Any tips for letting my wife know I want to wear her panties when we're having sex. Gradually getting closer....pluck up the courage to get her to masterbate me with them now and again when she's had a few wines but really want her to see me wearing them......will work on getting her tights on after that.
Any advice welcome thanks.
Do you know yet if she's comfortable with the idea of men wearing women's lingerie? Asking just because some people don't like the idea, so might be worth finding that out first. You can bring it up in casual conversation in a way that doesn't involve you wearing her stuff, just to be safe.
If you already know that she's okay with it, then just ask her! :) You can make suggestions over time instead of immediately telling her all of the things you would like to do. It doesn't have to be something you only do when she's had some to drink. If she's alright with it or willing to experiment, she'll say yes.
Perhaps a non-intimidating way to introduce the idea is to start with thongs designed for men? To start with, they'll fit you better than women's underwear, and might allow for easier transition to women's stuff. You could even start it off as a funny/gag thing and see where that goes.
I would leave the alcohol out of the equation. If it's something she only does "after a few wines" chances are she's not entirely comfortable with it. I don't think it's fair to "work on" somebody either - it's something they are either into or okay with, or are not.
I would have a sit down discussion with her, sober, and see how she feels about it. I would lay all my cards on the table, so she can decide what she's okay with and what her limits are. I agree with above too, start with the feminine underwear designed for men.
+1 for Captainmeows spot on response.
No way of letting her know other than talking to her. Surprises are not a good idea here.
Like CaptainMeow has asked, does your wife know how much your like her underwear? Some low key comments about how sexy you find her underwear could be a easy way of leading into conversation. It was work for me.
I don't know your wife obviously but I don't find this a biggy at all. If during a sexy moment my OH took my underwear off and asked if he could try them on himself I would be up for it.
Thank for the advice everyone.
She definately knowns I like her underwear and she was cool with it when she found out I was taking her used ones out of the dirty washing. After finding that out after 18 years of being married she told me that it was a turn on for her and why didn't I tell her before now. Now,on nights out she'll disappear to the loo and take her undies off and pop them in my pocket.....obviously knows I'll be sniffing them (not everyone's cup of tea, my ex thought it was disgusting and would hide her used ones).
So, she's cool with me having her underwear for my pleasures, but hasn't seen me using them. If she ever asks what I do with them, that's when I can maybe slip them on.
CaptainCaveMan...your wife sounds pretty amazing lady so I would just ask. You sound like a very open and understanding couple.
If she's already turned on I don't think she'd mind in the slightest.
Although it's not my thing, I did once run out of clean underwear so as a joke told my OH that I would have to wear some of hers.
She found it amusing and to be honest I have to agree with those that say that the fair sex have the better choice in underwear.
The best thing to do is be open and honest. Try telling her that you saw some porn or a discussion about men wearing lingerie and you're interested in giving it a go if it's something she's comfortable with.
How about trying some male lace panties they sell here? some are very girly then once she makes comments say "well I could always wear yours?" and see what her reaction is?
I've got some lace g strings and all manner of other more girly types I've worn for years.
Like these I have in burgandy;
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=31812
I've bought nice undies for myself to wear but it's not really doing anything for me. It's my wife's stuff that is key to door so to speak. Anyone else with me on this?
Not interested in male panties, other girls/women's panties......just my wife's...on me .......even briefly for a quicky would satisfy.
We're open and honest with each other but this might be a bit of a girly request if I asked her to pop her undies on me.....girly undies on a man??!!.
I want to tell her so bad.....it's driving me crazy....
I might have to keeep it my little secret for a little longer.
Frustrated or what???
If you're looking for something for a soft warm up. Why don't you seductively take off her panties and then wrap them around your penis and masterbate sensually in front of her. Explore using her panties for pleasure and then depending on her reaction and also discussion you can start to introduce wearing them. Explain why you want to and make sure you are both open and honest xx
Hi Kitty
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herself. She put hand down
to help me and found her
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id that it turned her on. We
finished off and when she
fell asleep I put her panties
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them...... but took them off
before she woke up and so
she didn't see me this time.
Yes or no girls.......your
OH wearing your panties.....problem or not?
Hi Kitty
I recently did this
while she was masterbating herself. She put her hand down to help me and found her panties wrapped around me....to my surprise she said that it turned her on. We finished off and when she fell asleep I put her panties on.....i woke up in the morning still wearing them...... but took them off before
woke up and so she didn't see me this time.
Yes or no girls.......your OH wearing your panties.....problem or not?
Yes Captain. Both my wife and myself have bought girly undies for me from LH. The men's Lacey stuff doesn't really do it for me. The ladies did initially, but then lost it's sparkle. Now when we buy stuff for me, my wife also wears it. Problem solved. If you are at the stage where she sees you masturbating with her panties, next time just ask her if you can put them on, it really was that simple for me. If ya don't ask - ya don't get. Good luck.Captain Cave Man wrote:
I've bought nice undies for myself to wear but it's not really doing anything for me. It's my wife's stuff that is key to door so to speak. Anyone else with me on this?
Tell her you want to get into her knickers. Then when she takes them off you can put them on. She might want to get into your pants as well so you could do a swap.
We were in a girly knicker shop some time ago, I said "those are quite nice, they would fit me?" my wife bought them for me to wear, nice, but they got lost when we moved.
I'd appreciate any advice on this subject, I bought a male thong from lovehoney, and took a chance, I kept it quiet and surprised her with it one day, I made a little joke of it incase she was against it. She liked it fortunately, I have a few male thongs now, but I don't know how to move on to wearing hers, I think that may be a step too far for her
ShannonMarlene wrote:
The best thing to do is be open and honest. Try telling her that you saw some porn or a discussion about men wearing lingerie and you're interested in giving it a go if it's something she's comfortable with.
I agree with Shannon, your married so I guess you share most things. If she isn't comfortable with it then she will say so, but I think she will understand as female lingerie is so much more comfortable and sexy then men's.
I think she probably knows already!