It’s not embarrassing or a problem to lose your virginity at the later stages in life. The best thing is your holding onto something and you haven’t wasted it on someone. I have had a lot of sexual experience but only a tiny number compared to everyone around me, and to be honest it’s been quite an attractive thing for some people because it makes you seem quite “hard to get”. But however frustrating it may seem, don’t lose yourself in this whole ideology of having to be experienced and bed 1000s of people before your good in the bedroom. One day out of the blue someone will pop up in your life, and after a few dates and getting to know them it will all just kinda happen.
Sex is great don’t get me wrong but sex with the wrong person or a list of people you regret is far worse than having to wait. The first thing I would do is ignore the virgin label and just live your life. Meet people similar to you with the same interests and find someone who actually matters. They won’t care how many people you have slept with and if you connect with them
And it all feels natural then strike up a relationship and take each step as it’s comes., just remember that what happens in porn and in the movies is usually quite far from the truth and a lot cleaner!. Your first few times may be a bit hit and miss, but communicate with your partner and have fun. No one can really give you a guide on how to have sex with someone because that’s just not how the world works, but if you focus on the fact you haven’t had sex yet then you may come across to others as a tad shy. So realise it doesn’t matter and work on your confidence, when you over crowd your thoughts with negative feelings it makes everything seem far worse.
As someone who feels sex is more than just a bit of fun, I’m quite old school and believe you should have some form of connection before a random hook up. But others may suggest otherwise, the main point is being a virgin really doesn’t matter. It isn’t embarrassing and it’s not a problem which needs solving, Iv never been rock climbing but one day I know I will... but it would be unnecessary stress to worry about it now.
I agree thats the point I wanted to get accross. Its better having sex with a person who you have feelings for . It will will feel much more natural and you will enjoy it more as she will as well.
Its not a race so just take your time in finding that person who wants to be with you and care for you .And dont let the fact that you are a virgin prevent you from doing this .
For some its also a honour in taking someones viginity so it shouldnt be anyway an embarrasment or an obstacle.
I also agree about porn . Its all exagerated and none of the romance is usually shown which is another important factor.