie on my back, he's on his side facing me, and he penetrates me and I fling my legs over him. He or I can stimulate my clit that way, I can reach over and stroke his balls and we both get a good view of each other, but he doesn't go in too deep.
Missionary is also good but careful not to raise your legs too high or it deepens penetration (ouch again!)
Hope that helps, try googling sex positions for smaller vaginas and see if there are any new positions you could try! In fact I think i might do the same!! Xx
Lol I didn't check that last message very well - glass can be warmed or COOLED, not cooked!!! 😂
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Lol I didn't check that last message very well - glass can be warmed or COOLED, not cooked!!! 😂
Ouchy lol
😂😂i had a giggle at this one too💗xx
Aly i am not sure of uour ages but he sounds a bit immature and selgish TBH
My partner will often times bring me to orgasm with oral sex, fingering or a toy prior to penetration... that is just ss part of sex as actual intercourse. Maybe w ork on extending foreplay as he may just not know what to do?
I'm honestly wondering how this 'fix' works because I suffer from the same problem as Aly does and to be honest I really don't want to go down that road anymore (having pain for the first few minutes) as it put a huge strain on my previous relationship (penetration ended up being a no-go..). It's an issue that has made (and still makes) me feel insecure and I know that feeling that way only makes it even worse, which is extremely frustrating because it made me put penetration off despite me really wanting to try and enjoy that again..
The thing is though.. if I come then my muscles will contract so much that it's not possible to put anything in anymore. I'm sure that's not just me seeing as that's how orgasms work but then how does having an orgasm first help? Do you just wait for your muscles relax again? I've heard this advice several times but I haven't really tried putting it into action yet.
Slinky Binky & Lilmisshottie - ye going to try GG's idea of inticing and making opening me up sound sexy and see his response, if not good i'll convey my feelings in a nice by full way. Seeing him tomorrow so will have a go then :), All the guys in my past (apart from a one time night couple of hours with a mate during the summer) haven't cared about my pleasure, so in a sad way I'm sorta used to it, but I (now) know the sexual pleasure should be mutual. Ye, it sucks when you just know they arent't into it, i honestly normally just switch to playing with him when i feel that he isn't as its turn on for me turning him. (which i know is bad to do most the time). Lilmisshottie; I love him, its just working out the sexual kinks in the chain sort of thing, anything you'd suggest to entice him to do more foreplay? Thank you <3 x
Sexybabe - So do you have your glass toy with a carrot and two potatoes then ;) haha. So the curved one help you find/hit the gspot then? thanks for the advice. Will google it too, but sounds like the spooning position is really comfortable and means he can play with my boobs at the same time, and the other ones means I can play with him too. Thank you so much you really have helped :D <3 <3 I'll message if I get any good ones :) xx
Hmmm....I am tempted to try the glass toy, as heating it up a bit might also help with the tightness thing and relax me more. (The wand bit I'm already on ;) heaven! And persuaded OH to try it on me and he seems to be loving my reaction :P so could use that and glass at same time as you suggest (though would gladly take his fingers instead, would be good to try :) ). So the anal lube would be better you suggest? Is that because it's made to be wetter for longer? There aint any smaller girth so might ask pander me thread. Would be worked about chipping or breaking it though....glass is fragile :/.
I'm 22 and OH is 25, that sounds nice, wanting to make you cum and play with you before sex. To be honest the foreplay in general is quite long, its just when I feel he isn't into it I can't build up and don't even come close to finishing. I catch him watching the tv sometimes...(that really doesn't impress me and I literally just stop him and tell him i'm not building up, so we cuddle instead or I finish him. I've told him if he got handsy and a little dominant and could feel he wanted, even a bit of dirty talk and tell me what to do I'd cum....but he's only tried that once really (he got a very good response from me though), but hasn't tried again. I've literally put his hand down there when i'm horny and he just left it on my leg :(. Any advice for getting him wanting to do more foreplay on me? x
It really upsets me as a man to hear of other men not trying to please their sexual partner or worse not considering their pleasure. It almost makes me angry to think their the same sex as me.
As I have got older giving pleasure and seeing the effects of the pleasure I administer is what turns me on. I love , no lust and desire to give multiple orgasms. Particularly when giving oral. A woman's body is like a open flower feeding its nectar to the hungry hummingbird.. I become insatiable for it. I know I get carried away as I get pushed away and asked to stop.
I don't like orgasming to I've given one at least. So often my own orgasm signal's the end of the session.
I do like it when the roles are switched occasionally.
Alyblue I do feel in time for you that you will loosen . your young and relatively new to sex. Being tight is something that some older women wish they could get back. So be careful what you wish for so quickly.
Hands all over. You have had a bad time of it and I'm truly sorry gun. I feel you maybe suffering from vaginism. Involuntary muscle clenching to avoid pain.
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Hands all over. You have had a bad time of it and I'm truly sorry gun. I feel you maybe suffering from vaginism. Involuntary muscle clenching to avoid pain.
Thank you Gentle Giant. I am suffering from that, very true. However, I also know it's not impossible to have penetrative sex again as I have in the past and I am actually able to insert dildo's/vibrators with patience. It's just so frustrating that my muscles are trained to clench up instead of relax and that I have to be very mindful in order to relax them when I just want to get down to business :( I'm doing better already with my crush though, I noticed, so fingers crossed it will finally happen again this year..
I wish you well its just time and someone who cares enough about you to be caring , kind and gentle. So your body relearns its! about pleasure and not pain.
Hugs Gun. X