This is Samantha. So in the last few months, Ben has been wanting me to masturbate while he watches. We have lots of toys including dildos and vibrators but he uses them on me. I very rarly masturbate and if i do its fingers only. Nothing compares to the real thing.
My main issue is self consciousness. Iv played with myself while hes wanked over my face etc but he wants to sit opposit and watch.
I really want to do it for him but im not sure ill enjoy it. Any tips would be helpful 
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My wife has never done this with me watching but it is a great turn on and would love her to do it. To help with the self consciousness why not suggest both of you masturbating together, may be opposite each other initially. Good luck. @ben85 Samantha
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We do watch each other but usually can’t keep our hands off each other and it descends into mutual masturbation or intercourse. 
If you’re concerned about awkward eye contact maybe you could wear a blindfold initially? And go with the way that you feel comfortable. You could always use toys and accessories once you’ve done it a few times and are completely comfortable with him watching. x
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I think it depends what you’re self conscious over in order to address it eh if it’s a body image thing then maybe try something like lingerie, if you are just nervous about seeing him watching you maybe try a blindfold or dim lights, if it’s not being sure what to do then consider if he can instruct you etc.
Either way, I hope you have the best time.
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My partner is quite reserved when it comes to anything sexual, but the way I got over this is just my enthusiasm and joining in and helping her, she now feel more comfortable with me watching her orgasm wile doing solo play but I don’t push it. I see how the mood takes her but it is a lovely experience watching her play with herself. I am trying to get us to masturbate together which would be hot!!
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I dont know if I can offer any tips but I will tell you that I absolutely LOVE watching my SO masturbate. Seeing her orgasm is as good as it gets for me and while I absolutely love to be the “giver” of the orgasm, I can enjoy watching more when Im not doing anything else.
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This is something we do all the time. She loves to do it and I love to watch her.
The vast majority of her orgasms, at least one each day, are from masturbation with me watching
In fact I derive far more pleasure from watching her bring herself to orgasm than I do from coming myself.
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I enjoy watching my OH masturbate. She really relaxes into it if I’m sat opposite, out of reach, and masturbating myself. I make a thing of giving her a little show and try and act out a sexy scenario. This can bring her to a huge orgasm quite quickly, so I have to pace it 
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@ben85
It’s a weird one
As a guy I’d never be shy about wankin as my wife watches
She used to masturbate as I watched in the early days
I’d be maybe fingering her during foreplay and I would take her hand and put it on her pussy and she would take over
That hasn’t happened in years
I’ve tried a few times but she just feels self conscious I guess
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Hi this is most awesome things you do. My was I bit shy at first so I totally understand there is absolutely nothing hotter than watching your O/H masturbate to orgasm we try a make it about the journey to orgasm not the end. I run her a nice bubble bath with candles ect. So she’s relaxed and while that’s happening place candles around our room ect. When’s she relaxed and ready I have a silk eye mask she wears she relaxes and does her thing. I sit there quietly listening to her breath and body quivering. And star to masturbate also. We try and both cum together. Try this and see how you go
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Well I would say he wants to watch for a reason so fighting through the initial discomfort may be worth it in the end. I feel like there’s a deep trust and desire that comes along with doing something in front of someone you’ve always done alone.
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Samantha here. Thanks everyone. I think its the fact that i struggled with weight gain after my youngest was born and my ex would do anything he could to destroy my confidence. I will build myself up to try it and see how it goes.
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It’s worth working on! As I said in my previous post on this thread, I don’t just watch, but try and be sexy at the same time. It’s this that helps my OH relax into it. Otherwise, she’s not so keen if I just sit and stare. Perhaps encourage him to give you something to want to masturbate over? Hope it goes well, it’s fun trying 
I’d end up just awkward giggling if it was me 
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Hi, I would say the fact he is asking you, is because you are rocking his world and finds you totally attractive. Build slowly with each other and it will happen and I am sure you will both love it
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Firstly set the mood. Maybe candles, sexy lingerie, if you like.
Most importantly relax & enjoy. I think you’ll have an amazing time together.
Some really good suggestions here. You will find that once you’ve done it once, the intimacy and trust that you have between the two of you will increase.
When we first started doing this my wife was most turned-on by the fact that she could see how turned-on I was from watching her and then the fire between you builds from there, so encourage your OH to let you know how much he is enjoying it!
All the best, once you’ve taken the plunge you won’t turn back and it will just become part of your routine.
JbG
Hubby suggested this a while back and I wasn’t thrilled with the idea but played along and it turned out to be very enjoyable. My objection was to do with body confidence but he was very reassuring saying things about how great it looked and it was a turn on, etc. It progressed from just fingers to a vibrator to a full dildo show. I enjoyed watching him stroke himself and it was educational seeing how he likes his penis manipulated. I’d rate the experience an 8 out of 10!
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Some great advice already given so I hope this progresses for both of your pleasures. Both of us will masterbate for each other while watching when I travel via FaceTime. My wife will masterbate in front of me but 9 times out of 10 leads us having sex together before she finishes.
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It’s never worked for me. I’m not sure what it is - maybe it’s a self-conciousness thing for me too - but I just can’t “get there” if I know I’m being watched. Maybe subconciously it feels rude and selfish? Like why masturbate when we could me having sex? I know loads of guys love to watch, my husband loves to watch too, but he knows no matter how much of a show I put on, I’m never going to climax 
I did, however, enjoy some fun with a glass toy yesterday and sent him a message over WhatsApp that simply read “just enjoying some time with a glass toy and thinking about how good every inch of you would feel inside every inch of me”. He was in the bedroom posthaste
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