Vibe Frequency - Does it matter?

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So we are new to this… I had purchased a vibrator for my wife and I very similar to this but without the remote: https://www.lovehoney.ca/sex-toys/vibrators/clitoral-vibrators/p/we-vibe-unite-2-remote-control-rechargeable-clitoral-and-g-spot-vibrator/a37260g68821.html

My wife found it ticklish and a little silly. The vibe patterns were boring, much like the 10-settings on a flashing LED light… amateurish (much like my approach to vibrators…lol) She has a bad neck from a car accident and appreciates a deep muscle massage from a massage gun to the point where we tried, and failed, to be aroused by it (way too deep and far too much stroke to actually feel good).

That being said, are there any toys that have a lower and more intense frequency? Are they measured that way? I do not want to buy something that feels like a mosquito sounds or worse yet, something that tickles and turns her off. We are not ready for a $500 thrusting machine, but looking for advice on how to immediately rule out some Mickey Mouse tickly toys and get something that has the right frequency.

Happy to hear if I am alone in this one. I’d also like her to try a few different things but she is far shier than I am and I feel I need to get it right on the first try (or close). I’m thinking that vibrator may not be the way to go and just a textured toy to start with?

Thoughts? DM for more intimate details if needed but I am happy to hear your take as after looking through the photos of your collections, I think my mouth dropped! Thanks and happy to try some out but want to be close right out of the gate!

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Vibrations are measured by frequency, from high to low. High frequency (often referred as buzzy) vibration tends to stay more on the surface of the skin where as low frequency (rumbly) vibrations tend to penetrate deeper. It sounds like the toy you purchased is more on the higher frequency end, whereas the massage gun will be on the low end.

It is a spectrum and everyone has their own preferences as to where is best for them.

There is then strength of vibration on top, which can also make a difference to how far to one end someone can go.

However, not everyone enjoys vibration.

Unfortunately you may get it wrong a little to get it right, as it does take some trial and error before you get it right.

In terms of toys, I think you may be better off looking for ones described as rumbly. However, before I suggest toys, what kinds of stimulation does she generally like? Does she prefer clitoral stimulation or does she prefer vaginal stimulation? Or somewhere else. Is there anything she does like or that she struggles with?

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I can’t cope with vibes that pulsate or go up and down, I’m impatient, I like it as buzzy as possible with no breaks or patterns.

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@valbowski77 Well, the short answer is yes, vibe frequency can matter. But it depends on the person. Everyone has personal preferences a out this kind of thing. What works for me, may not work for her.

So, crash course in descriptions of vibrations in reviews.
Rumbly is usually used to describe vibe with a lower frequency. This kind of vibration tends to penetrate deeper into tissue and many people (but not all) prefer rumbly vibes. (Think kind of car engine)

Buzzy is usually used when a vibe has a higher frequency. These vibrations dont travel as deeply but some people prefer them. (More fly mower)

thuddy is basically things like the tango. I dont know how else to describe this but its more like tapping on the skin than the others. It kind of has a percussive quality to the vibrations.

Some people find certain frequencies numbing or uncomfortable (not exactly what your going for).
It took me quite a few bullets to work out i like rumbly vibes and i cant get off with buzzy stuff.
A couple of good vibes i can recommend you to try are the mantric bullet and the desire bullet. They are both rumbly and pretty strong, so if she wants less power this one is also nice, but less intense.

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Hope that helps a bit. It may take you a while to work out what you both like

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Good questions @Calie ! She likes nipple play and petting to start, finger insertions and shallow sex and then oral but quickly gets overwhelmed with clitoral stimulus. I think its a healthy combination of it all… I’m guessing a vaginal vibrator may be best as the lower frequency can be used on the outside or for some anal vibes. She does like it deeper when she is warmed up and even if she goes first, she likes me inside her when I go and will take it doggy style to get me deeper once she has went.

I’d like to hear what other say/do as she is unique but I’m in tune with her feelings and want to introduce something that she can use solo without the kids wondering if there is a lawnmower running in the room! LOL

Thanks!

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She may prefer a g spot vibe or a non vibrating dildo in that case. I would avoid rabbits as you dont have much choice about the clit stimulation on those. She can always mix a bullet or other toy in and then remove it when it gets too much for her that way.

@valbowski77 The desire and mantric ranges are both good (it does vary slightly so read the reviews obviously) but they tend to be rumbly (if thats what she likes)
These guys get recommended alot too
desire g spot vibe
glass beaded dildo
lifelike lover luxe silicone dildo (pretty sure this is the same shape, just cheaper)
Theres lots of other good things in there, so im sure others will drop in some suggestions too

At the end of the day, like calie said, it may take abit of experimentation to find what she likes.

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In which case, I would agree and say something for vaginal would be the way forward (although be aware that you need a flared based or a very defined bend for it to be anal safe).

I’d say look for toys that aren’t too curved or have too bulbous a head because although these are great for G Spot stimulation, there is more to the vagina than just the G Spot and as you have said, she likes both shallow and deeper penetration.

The following I think would be good starting points:

The Mantric Realistic

The Mantric G Spot (I like this one a lot and tend to use it for deeper penetration, despite the name and it is really versatile)

The Desire G Spot

The Rocks Off Giamo

The Fifty Shades Deep Inside

The Fun Factory Tiger

Rabbits aren’t a terrible idea if she likes some clitoral stimulation. They don’t always line up brilliantly with everyone’s anatomy (although it’s easier if you aren’t aiming for G Spot stimulation specifically) but if you are going down this route, look for one where you can control the internal and external arms separately so she can turn the clitoral stimulation off without turning the whole toy off.

I’d probably say stick with something that vibrates over a dildo, that way she can use it with or without vibrations and find out what works best for her. Vibrating dildos are a thing, and if you wanted to try something like that for her, I’d say get something fairly realistic that has large balls. That way she may be able to grind against them to get some clitoral stimulation. Do check sizes though, as she would need to take the full length to do this and obviously you don’t want to scare her with something too girthy.

Otherwise, maybe look at other types of toys. If she likes nipple play, maybe something like some nipple suckers or even some nipple clamps . There are plenty of options, some being much less scary looking than others, just depends what she might like.

Sensation toys like this feather tickler often work better with someone else doing it to you, but can also be fun slow. That one also has the metal ball on the end which can add some different sensations. Likewise, toys like pinwheels are great for a different type of sensation.

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OK well I committed to the https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/vibrators/g-spot-vibrators/p/mantric-rechargeable-g-spot-vibrator/a37963g70276.html
and the https://www.lovehoney.ca/p/lovehoney-magic-bullet-10-function-silver-bullet-vibrator/61000.html to use independently.

Added some extreme lube to the order to get free shipping and we will be good for an anniversary surprise come early July. Should have them in about 10 days and we will give a full review. I can’t wait to see her before and after face… it may be the same…lol

You have to start somewhere so thanks for the advice… @Green_Eyed_Girl and @Calie

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If she gets on with the mantric, chances are she will like others in the series as they use pretty similar frequencies of vibrations.

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I’d say try Wevibe such as the Tango X or a mantric one. Personally, I find Wevibe is way better but it’s a bit pricey. The rumbliness and the deepness of the vibrations makes me orgasm multiple times every time I use them.

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Obviously down to personal preferences but my wife finds high frequency buzzy vibrations ineffective and numbing. She definitely prefers powerful low frequency rumbly vibrations.

As regards patterns she didn’t used to be a fan, preferring low and medium constant speeds, but as she got more and more into masturbation with toys she began to use the patterns to edge herself for longer periods before allowing herself to come.