Want to try naturism/nudism but worried about inexperience

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So I’d really like to try naturism at some point but am worried I will struggle to separate sexual feelings from it. I understand naturism/nudism is about body positivity and celebrating nature and normalizing the human body in all its shapes and imperfections. And NOT about sex, sexuality.

However I can’t help but be worried it would be overly sexually stimulating for me. I worry I’d end up staring or somehow causing offense or making someone uncomfortable by getting turned on. Or just getting so overwhelmed with it all that I won’t relax and actually enjoy it.

I mainly worry about this because I’m in my late 20’s and am still a virgin with no sexual experience. I feel like I should wait until I’ve had the chance to explore and satisfy my sexual curiosity of the opposite sex’s body before surrounding myself with them. I believe everyone should celebrate their body and strive to feel as comfortable as possible in their skin. And I like the idea of using naturism/nudism to desexualize the body. But I worry that’s not possible while also being incredibly sexually deprived, inexperienced.

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If you put yourself in the right environment, there will be no hint of sexuality. BN and some of their events are a good place to start, as are plenty of naturist sites/ beaches around UK & Europe.

Visit sites/areas where there’s a link to sexual encounters then you’re definitely going to get aroused, but then those types of places are not true naturist environments (you will easily spot those types of places after a few google searches).

Unless you’re looking for sexual encounters, your body will not react. If it does then be discreet, cover up and the feeling will soon go away. Once you’ve been in a naturist environment for the first time there will be no looking back and the next time will be second nature.

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We don’t have as many places in the US as Europe has. Though I do know if you look hard enough they are out there.

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I love being naked, as much as possible. I’ve been to several “hot tub parties” in the past, before being married to my current wife and they were awesome. Everyone was very open and non judgmental, it felt comfortable. I never got hard but was close quite a few times when the women in the hot tub would stand up, or get out to go to the bathroom. It was an amazing experience is all I can say!!!

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Lifelong naturist here, so ask anything you want and I will try to help you.

Point 1) If you are worried now about staring for giving the wrong impression, then practice (before you go) where you are looking when about others, rather than just gazing around. Make specific eye contact when speaking directly, sounds odder than it is.

Last year a lady at work told me that I was the first colleague (since she’d recently joined) that hadn’t undressed her with their eyes and I was so respectful. A slight pause and she added “I bet you are a naturist”

Point 2) Unwanted erections is the number one FAQ that guys ask, as said above it rarely happens due to the nature of the environment. Being honest I still get an (occasional) involuntary semi even after all these years but not a full-on throbber now :rofl: Always just discreetly drape your towel in front for a bit to respect those around you.

The other people will be exactly the same, just reminder it’s not a sexual environment and even if you see a person your age that is attractive to you, then you just won’t be thinking like that, I assure you.

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Love being nude and nudist camps . Due to my upbringing and hormones when I was young , I may have had a " hard time " not getting hard . From my experience , the atmosphere at the family camps is so laid back that sexual thoughts are never a problem . AS @Simon_101 said , if you start to get hard , cover with a towel . It is a shame more people do not get to experience a nudist camp or beach .

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Long-time naturist here too, sadly don’t go to clubs/swims anymore as hubby doesn’t want to and I have nobody else to go with.

Similar to what @Simon_101 said, at truly naturist events, sex just won’t be on your mind, even around people closer to your age. That said, and from my experience, a vast majority of those in attendance are typically going to be older anyway. Why? Because they know and embrace that naturism is not about sex, and the young ones that often rock up thinking it might be a bonefest often drop out when they realise they still have to get their kit off around people not closer to their age. Some young men also get penis insecurity, and some young women worry that their man is staring at the other naked women. It doesn’t happen so much in the older generations, simply put, maybe they really are more mature.

That said, flirting and relationships through naturism kind of does happen sometimes, it’s just that sex and intimacy doesn’t. I used to swim with a guy about eight years my senior and he used to wind me up, so me being me, I gave back as good as I got. That then sparked a romantic interest between us, but I’m kinky and (predominantly) submissive so I didn’t want a “hearts and flowers” (yes, I went there. It was the easiest anology, let me off :stuck_out_tongue: ) relationship - I was looking for kink, and he was completely clueless, much less was he interested in anything other than the conventional relationship and starting a family with me. In the end it didn’t go anywhere, which is a shame, because I definitely wanted it to and often think about the cat-and-mouse chemistry we had. In all that was though, in the pool, sex never crossed our minds - in the water, it was just friendly banter. In the bar afterwards, the game was on.

