Wax play advice

Hi my wife and I would like to explore wax play. Advice and how too and where to buy please :pray:

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Hey, I don’t have any real experience in this, but the LH UK website has a guide about what kind of candles to use here :blush:

Hope that helps! (Also bear in mind that naming competing companies is against forum rules :+1:t2:)


Hi yep thanks heaps. I’ve looked on L/H for the item for sale but it’s been out of stock for 6 weeks :disappointed:

The candles sold specifically for wax play are made from lower melting point wax so they are safer as the liquid wax is cooler but you can use normal candles if you drip the wax from a greater distance so that it cools more as it falls.


Hello! Hi! Wax play enthusaiast at your beckonng. Oh boy, oh boy, yes I am! :smiley:

The best candles for wax play are soy or paraffin, as they can have the lowest melting point of all - around 130°F. You can get specialised ones from some suppliers, but any low-heat soy or paraffin candle will be fine. If you feel confident enough, you could even try making your own.

You want to start off without scents and colours, though as you get more tolerant, you can explore those options (we used to have a lush low temp paraffin candle that smelled of fresh linen :grin:). Also avoid glitters or metallic paints - most of them are tiny pieces of metal or plastic which can cause burns. Always test a candle on the inside of your arm first. If it’s tolerable there, it may be tolerable to use on other parts of your body. If not, avoid it.

Avoid beeswax! As the daughter of a late beekeeper, please please avoid beeswax. It melts much hotter and it sticks, putting you at risk of serious injury. No beeswax, m’kay?

Also avoid tealights. You know those little metal cases on them? They act like a tiny saucepan for the wax, heating it up from below while it melts from above. That’s a whole lot of heat for one little pool of paraffin, and that’s not something you want to subject your partner to! Opt for safer styles that you can hold - pillar candles are my personal favourite, but you can try dinner/taper candles, too.

Prepare the skin: baby oil is usually recommended, but we get that the scent might ruin the mood. Any good massage oil will do the same job of protecting the skin and making the wax much easier to remove afterwards.

Practice and adjust yuor tecknique. Don’t go for a straight up pour - that can be a lot of wax if you’ve never explored wax play before. Begin with dripping from far away, then move the candle close so that the drops land a little warmer. Is that okay? Let the candle burn a little, and try for a little pour. Wax pours tend to be more intense, but they’re worth it :slight_smile:

Don’t forget your fire safety: Do I really need to teach an adult about fire safety? I’d hope noi! But, just in case, keep lit candles away from curtains and fabrics, and keep something to hand to put out a fire, should you need to.

Lastly, but perhaps most importantly, agree and remember a safeword :slight_smile:

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Maybe make sure to have something down so you don’t get anything dripped on the carpets or furniture :sweat_smile:

Ive bought and used the candles from LH. both very good and a great heat level… not too hot or cold. I had vanilla and strawberry and preferred the smell of vanilla if im honest.
I did find that you have to use the candles quite quickly. We made the mistake of forgetting we had a partially used one and when we went to use it again a couple months later the wick had perished so i had to improvise and also it had lost some of its smell.
I will certainly make sure i always have a couple different ones.

As several have already mentioned, consider the temperature of the melted wax because it can vary from easy to take to owie. What no one has mentioned is the volume of wax. A large wide candle will give you lots to pour over a larger area if that is of interest.


We have used this LH candle for wax play, unfortunately it has been out of stock for a long period. It does give off a great aroma.