All this to say, I think you’re worrying about something that is very unlikely to happen. At truly naturist events, sex just doesn’t come up (pardon the pun). People take a very dim view to you talking about sex, because naturism really is not sexual, and they see it as though you’re trying to make it so.

I wish you the very best if you ever do find the courage to pop along and say hello. We’re a friendly bunch, honest :slight_smile:

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Appreciate all the advice. I had a couple friends in college who were apart of a pseudo naturism group but I wasn’t really interested because while one of its focuses was enjoying and connecting with nature, it also heavily focused on sexual positivity and exploration in a naturist like setting. A lot of group bondage classes, bdsm, etc where they taught how to try different kinks safely and also provided a safe setting for the groups to experiment and try things together with experienced instructors to oversee them. Which was all far too out of my comfort zone. But it was always interesting how they viewed sex and sexuality like an art form to be taught and practiced together.

Honestly the idea of meeting people to spark a romantic relationship like that sounds interesting, because I feel like it would be such a more honest environment. Just by the very nature of literally not hiding anything from one another. And being in a rather vulnerable mutually trusting state to begin with.

I will admit to being surprised when I started going for massages that getting hard wasn’t really much of an issue. But I suppose that’s a similar concept, go into the environment knowing it’s not a sexual one and it just doesn’t become an issue.

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That does definitely sound very pseudo-naturism to me. There are quite a few of us who are into both but it should never be assumed that everyone who is into one will definitely automatically be into the other - whether it’s naturism or BDSM, people arrive at these things by way of consent. Unfortunately I have found in more recent years (and likely largely thanks to social media) that the kink community has kind of got an idea of who everyone is and what everyone is into, and any deviation from the norm makes you not “normal”. In actual fact, you’re perfectly normal, but you’re also individual.

The one thing to note is that it’s not somewhere people go to hook-up, but people do get attracted to one another, emotionally, at naturist events, as they do at any club. I do remember a couple who used to turn up and they were frowned upon (and I think even eventually barred) because it was obvious that they’d forgotten the water is clear. It’s not somewhere to go to hook-up, but if per chance you meet someone and the two of you decide to explore a relationship outside of club times? They can’t stop you. Don’t forget, it’s a club, not a cult - they can’t and probably won’t want to stop you being happy, as long as you keep your “happy” PG during club times.

Massage is probably a different thing: more likely and given you’re still a virgin, you’re not used to physical touch and so your body kind of had a “wahey!” moment, to put it bluntly. It happens, they’re professional, they understand :slight_smile:

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Sounds like you’ve got it all thought out logically :relieved_face:
Also to add it’s actually not that uncommon in nudist areas where you’ll see men get semi erections as that’s all natural parts of life. I’d think they all just embrace it.

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I kinda thought that may be the case since there’s a million factors that cause a hardon besides arousal.

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      I would love to be free. I remember when I was a kid and my grandmother used to dress me on the front porch every morning in the summer. Running around in my birthday suit.

     Then I grew up. I've tried a couple of nude resorts and countries that practice naturism. I can't even say it's fun it was just normal.It felt good to be swinging free.
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Absolutely agree John, the wind blowing across your naked body of the first few times may induce new sensations that could cause arousal. If you still have pubic hair, then that’s a certainty :innocent: but just as quickly it will subside. Even the anticipation and how surreal the whole scenario is may cause stirrings.

In reality there are so many sizes of penis, no-one will know if it’s slightly semi anyway, just don’t flaunt anything and remember the towel.

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Exactly :relieved_face: in the right places there’s never any judgment or obscene reactions as they just accept it and probably are more looking at your top half rather than bottom.

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You might try Maslin Beach in Australia. There is a movie about it, also.

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I take it you are based in the USA, just been to Florida, stayed at Cypress Cove and went to some good nude beaches there, particularly liked Haulover.
Otherwise find a local club, you can usually tell between a true naturist/nudist club and a ‘lifestyle’/swingers place. Get in touch and see if they run test days/open days.
Go for it, you wont regret it, we’ve been going to naturist sites for years…love it!